How to discipline a 28 month old?

Loopy_Girl

If he has tantrums then let him get on with it. Pick him up and put him in another room and just ignore him.

And you will be able to get him in the buggy. Lift him up and just 'bend' him in...he's only 2 so he's not got that much muscular resistance than you.

If he mithers then ignore. Easy said but harder done granted but you will eventually be able to 'tune' out.

Doesn't eat his tea? Fine, he gets no pudding and waits till the next meal.

There's a few issues here...one is that he is clearly jealous of his baby brother so don't leave them in the room alone and he has also realised that Dad has a more 'relaxed' parenting way than you. You can't tell your ex how to parent but you can teach your son that it's not acceptable to act in that manner whilst at your house.

You need to be consistent and not give in 'just this once'. It's a battle of wills but once he realises that there are boundaries and you are in charge then he will realise that there is no point having a tantrum as it doesn't change the situation.

It is a phase and it's a phase that all parents and kids go through but if you stick to the golden rule of being consistent in your approach then you should get through it.

DueMarch11

SingleMumOf2 wrote: »

He smacks me or his baby brother, throws things in frustration. And meal times are getting a battle. He will kick off while I'm cooking it because he is made to wait, then once its ready he will eat small amount and say he is finished.. but then ask for a yoghurt, lolly, chocolate etc. I then get him screaming the house down cos I say no.. and he will then keep asking til he goes to bed.
He will also not be interested in his food, but constantly come over to me and try and take mine or will prod and poke it if given the chance.. even when most of the time my meal is EXACTLY the same as his.

I feel embarrassed atm when I collect him from nursery because its a battle to get him into the pram as he always wants to walk.. most of the time I will let him walk

but he goes like an ironing board and screams as loud as he can, so to make it impossible for me to get him in.

This could be my two year old (also 28mths), she is a little nightmare at the moment. I have no advice I just wanted to say dont beat yourself and youre not alone!!! xxxxx

Loopy_Girl

SingleMumOf2 wrote: »

I then get him screaming the house down cos I say no.. and he will then keep asking til he goes to bed.
He will also not be interested in his food, but constantly come over to me and try and take mine or will prod and poke it if given the chance.. even when most of the time my meal is EXACTLY the same as his.

Let him scream all he wants...and let him ask till bedtime. You say 'no' the first time and then after that you just ignore. No response to the whining at all.

And poking at your food is unacceptable. He sits at his own place and does not wander over to you. If he does then you take him back to his side of the table and tell him that he is to eat his own food and not Mummy's. If he continues then you take his plate away for bad manners.

The point here is that we all know he is going to scream blue murder and it's easy for us to give advice when it's you that has to deal with it but what you also must remember is that the people posting have all been there.

Giving attention to a tantrum/hysterical child is just adding fuel to the fire. If you ignore (even when they follow you around from room to room) then he wll realise that a) he is not getting the reaction he thought he would and b) no matter how loud he screams, he is not going to get the pudding/toy/mag whatever...

Loopy_Girl

paddedjohn wrote: »

It sounds normal to me, but if you are really bothered then stop his pocket money and ground him for a week

Why would you post something like that?

Lance

He smacks because he does not understand a smack so I suggest you give him one back. With regards other problems you must resist his demands until he learns tantrums will not win. At home if he has a high sided cot then put him in it and leave him to scream. If he keeps asking for something until he goes to bed then shorten the time by putting him straight to bed. Obviously there will be resistence but I think you are finding the alternative a very long struggle. He will learn / adapt in getting what he wants without causing trouble. For those who rise up in arms about smacking there is nothing worse at any playgroup than the kid who smacks other kids. There is nothing wrong imo with a smack delivered calmly and reasonably. It may stop him smacking the wrong child and getting one back.

lynn45

LG knows the business when it comes to everything (well almost everything).

LG's got it right again, take no notice, walk away, the more you react the more the little'n will do it. As long as the little guy's safe, fine to just take no notice.

hard, i know but it'll work in the end.

paddedjohn

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

Why would you post something like that?

because the behaviour does sound like a typical 2/3 yr old, the second bit was tongue in cheek.;)

Indie_Kid

SingleMumOf2 wrote: »

I do let him help make meals when I can. He still has tantrums once it has to go in the oven to cook

Do you explain why it has to be cooked?

lynn45

don't know if i agree with the smacking, children who are smacked, learn to smack others, because they think that's how to handle a diffiicult situation.

you learn what you live, & i know that it's hard & why some parents do smack, it's because it's quick & easy & allows them some release from the stress of the situation.

Have been both, a mum who did smack the elder ones occasionally when they were little, they're 21 & 19 now, & my little one who's 5 has never been smacked.

Older sons say they hated it & they were frightened of me if they thought i was going to smack them- i'm so ashamed of myself that they felt this way- not good.

nearlyrich

My lovely blonde haired blue eyed little angelic nephew has turned into a screaning demon whose fave word is NO accompanied by a stamp of the foot since he turned two, it's normal but it's wearing especially when you have a baby to look after too. Don't be too hard on yourself he will respond to your discipline don't be tempted to give up because your ex doesn't bother.