Nice people thread part 3- Nice as pie

vivatifosi

Generali wrote: »

Dad was diagnosed aged 58 and died aged 67. I suspect he had the illness for a couple of years prior at least and his age was an impediment to being diagnosed.

Gen's situation is very similar to that with my fil, similar ages and timescales. It started with strange behaviour that you couldn't quite put your finger on and the deterioration is so gradual that at times it seemed just his behaviour. With hindsight, I would say we sleepwalked into the situation of having someone who had lived with Alzheimers for some time and at the end this was horrible. I agree with Gen, this is definitely something you don't want to end up coping with on your own Pastures. In terms of black and white coping strategies, you should definitely speak to your siblings and let them know of your concerns. I've seen situations in the past where because you are the one there it is seen as "your job", particularly if they have families and you don't. Don't let people burden you with this.

misskool

fc123 wrote: »

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That's what they were like in spirit. Bits if my orginal work clunkily fused with something else and all cobbled together in a hideous 'parody' of our label.........to the point that we received e-mails asking if they were ours or not as they confuse but they also look like I am losing the plot as they are so clumsy.

Worse is I know who did them and there is absolutely nothing we can do but just close off the feed so to speak. Got to be a bit cryptic sadly as I would love the world to know just how some places work.

I think I've found them and yes, they do look a bit "urgh", I'll PM a bit later, just need to go to work now (60 hour weeks and life is not good)

Did go out with the team last night and it was lovely. We can't keep working like this but there's no choice, right now, I wouldn't recommend a career in academia/research for anyone

misskool

PasturesNew wrote: »

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The ga-ga old and the incurable old are different olds

You can slow down dementia or remove some of the worst symptoms with drugs but they do need to see a GP and then they do need to remember to take it.

You need to sort out some care as this isn't going to end well for you.

LydiaJ

Just want to add my voice to the swelling chorus of people telling you that you cannot and should not cope with all of this on your own, Pastures. Somehow or other your parents are going to have to be made to accept outside help.

neverdespairgirl

fc123 wrote: »

I do miss the Armaggedon threads though....the proper ones with Asheron and co.

I've been to Armageddon. It was quiet and peaceful - rather interesting place, though.

SingleSue

We've noticed a decline in our dad since his stroke and we are not sure whether it is due to the damage caused by the stroke or the start of dementia. Mum cannot leave him in the kitchen alone at all as he will turn on the gas burners on the cooker but forget to light them, leave taps running, put stuff in the micowave and set it for hours instead of minutes or seconds, and forget items he has put in the oven.

He has also become like an impatient toddler, everything has to be done now...so if someone suggests that we may like to go out later, dad will get up and want to do it straight away and will badger just like a child (Want to go now, are we leaving now etc).

He can also be a bit of a automaton, mum says he will do anything I tell him to (although he won't do anything she tells him to), probably because my character is a more forceful one or because he knows I am unemotional about some stuff (I'm not in reality, it is just a defence mechanism I have developed when dealing with the boys stuff - too emotional makes you not think straight when faced with difficult choices) and I take no prisoners when dealing with those in power, getting to the heart of the matter rather than hinting at things but not coming right out with it.

In short, I am my father's daughter....we are (or were until his stroke), so alike in how we did things and in our ambition. My siblings are more like my mum where being a sheeple rules.

lostinrates

re Royalty, I am most definitely not the Queen's neice or something! But yeah, that's the list. (edit: there is NO German in me at all that I wnow of)

re dementia. Problem is there are different types. My Aunt (not the queen) has earle onset Alzheimers. Its very quickly progressing. In retrospect I'm not sure I knew my grandmother without dementia (also alzheimers), much slower progressing and we didn't realise how bad it was til my grandpapa died. We did a lot wrong, in retrospect, with the care of my grandmother.

My mother is getting ''doolally'' but eccentrically so. Cooking her glasses, leaving her handbag everywhere (not helkped my the fact she takes three bags with her everywhere now, important things mixed up in them (a big hand bag, a smaller big handbag and a shopping bag)). My father also gave us a panic a couple years ago when it turned out his diabetes medcine was wrong, and that had sent him round the bend. sorted with change in meds. First thing I'd look into with the olds is a UTI....not uncommon in older people. My dad and I, with a strong familly history in alzheimers and me already wiuth neurological stuff that impact memory and brain function: we're a little ''alert'' that things might not be clear in the future.

My grandmother wasn't a ''bright'' woman but had a very wonderful sense of humour.

re female thing: happens to me sometimes, ...not too scary when you know what it is, I have always had low blood pressure anyway too. I'm taking iron again today and feel just fine and a bit stupid!

neverdespairgirl

By "female thing", have you checked if you might be pregnant? That can cause women to keel over left right and centre.

GDB2222

lostinrates wrote: »

re Royalty, I am most definitely not the Queen's neice or something!

You realise that with those few simple words, you have downgraded us all from being only 3 steps to POTUS? Hopes dashed, I'm in despair.

:(:(:(:(:(

lostinrates

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

By "female thing", have you checked if you might be pregnant? That can cause women to keel over left right and centre.

I'm not.

I was quite hopeful some time ago for a couple of months, but no.
Its a bit of a poain because lots of times things that happen to me ''ordinarily'' feel sort of like I think pregnancy might...e.g. I'm often queasy and (tmi?) sick and lightheaded. So I get a delay and I get hopeful.