Grandmother jealous of other grandmother (long intro!)

piratefairy

I think you have given your family plenty of opportunity to show that they can be responsible and care for your child. It seems from what you posted re: looking after your child, that they haven't shown that they are able to do this, and for that if I were in your situation, I would explain that your child's safety is your priority, and until they can appreciate this, they will be welcome to see her, at your house and on your terms. Perhaps this will be what they need as an incentive to change their ways, perhaps not, but you can't force someone to change, just give them the opportunity to do it for themselves.
In future, I would organise to suit the majority - you can't realistically find a date or time which is going to suit everyone in the family, so it has to be a compromise on some parts.

sashadesade

I don't know how you and your OH have managed to tolerate your mum's pig headedness without telling her where to go - it's more than I could manage. Sounds like she's just determined to be difficult and pick a fight, I'd be inclined to create a bit of distance if I were you. It's not a nice thing to have to do, but why put up with it?
Oh, and the part about your dad blaming your baby sister for getting bitten by the dog? I'm just dumbfounded by this. If that's their attitude I'd *never* leave a child alone with them.

minimoneysaver

Honestly, I really feel for your OH. Clearly they are not up to looking after your baby. A baby is the most precious thing ever and must be cherished and looked after to the best of your ability. When you are not able to look after your baby, it is up to you to find suitable childcare.... ask yourself the question. Is your mum suitable childcare? I think you already know the answer.

henpecked1

well not heard for two days, they never called yesterday to wish daughter happy birthday nor called today to see how it went.

methinks we wont be doing boxing day dinner

Fang_3

OP - have you sorted out your double lives yet?