Nice people thread part 3- Nice as pie

lostinrates

vivatifosi wrote: »

I was named after my mum's pet dog. Other people get named after their parent's favourite relatives, but no, I'm named after my mum's favourite pet collie (fortunately my name isn't Lassie or Butch, it is at least a girl's name). Things you wish your parents had never told you. DH teases me regularly about this matter.

the funny thing is I spent ten minutes wondering what the dog was called. D'oh.

neverdespairgirl

lostinrates wrote: »

edit: besides, ''tom term'' who are any of us to be talking about names? What would you have called her? (our other cats have their own web-names: pink whistley and mauve squeaker. Sometimes we add ''Brown'' to Bombe's name, we've tried ''Blue'' in the mix too)

My parents' first cat was called Titus, because he was a rescued kitten and my Dad thought his stomach was as tight as a drum.

Going with the classical theme, out next cat was Lucretia (Lulu) and Cleopatra (Cleo). Beth slipped in there somewhere.

My two cats were called Elijah and Yossie, because I found Elijah as an abandoned kitten at Passover. And Yossie went with it.

Our cavalier King Charles when we were children was Sukie, and then Polly took the kettle off when she joined us.

My parents' current border collies are called Dylan and Doglet.

lostinrates

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

My parents' first cat was called Titus, because he was a rescued kitten and my Dad thought his stomach was as tight as a drum.

Going with the classical theme, out next cat was Lucretia (Lulu) and Cleopatra (Cleo). Beth slipped in there somewhere.

My two cats were called Elijah and Yossie, because I found Elijah as an abandoned kitten at Passover. And Yossie went with it.

Our cavalier King Charles when we were children was Sukie, and then Polly took the kettle off when she joined us.

My parents' current border collies are called Dylan and Doglet.

Our next dog was going to be called ''Woolah-Glee'' because it sound both fluffy and happy, just what a dog should be, till we tried calling it out and relised it sounded a tad harsh (well ugly). My best friend is begging me to let dog-dog have pups this year so they can have one on return from there overseas posting. That's already named too, to match dog-dogs name. I think it might end up being a different relative..a neice or something. I'm not sure I want puppies of our own you see.

tomterm8

I blame this thread for making me write the short story title "Who killed the Clockwork Cat?".

I do not know how I will make this into a science fiction story which isn't, you know, gross.

sjaypink

Hello :hello:

Can I ask some questions?

I know on past occasions you guys have given me some great advice on various subjects, but it seems my weakness, and your stengths are (in no particular order) class, etiquette, manners, creativity...

So, seeing as MSEs resident chav has gone and got herself into a bit of state regards weddings, would anyone help?

1. Can you show your tattoos in church? Well, actually, I think I've already decided this one. The question should be - 'where can I buy a wedding cardy?'

2. Being 'given away' - I don't have any one - is it necessary?

3. Inviting the vicar to the reception? Is that the norm? I don't want to 'cos I intend on getting right royally trashed

4. Wedding gifts. We don't want or need anything - but some people have already said they want to get something, if we don't choose they will get vouchers. (Without being rude) don't really want vouchers - is it OK - and how to go about - asking for cash, and how to emphasise, only if people want to. Also, is it better to say why? Have had friends before who have said any money will be for 'conservatory fund' etc. Lastly - charity giving. Is it OK to say 50% of any money received will go to charity? Or is it rude to give other peoples money away, or is it rude to only do half?!

Help! (please!) thank you :A:kisses3:

LydiaJ

1. Depends on the church. Tattoos no problem in our church - everyone welcome, regardless of body art etc. But you may find some churches are more staid, and in any church tattoos of demons, witches, pagan symbols etc would probably be better covered. If you choose to cover your arms, you can get little jacket things to match your dress.

2. No. If you choose to walk up the aisle by yourself, that's fine. But actually it's nice not to be alone for that walk. Perhaps you have a bridesmaid who could walk beside you rather than behind? Or are you and your intended planning to walk up the aisle together?

3. Not unless you know the vicar personally.

4. Martin has blogged about this - opinions differ. Whatever you do is bound to offend somebody, but those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter, as somebody or other's sig quotes from Dr Seuss. Personally I'd be happier giving cash for a specific purpose (eg the conservatory you mention) than just generally, and I wouldn't mind either half or all of my gift going to charity but I'd want to be told up front which charity it would be. But you're not inviting me, so who cares what I think! Send a note out to anyone who asks, saying something like

"We already have everything we need and don't want the traditional wedding gifts of toasters and dinner services. What we most want is your presence at our special day, and that's all we're asking for. If anyone feels strongly that they really want to give us something, then we would love to have contributions towards our conservatory - we are saving up and hope to have it put in next summer. However, we also want to do some good in the world, and will split any money gifts 50/50 between our conservatory fund and the Zambezi Aids orphanage, unless anyone says they'd prefer otherwise."

sjaypink

LydiaJ wrote: »

1. Depends on the church. Tattoos no problem in our church - everyone welcome, regardless of body art etc. But you may find some churches are more staid. If you choose to cover your arms, you can get little jacket things to match your dress.

2. No. If you choose to walk up the aisle by yourself, that's fine. But actually it's nice not to be alone for that walk. Perhaps you have a bridesmaid who could walk beside you rather than behind? Or are you and your intended planning to walk up the aisle together?

3. Not unless you know the vicar personally.

4. Martin has blogged about this - opinions differ. Whatever you do is bound to offend somebody, but those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter, as somebody or other's sig quotes from Dr Seuss. Personally I'd be happier giving cash for a specific purpose (eg the conservatory you mention) than just generally, and I wouldn't mind either half or all of my gift going to charity but I'd want to be told up front which charity it would be. But you're not inviting me, so who cares what I think! Send a note out to anyone who asks, saying something like

"We already have everything we need and don't want the traditional wedding gifts of toasters and dinner services. What we most want is your presence at our special day, and that's all we're asking for. If anyone feels strongly that they really want to give us something, then we would love to have contributions towards our conservatory - we are saving up and hope to have it put in next summer. However, we also want to do some good in the world, and will split any money gifts 50/50 between our conservatory fund and the Zambezi Aids orphanage, unless anyone says they'd prefer otherwise."

The congregation that I know is more laid back than many I think, but I have pretty much decided that I would like to be - look- a little more reserved than usual (for the afternoon at least) .
We don't really know the vicar as we are not regular church-goers but he is very hands on with the kids school and a few of their clubs, so, coupled with the fact that pretty much the first thing he asked was 'where are you having the reception?' I wondered if I had missed something :rotfl:
Aisle- I would like the kids to maybe walk 'around' me I guess - like 2 either side, the rest behind...
The gift thing is my biggest worry at the mo. I originally would have loved to say 'no. nothing!' but I did read Martins blog and it did make me reconsider. And I wouldn't like to turn up as a guest at a wedding completely empty handed tbh.

Anyway I'm rambling a bit- thank you for you little paragraph - going to try and compile an e-scrapbook thing to keep all advice and ideas etc, so you are the first to be copy & pasted thanks :A

lostinrates

CONGRATULATIONS sjay.

Body art you want to cover....can you choose a dress that will do this without need for a cardi/jacket? either s fine, but the dress covering might give you ''that princess feeling''. If it can be covered with a cardi a dress could cover it too I guess. I'm with lydia in that I think its ok if its you....but you want to cover up so...

re gifts, I'd be happy to make a donation to something in your name for the wedding but doing it myself but would feel a bit odd about cash tbh. Sometimes we can't afford anything n the list and I buy the people a bottle of champagne instead, I think that's what I'd do if someone asked for cash. I don't know why and thinking about it I wonder if thats not quite rude of me.

lostinrates

sjaypink wrote: »

Aisle- I would like the kids to maybe walk 'around' me I guess - like 2 either side, the rest behind...

I think the idea of the kids ''giving you away'' is funny and sweet.

vivatifosi

sjaypink wrote: »

Hello :hello:

Can I ask some questions?

I know on past occasions you guys have given me some great advice on various subjects, but it seems my weakness, and your stengths are (in no particular order) class, etiquette, manners, creativity...

So, seeing as MSEs resident chav has gone and got herself into a bit of state regards weddings, would anyone help?

1. Can you show your tattoos in church? Well, actually, I think I've already decided this one. The question should be - 'where can I buy a wedding cardy?'

2. Being 'given away' - I don't have any one - is it necessary?

3. Inviting the vicar to the reception? Is that the norm? I don't want to 'cos I intend on getting right royally trashed

4. Wedding gifts. We don't want or need anything - but some people have already said they want to get something, if we don't choose they will get vouchers. (Without being rude) don't really want vouchers - is it OK - and how to go about - asking for cash, and how to emphasise, only if people want to. Also, is it better to say why? Have had friends before who have said any money will be for 'conservatory fund' etc. Lastly - charity giving. Is it OK to say 50% of any money received will go to charity? Or is it rude to give other peoples money away, or is it rude to only do half?!

Help! (please!) thank you :A:kisses3:

Bliddy hell SJ, what have you got yourself into this time?!!! Congratulations!

Here's my answer to your questions, but do bear in mind well, how do I put it, I'm not exactly the classiest broad in these parts....

1) You could also buy special make up. Depends on what you want to wear and how much it matters to you tbh. It's your day, not theirs.
2) Do what you want to do. FWIW we had a best woman rather than a best man. One of my rellies, who died recently much too young (early 50s) didn't have anyone to walk her down the aisle either as her dad also died young so she wore a pic of him in an open locket so he could see out and walked down by herself. It was such a lovely moment, had us all in tears:o.
3) I was told its the norm for them to get invited and the norm for them not to turn up. Hopefully this is still the case.
4) Be upfront. We didn't want anything because I'd already had my own house for two years and DH had left home several years before and had all his own stuff so we were already getting rid of half of everything and the last thing you need is yet another toaster. We needed some new white goods so people chipped in for those. Worse case scenario, someone will make a point of buying you a really horrid gift. At this point you smile sweety, thank them profusely and stick it promptly in the back of the cupboard for a safe period of time after which it can go on ebay.