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Nice people thread part 3- Nice as pie
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I'm far from the sea. so off route.0
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You'd only get a look in if I deviated off on my outward journey, which will be further north, I have to go past and above you, then over and up a bit ....lostinrates wrote: »I'm far from the sea. so off route.
I'm looking at doing a full squashed circle. Up and right on the way there, then down and left on the way back.
I have no sat nav, I tend to rely on instinct and vague ideas of where I'm going ... with a map in the boot. It's worked OK as a method for 30 years...0 -
PasturesNew wrote: »You don't know my route yet!
I don't know my route yet, but if I can navigate the M25 clockwise then I'd head down to the coast and follow it along from there west.
round the m25, down the m23 and down towards the sea. I'm along there
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No reliance should be placed on the above! Absolutely none, do you hear?0
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round the m25, down the m23 and down towards the sea. I'm along there
Round the M25, down the A12 and I am at the end of that (well a small amount of the A14 too - about 10 mins)We made it! All three boys have graduated, it's been hard work but it shows there is a possibility of a chance of normal (ish) life after a diagnosis (or two) of ASD. It's not been the easiest route but I am so glad I ignored everything and everyone and did my own therapies with them.
Eldests' EDS diagnosis 4.5.10, mine 13.1.11 eekk - now having fun and games as a wheelchair user.0 -
lostinrates wrote: »DH has offered me a choice tonight after supper of him vacuuming the whole house or me having a massage. Romance is alive and kicking. Sadly, so is indecision.
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Tomorrow would have been late-nearly-ex's birthday. His parents came down this weekend to visit where his ashes are buried, and took us out for a pub lunch. The three of us grown-ups had a main course and a pudding each, in an unremarkable way. My kids had a main meal each from the children's menu, and then another main course each (exact repeat of what they had the first time) and then both had ice cream. Next time we'll just get them to pick from the adult menu.
Today has been the tomorrow to which I referred yesterday: late-nearly-ex's birthday. We went out for lunch, followed by some time to play in the park, and I gave the kids presents (DVDs that they chose themselves from the second-hand shop).
It went reasonably well, although it all got a bit much for DD, who was losing the plot by the time we got back from the park, and generally having a strop about anything that didn't go her way. She calmed down watching Mary Poppins, though. I only had three wobbly moments: none of them about him himself, but about what my kids are missing out on. One was when one of the other boys in the park kept calling out "Daddy watch me" and another was at the end of Mary Poppins when Jane and Michael go off to fly a kite with both parents. The most upsetting was when I asked DS what happy memories of Daddy he had, and he said he hadn't got any.
What seems to be going on is this. There's a common reaction in bereavement to be angry with the person who's died. In DS's case, this is taking the form of being angry with him about the divorce. He was angry and upset about it at the time, of course, but his views about it now are a lot more extreme. He tells me, for example, that if the divorce had gone through then he would never have spoken to Daddy again, which is clearly not what would actually have happened. So because he's angry, he's edited out all his positive memories of him.
Late-nearly-ex did mess up pretty badly, and was a flawed character in some respects, but he certainly wasn't all bad, and he deserved better than that, so I found it a bit upsetting. I had to remind myself that it's just a phase of DS's bereavement, and late-nearly-ex is beyond being hurt by it now.
Life returns to normal tomorrow. Phew.Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
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OK ... so the route's having to be looked at... it's a bit more complex than I said at first as I don't know if I'm driving, or getting a lift, between two points...
If I am getting a lift, then according to Google maps I should ignore you all and stay north, then come down the west coast. Or, I can make a deviation, which would see me coming down to the M25 and going anti-clockwise, then down the M3.... missing off a lot of where I might have meandered to.
One thing's for sure. Sue won't be on the route.... too far east. I'll be starting out from 100 miles north of there. I'm looking for "easy wins", so no more than a 5 mile deviation, and always with an eye south/west. M23 might be doable, but not on the route my eye is drawn to.
Shouldn't have said a thing should I!
Oh - and if it's raining I'll either want to stop to get out of it till it clears up, or want to press on to get where I'm going to get the journey over with 0
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