How important is money to a relationship?

grade15

what about Sir Paul mcCartney and Heather Mills..
is there a money issue there??? :dance:

gingin_2

My Oh works in banking and in an office of 12, 3 are on annual salaries of over 7 figures. Big boss at the top (a.k.a Mr Burns) is the most miserable get ever to be met, the most anti social and awkward person ever, he commutes from a different country weekly for tax purposes, leaving his family on their own, his pay is so large that the 45% he would give to the taxman would still leave him with a fortune but pure greed means that that is not enough.

No. 2 guy is in the process of being "made" (bit like being in the Mafia) when he is made (in other words get a mahoosive payout) it is a standing joke in the office that his wife will do a Heather Mills and divorce him for 50% because how a relationship can work with how little time he spend with his family is beyond anyone and whilst she puts up with it we can only make these assumptions the sacrifices he has had to make towards his little family are astounding and I would never, ever stand for that.

My father alway said to me "the more you have, the more you want" and I have never forgotten that. Ironically it is my husband and the other lackeys in the office that are the ones who do go home to happy families at night.

We are happy to give up a fairly nice salary and move to Oz because we know although we won't have as much money we will have a better qaulity of life.

ALWAYS_POOR

I think it should be viewed as adapting to an important change in a relationship that takes some getting used to, as much as any big change does. It is not necessarily all about the money.

westernpromise

seven-day-weekend wrote:

You would think she would be supportive at this time though, not going at him for not having enough money.

You would hope that rather than think it, I fear. I think it is all too common.

westernpromise

gingin wrote:

My Oh works in banking and in an office of 12, 3 are on annual salaries of over 7 figures. ...My father alway said to me "the more you have, the more you want" and I have never forgotten that. Ironically it is my husband and the other lackeys in the office that are the ones who do go home to happy families at night.

I have met a few people like that and you wonder why they don't just pack it in when they're 40. The answer I think is that if you're earning five million quid a year then it feels like a lot of money, and if all you had to do to make another five million quid was do just one more year at the sweatshop....and so they go on forever.

Among bankers it is apparently quite commonplace to work like a dog till you're 40, accumulate millions, and then have the whole lot taken off you in the inevitable divorce. Seems like a funny way for anyone to want to live.

roversbabe

I voted for important - its not the amount of money thats important, its having a similar attitude to using the money you have and to savings etc.

Differing attitudes to money are a major cause of rows within any relationship.