Nice people thread part 3- Nice as pie

GDB2222

michaels wrote: »

LIR is practically royalty (queens niece or similar) so unsurprisingly her 'circle' are of interest to the NOTW.

I had no idea! So, that makes us all only 3 steps from President Obama. :eek: We know LIR, she knows the Queen, and the Queen knows Obama. :rotfl:

fc123

lostinrates wrote: »

I know now what was wrong. Its all rather embarrassing and female. Panic over, sorry to have panic posted.

Phew....whatever it was you had me worried when I read through though I second your post about maybe being indestructible.....you must have a really strong gene (or other human widget inside you) that is stronger than all the other stuff.


Dementia and PN's parent. I know something about this as MIL worked in care homes for many years and it does vary from person to person how quickly it comes on.

Did you read the thread on the other board about the parents gifting a deposit for a house, living in the annexe then deciding they wanted it back? Someone posted some info on the thread but I'll have to go hunt for it.

The big problems can be when they let themselves out the house @ 4 am and go off to the shops in their nightclothes in the rain / snow and so on then get lost, get cold/wet and then get physically ill.

I was thinking about ill parent too....I am wondering if he has been given all the info/leaflets/ numbers to call and so on but doesn't want to 'cause a fuss' and so hasn't told you about them either. Does he go into the appointments alone? Is there any way you can be with him at the next one and dig out a bit more info?

Great door website..thanks doozer.

And hi to everyone else too ...I have enjoyed reading everyones posts recently.

Happy flight gen.....did you all have a good catch up with everyone?

neverdespairgirl

LydiaJ wrote: »

NDG - my parents use "scullery" to refer to what anybody else would calll the kitchen (where the cooker and sink are) and "kitchen" for what most people would call the breakfast room (where the table, dresser, breadbin & toaster are). To avoid confusing my kids, I'm now using "kitchen" to mean both bits together - the door connecting them is always open unless some child is having its height measured on it.

All our heights (measured for birthdays and half-birthdays) are still on there, plus my kids and sometimes my nieces/nephews/cousins if they've been there at the right time

My parents have a door like that - they brought it with them when they moved house!

My mother calls the kitchen the kitchen. The scullery has the boiler, washing machine and dryer, extra fridge, freezer, food storage, door to the back of the house, and boot racks / trugs / etc

Generali

fc123 wrote: »

Dementia and PN's parent. I know something about this as MIL worked in care homes for many years and it does vary from person to person how quickly it comes on.

PN - Absolutely do not get sucked in to caring for someone with dementia. Old Pa Generali died of Alzheimers and I know what I'm talking about. Sometimes you have to do the best thing for yourself and this may be one time.

fc123 wrote: »

Happy flight gen.....did you all have a good catch up with everyone?

Thanks. I didn't catch up with everyone but I caught up with a fair few. Others have had to make do with sincere apologies and a promise to see them next time. I'll be back with Mrs Generali in Dec 2012 most likely for a month so everyone will have the chance to recall why they liked me moving abroad in the first place!

Doozergirl

LIR, even girl things aren't embarrassing or over-reacting when they cause things like that. It still sounds pretty serious to me. I really do hope you're okay and the H looks after you this weekend. I hope you see a Dr. person because I feel very uncomfortable that you can't know exactly what happened in that time. :kisses3:

Sorry you're leaving already Generali, the country's a better place with you in it. It's great that you didn't leave us without your voice of reason on the boards, however

Lydia, I'm off for a few days to another country. My opinion is totally superfluous but I haven't forgotten, have just buried myself in stuff that I should have already done.

I enjoyed lemonjelly's replies today.

We agreed a sale on the big house and on the house we want today. Fingers crossed. The kids are planning slime green floors and fancy lights!

fc123

Generali wrote: »

PN - Absolutely do not get sucked in to caring for someone with dementia. Old Pa Generali died of Alzheimers and I know what I'm talking about. Sometimes you have to do the best thing for yourself and this may be one time.



Thanks. I didn't catch up with everyone but I caught up with a fair few. Others have had to make do with sincere apologies and a promise to see them next time. I'll be back with Mrs Generali in Dec 2012 most likely for a month so everyone will have the chance to recall why they liked me moving abroad in the first place!

The dementia can escalate at different rates with each person. My old grandpa became 'forgetful' and a bit chaotic but got by ok for a good few years but his final 4 years were not good and he did have to go into care in the end.

I have a friend at the moment who has similar with his mother but she is managing at home so far with lots of visits and pop ins but he worries a lot. Small things (that could become big things) like leaving the gas on.

How long was your G'pa ok-ish before it was a big problem?

fc123

Doozergirl wrote: »

We agreed a sale on the big house and on the house we want today. Fingers, legs and any other body parts capable of doing so, crossed please.

fantastic news...fingers crossed also that it all completes nice and smoothly...no changing minds at last minute again because it's too far away or whatever.:)

I was thinking the other day about this thread and all sorts of things go on inside it that bear no relation to the doom threads on the board. You know, doing up houses, buying/selling houses. selling things and so on.

It's like this thread is the reality and the others aren't.

I do miss the Armaggedon threads though....the proper ones with Asheron and co.

Generali

fc123 wrote: »

How long was your G'pa ok-ish before it was a big problem?

Dad was diagnosed aged 58 and died aged 67. I suspect he had the illness for a couple of years prior at least and his age was an impediment to being diagnosed.

Within a couple of years his driving became erratic. Perhaps a couple of years after that he couldn't shop without a list and maybe a year later he couldn't go shopping or be trusted with a simple household task like operating the washing machine or cleaning the windows. He also started getting paranoid about Mum Gen wanting to leave him or having an affair.

A year later he started getting violent and a year after that he went into a home. He was in the home for perhaps 15 months.

When do you think it became a big problem? I think it became a big problem for different people at different times.

I hope that doesn't sound aggressive, I can see how it could but it isn't meant to be.

LydiaJ

Doozergirl wrote: »

Lydia, I'm off for a few days to another country. My opinion is totally superfluous but I haven't forgotten, have just buried myself in stuff that I should have already done.

Thank you. There's no hurry. It's unlikely I'll have the money to do it for a few years yet!

Doozergirl wrote: »

We agreed a sale on the big house and on the house we want today. Fingers crossed. The kids are planning slime green floors and fancy lights!

Woohoo! I find it so much fun to follow other people's house-buying journeys on here.

michaels wrote: »

I'm glad the builders have got the new roof on but I'm thinking may be I should have had them building an ark: http://news.bbc.co.uk/weather/forecast/4281?area=AL1

Good news about the roof. How is the rest of it going?

Davesnave

My Dad was 'Ok-ish' for about three years from age 91, the last two with pop-in support, but then, like FC says, things started happening that couldn't be ignored. We didn't allow him a gas cooker, but pans were burned etc. Then, the falls/funny turns began.....and the incontinence became a lot worse. There were hallucinations too, probably caused by him trying to reduce fluid intake.

My main problem was finding him somewhere that was acceptable, because in his lucid times the local care home would have been hell on Earth. Posher places would have made him uncomfortable in other ways. After 6 months of looking, I was still flummoxed.

Finally, because I'd put his name down, Dad gained a place in a privately-run, totally off-the-wall establishment in a rambling old vicarage. The Quaker owners believed in home cooking and ate with the residents, so it was set up like a large family. Nobody fussed or said anything was too much trouble. The rooms were huge, so everyone brought their own furniture, and it was all en-suite, yet the fees were exactly the same as the cramped local authority place.

Dad was there only a short time, but he put on weight and showed signs of regaining his sense of humour, so we could see that the Big Decision had been the right one. He believed he'd be there till he was 'better,' and that we were redecorating his bungalow. In reality we'd begun gutting the place to do a full refurb, as we knew it would have to be sold to fund his care.

One morning, very early, Dad had another 'turn' and collapsed. He was rushed to hospital, where we had an hour or two of half-decent conversation before he was suddenly gone with a much larger heart attack. Had he still been at home, it's quite likely he would have died alone.

Making the Big Decision was hard. Whether I should have made it several years before is something I still think about. Dad stayed in his own home almost until the end, which is what he wanted, but what the rest of us wanted might have been given more weight if we'd known more about the options available.