Nice people thread part 3- Nice as pie

PasturesNew

tomterm8 wrote: »

Macmillan http://www.macmillan.org.uk/Home.aspx is a cancer charity, that provides specialist medical help, as well as financial advice to access any money you are entitled to for the care of your parents. Their phone number is 0808 808 00 00

it's also worth calling your local hospice since many offer excellent out patient care, specializing in pain relief.

Local hospice... no idea what/where that'd be.

So, one has to contact Macmillan, if one feels it's appropriate... as opposed to them contacting you. You'd think the Hospital/"C" system would make that connection in the first instance.

PasturesNew

I am struggling. Connection issues. Lost the Internet, tried to reconnect. Then did a reboot and connected. Then reconnected. It's been 20 minutes now to get to this page/point. Posted here and got
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lemonjelly

Davesnave wrote: »

Oh well, if we're giving away our location to stalkers and mad axemen, I'm nearly where the pink blob is......:D



but not quite!:p

Put like that, we almost booked a 2-3 day break near you davesnave!

Would you recommend bideford?
I recall barnstaple is very hilly?
We rejected ilfracombe as there is basically no beach.

PasturesNew

tomterm8 wrote: »

Oh, yeah, they both qualify for attendance allowance. That's certain. Should also both have blue badges, and dad should be entitled to free hospital parking. Fairly sure there are lots of other things you qualify for too.

I did start a thread on the benefits forum last week, but got the feeling it was "no, don't qualify" as they said "care needs". Then a few people put some stuff down that, to me, seemed relevant - that I'd have never thought of as 'care needs'. I think care needs is: getting them into their knickers, wiping their bum, flanelling their face, serving them food, doing everything.

Blue badge: I think dad has one, well, a local variation system. Mum doesn't drive, but I take her out when required. I guess we never thought of me having one for when I take mum out.

Free hospital parking: Didn't know there was such a thing. He's been parking at the park and ride 2 miles away and catching the bus in, then having to walk 1/8th of a mile because he didn't want to pay the £2.20/hour parking.... but gets the P&R free. He can't really walk fast/far, very slow and has to stop a lot of times for that distance. On the other hand, he's reluctant to accept a lift from me.... I can drop him at the door, but then have to find places to loiter until he phones me to pick him up again. He dislikes me paying for the car park too so I'm not allowed to use the car park.

tomterm8

PasturesNew wrote: »

Local hospice... no idea what/where that'd be.

So, one has to contact Macmillan, if one feels it's appropriate... as opposed to them contacting you. You'd think the Hospital/"C" system would make that connection in the first instance.

Well, no one ever said the NHS was efficient. My belief is you have to make waives, otherwise you just fall into the cracks.

Best to call Macmillan yourself.

No idea where you are in the country, but yell.com is your friend to find your local hospice. As I say, they aren't just for in patient care. Your doctor may need to refer you but it's worth talking to them first.

PasturesNew wrote: »

I did start a thread on the benefits forum last week, but got the feeling it was "no, don't qualify" as they said "care needs". Then a few people put some stuff down that, to me, seemed relevant - that I'd have never thought of as 'care needs'. I think care needs is: getting them into their knickers, wiping their bum, flanelling their face, serving them food, doing everything.

Well, you are wrong. Care needs can include anything from cleaning the house for them, shopping, taking them to GP's, or staying up with them during a particularly bad night. Doing the washing, doing the dishes. All kinds of things. You've already described caring for them within what I regard as the valid levels.

PasturesNew wrote: »

Blue badge: I think dad has one, well, a local variation system. Mum doesn't drive, but I take her out when required. I guess we never thought of me having one for when I take mum out.

Both of them should have one, IMHO.

PasturesNew wrote: »

Free hospital parking: Didn't know there was such a thing. He's been parking at the park and ride 2 miles away and catching the bus in, then having to walk 1/8th of a mile because he didn't want to pay the £2.20/hour parking.... but gets the P&R free. He can't really walk fast/far, very slow and has to stop a lot of times for that distance. On the other hand, he's reluctant to accept a lift from me.... I can drop him at the door, but then have to find places to loiter until he phones me to pick him up again. He dislikes me paying for the car park too so I'm not allowed to use the car park.

Ask at the reception, IIRC, people with terminal cancer are entitled to free prescriptions, and free hospital parking.

PasturesNew

I just checked. There is no free parking for disabled/blue badge holders at the hospital.

michaels

Would South Devon be possible? How about this?

http://www.southdevonholiday.co.uk/

lemonjelly wrote: »

Put like that, we almost booked a 2-3 day break near you davesnave!

Would you recommend bideford?
I recall barnstaple is very hilly?
We rejected ilfracombe as there is basically no beach.

PasturesNew

tomterm8 wrote: »

Well, no one ever said the NHS was efficient. My belief is you have to make waives, otherwise you just fall into the cracks.

Well that doesn't seem right does it... and if you don't know/don't know to make waves/aren't the sort ... then you're still in the cracks

It's not rocket science really is it... the people are turning up at hospital, so easy to catch them (especially as they can't move fast).

tomterm8 wrote: »

Best to call Macmillan yourself.

You see, this is where I can't quite 'get it'... as I'm not privvy to the illness, like an outsider.... I don't see what my opening sentence would be. I could get the patient to call I guess, but he's obstinate.

tomterm8 wrote: »

No idea where you are in the country, but yell.com is your friend to find your local hospice. As I say, they aren't just for in patient care. Your doctor may need to refer you but it's worth talking to them first.

Yell says there's one just 20 miles away... is 20 miles local?

PasturesNew

lemonjelly wrote: »

Further re the lol/mum thing. he benefits system is massively in favour of the over 60's nowadays (<cynic>they do vote after all<cynic>). If both your "olds" get AA (which they will), then they can both claim the carers premium to look after each other. However, they won't be paid carers allowance (as they already get an earnings replacement benefit in retirement pension). However, it will mean that they will get a massively increased amount of pension credit.

They could be coining in the megacash!

They don't get any Pension Credit. Dad has a couple of occupational pensions. Mum paid the 'extra stamp for married women'.

PasturesNew

Wheezy wrote: »

Thanks Miss New.
I was even a cuter mofo when i was still a babie!

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