Difficult Teenager in the house

neneromanova

candygirl wrote: »

My DD now 23, used to be the same, apart from the stealing.They are bl00dy hard work at this age, but do grow out of it eventually, mine only has now her own DD is nearly two :eek::eek::eek:
Keep reminding her of the house rules;)

Mum?

Lol. I used to be this exact way. I think I was starting to come out of it but the sharp shock for me was when I got pregnant qnd had to look after another person. Looking back now I really was a !!!!! to my mum. Poor woman is going through it again though With my 17 year old sister.

SailorSam

I had a friend who had the 15yo daughter from hell, she found a course to go on to learn how to deal with it, some sort of parenting course. She was sceptical but i think she said it helped, maybe you could find something similar by you.

red_devil

stealing isnt on ask her how she would feel if someone stole from her and remind her she might be a mum of a teen one day!

MissMotivation

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

How old is your eldest miss M? I think you may have a shock in store when she gets older, said all you are saying when my son was 12

I only have one and she is 12 and whilst I know that the worst is yet to come it still doesnt change my view that the most important things are consistency and boundaries.

I grew up with with my Mother constantly bending over backwards to please my Sister, who was the Daughter from hell. The things she was doing at that age would make your hand stand on end! My Mother tried the "nicey-nicey" approach and it did nothing. She was all for giving her money for fags to stop her stealing and that was spent on drugs. She took her to the Doctors when she was 14 to get her put on the pill, provided condoms for her and she still got pregnant at 15 so that obviously didn't work.

I honestly believe if she had been consistant with her punishments from when she started misbehaving at age 10 then we all would have had a better childhood and now my Sister wouldn't be a single Mum to 2 children from 2 different Dad's, living on benefits and smoking cannabis every day!

My Daughter knows already that every action has a consequence, if she chooses to misbehave then she deals with the consequences.

If it's any relevance I am also a single parent....have been since she was 6 months old and we have a traditional Mother/Daughter relationship, she isn't my "friend"......she is my Daughter.

sock-knitter

i have twin boys aged 15, they are hard work sometimes, but i would never give them a slap, kids have rights too, and hitting a child can leave a parent in a difficult situation, if child decided to report parent for assault
both mine have stolen from me, i now have a lock on my bedroom door, and all sentimental or valuable items, cash etc gets locked in there
my kids have horrible messy rooms, they like it, so i just shut the door and ignore it best i can
if they want laundry doing, they have to put it in the machine
if they want to eat, they have to help with the dishes afterwards
money is limited to whatever they may need that day, bus fare, lunch money etc, no spare for cigs etc
both have been told, no girlfriends staying over at my house, if they dont like it, they can get a place of their own, they are well aware they can get supported housing from 16.especially as they have special needs.
household chores are done by me, as a parent i suppose its my role, but both have been told things will change when they are 16

Dave101t

seems to be the children taking advantage of the mothers on here...they needed a bit more discipline a long time ago to stop the rot.

4Chickens

Melanie
I have a 17yo boy who has been causing some problems over the past year and it all came to a head when he ruined my holiday. Him and his girlfriend basically engineered it so she was homeless when my husband and I were on holiday. They created a pack of lies and it all unravelled when we got home. He was not happy that I dumped his girlfriend back home and she is no longer welcome in my house and because of their lies etc, he is not welcome in her parents house.
He started getting stroppy about the situation and I told him to 'knock it off or else', to which he replies ' so, your going to kick me out then'. I point this out because it is his fall back position as he's fairly confident I would never make him homeless.
However, it failed. I told him that I would make his life so miserable at home that he would wish to be kicked out. Things have settled down again for the time being but I tell you this, I don't give him an inch.
He moans that he has to meet his girlfriend in the bus stop, but I pointed out that it was all the lies and trouble they created that got them into this. However, I did offer to donate some Christmas decorations to brighten up the bus stop a bit. Strangley, he refused my offer. You just can't help some people.
Bottom line Melanie:
Get tough
Get creative
and try to enjoy the challenge (I lay awake at night thinking of ways to torture my teenager)
Merry Christmas

peachyprice

cindiedunkley wrote: »

However, I did offer to donate some Christmas decorations to brighten up the bus stop a bit. Strangley, he refused my offer

Priceless m'dear :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Savvy_Sue

cindiedunkley wrote: »

(I lay awake at night thinking of ways to torture my teenager)

:rotfl: and you might as well, because they all think that's what we're doing anyway ...

Brighton_belle

MissMotivation wrote: »

I only have one and she is 12 and whilst I know that the worst is yet to come ...

I know you only said this in response to the suggestion you couldn't know yet what it might be like in a few yrs... but not all teenagers become a nightmare . There might be much to enjoy in the next 8 yrs too.