Mooloo's New Home, New Year and New Start part 3

Savvy_sewing

Well thank goodness DGD was in a better mood all around today!. Maybe the sunshine helped.!
I had to take twin2 to her LAC review for the boys. It was a difficult one. I was allowed in on this one, the chairman, who I had met previously was very good. Sympathetic and understandable too.
It was very emotional and both twin2 and I were in tears at one point, and so was the foster mother. Bless her, she is a lovely lady. We said that if the new adoptive people will be like her then we would be happy with the boys care.
There is a match, the social worker has to put it to panel, so that will take around 6 weeks we were advised. I pointed out that that would be a very sensitive time, with christmas and then DGS2's birthday in January. So he has asked the social worker to be "sensistive to the situation" before stopping the contact. He also was shocked that we had not been given any links to councilling yet, dispite our asking for some a long time ago. He read the wishes of Twin2 out, but obviously her wanting more contact is not going to happen. Etc. But what he did ask was about the kind of contact and its been stipulated as "letter box twice a year". Then he was again in surprise that the Life Story work had not started. The social worker said that she thought it had been done. But nothing has been done with the parents/family or the foster family. So that work has to be done, rather quickly really.
Anyway, he was as sensitive to us as he could be. The father of DGS1 who is normally there didnot turn up, or send his appologies. I think that he would have found it too difficult to deal with if his parents couldnt come, as dispite all his failings he did love his Dad and has a better attachment at contact with him then his Mum. (But Mum has to share him with his brother, where as Dad has him all to himself for an hour, so that would be much easier for him to engage with his DAd).
Molly and her daughter came over this afternoon, and I was able to chat about things, and felt much better by the time they left just after 3.

My fruit and Veg box etc arrived. Still very impressed with it all. But have a lot of fruit and veg that I must use up. Then the neighbour called me over the fence and has given me 2 carrier bags of apples from her trees! So I see an apple jelly making session coming on. I must dig out some jam jars from the back of the cupboards and the shed. But I still have a few jars from last year in the fridge. (I made them a bit too sweet last year so I havent eaten as much of them).
Right, I also managed to get my slice machine to cut out some letters today. So I will be able to make the bunting now. Hopefully I will get on with it tomorrow.
I also received the Tens machine in the post, and have been trying that out this afternoon. I think it did ease my shoulders a bit, while I was trying it out. I suppose experimentation is the way forward with that.
Time for me to make our evening meal. Sausages, mashed potatoes and possibly the last of the cabbage from last week that needs to be used up. I want to use some of the potatoes, carrots, onions and the rest of the pepper in a soup. Or even a casserole. We will see how I feel. At least I am feeling better as I am starting to think about the food and the budget etc again.

Savvy_sewing

well I logged onto the bank as is my usual morning ritual, and I have just noticed that its no wonder the bank balance is lower then I expected, I didnt get my ESA last week? So its £188.50 short.! So thats something I will need to get on to the jobcentre about as soon as I get back from the school run.
I hope that they have not dediced that I have to go back to work? I am not well enough to work an 8 hour day! If I could I would.

If its not one thing its another.!

minimoneysaver

Oh no! I hope you manage to get it sorted out.

Savvy_sewing

minimoneysaver wrote: »

Oh no! I hope you manage to get it sorted out.

Thanks I have made a phone call, and they are going to ring me back within the next 3 hours. Except I just missed a call doing the school run. They did say they will try again in 10 minutes. So fingers crossed it will be sorted in a little while.
Just having a cuppa and a rest before I try to get on with some housework.
If I am feeling well enough when the afternoon sun has dried the grass I am hoping to try and cut it.

Savvy_sewing

Well the ESA have rung me back. There was a hold on my payements while they sorted out the changes to my Tax Credits that I get for fostering, and the Disability element. But they have said that they will release my payment today, and that the changes will not affect the amount of ESA that I will get so my payments will be the same. phew. thats good. So I can catch up on my rent soon. Thats been worrying me.
Seems that its just bound to be me that gets the gliches.

Savvy_sewing

Well its nearly 4am and I cannot sleep. Which is not surprising as I went down hill yesterday, and was in bed by 7.30 last night. So awake, 10ish, then 12.30, then been dosing on and off with horrible dreams etc eversince, so I decided to get up and make a cup of tea.
Biggest of Mooloo came over and did 2 hours of work for me around the home and garden. Her baby was so well behaved. I sat with her on the garden swing for a little while, as the weather was so lovely.
I wasnt up for much, so it was just as well.
I did the school run, but in pain.
When I got back Molly came to visit. I was going down hill quite rapidly. One of those days obviously. When I think I am on the mend.
ATOS telephoned me, around 3.30pm, they have decided that I need to have another medical. Which is in 2 weeks time. Which I am dreading. As I have heard so many bad stories about them. The last one I had was probably 2 years ago, maybe even more. When I was put in the back to work group. Had to attend the Working Links for ages. But they could see I was not able to work, and that was when DGD was first put with me.
Maybe this is playing on my mind a bit and adding to the stresses of the day. Probably.

Savvy_sewing

Well the social worker came and has gone. Still no really significant news on the guardianship, they are waiting for a Funding Code.??? How long to wait, we have been waiting around 12 months now!.
The Chairwoman of the LAC reviews was thinking that we will not be having one in Nov as it will all be done, but she is in for a shock as nothing has been done, and until this code is sorted out, we sit in limbo.
Biggest of Mooloo came back to do the front room for me. It was getting smaller and smaller with the toys etc and the washing taking over. I just didnt have the energy to move it all.
I managed to get a rest for an hour before the social came as Mollys DD collected DGD for me. But I didnt get to sleep as DGD is definitely being a complete minx and in the NO and the shouting mode at the moment. Not very pleasand for Molly's DD I am afraid. I had t come down and interviene. I worry that DGD is just becoming one of those "horrible" children. Heaven forbide. I am trying to stamp it out, and keep my authority going. I think she sees a chink in the armour as she knows I am ill and its harder.

thorsoak

Mooloo - DGD is probably reacting to the situation around her at the moment ....she will have heard you talking about her boys, you have said what an intelligent child she is, she was with her "other" grandfather last weekend - and you don't know what was said in her hearing there - and now you aren't very well yourself

Poor little chick could well be worrying that if she is "naughty" or you aren't well, then she will be taken away from you......

Maybe a little chat to her about what's going on and what won't go on might be in order ......

Savvy_sewing

I have been honest with her about the boys. She knows that they are waiting to find a new Mum and Dad as like her Mum her auntie couldnt keep them.
Re the grandad that probably was compounded as a newish experience (last one in May), on top of a week of others taking her to nursery, collecting her, and granny being in bed too.
I am as honest as I can be with her, in words that I think she will understand. She knows that this is her "forever home" with Granny, and that she is only visiting her grandad and his family.
Maybe she is worried that if I am not well enough she wont be able to stay with me. But I am telling her that its just a flare up and that I will get better when I have had some rest etc.
I think she is Naughty becuase it gets attention rather then not being naughty. Oh well we can but see.

As I have had such interrupted nights, I feel as if I need to be in bed now. Ofcourse thats rather too early.
We have had a salad for tea, as its just a bit too hot to be cooking.
The doors and windows are open and its so still, hardly any wind.
I think I may try and sit in the garden again for a little bit.

thorsoak

Hope you feel better tomorrow, Mooloo!