Nice people thread part 3- Nice as pie

SingleSue

Youngest's birthday today...and he hasn't coped well.

He is so out of kilter with the different start to the day and the extra attention on him, that he had a major meltdown at school this afternoon, throwing and then stamping on his inhalers which put the school into mad panic mode as he is such a severe asthmatic. It took several staff an hour or so to calm him down again and get him able to talk to them.

So instead of being with him celebrating his birthday, we have had to take a step back, leave him be and let him relax on his own...hence me posting and middle son hovering over my shoulder!

tomterm8

Oh dear. Birthdays can be quite a stressful time, even for people without his challenges. It will all improve soon, I am sure.

PasturesNew

My last birthday passed without note or event.... I didn't even tell you guys I had it.
Twas one of those "bigguns", but none of my "bigguns" have ever been noted/celebrated, so it was just another.
I've tried, unsuccessfully, in the past, many, many years to get a few people (2-3 or more) out ... but nobody ever comes; then everybody says "I'd have come", but they wouldn't when it came round to it. It's a tricky time, when people have just been paid, but are saving their money as they've Xmas and Xmas events to pay for.

Wheezy_2

I'd have come, PN

Happy (belated) Birthday :kisses3:

GDB2222

Can I make it clear, PN, that I'm not travelling from London to Devon to celebrate your birthday, so you are quite safe. If you have a party in London, though, I'll come along.

vivatifosi

PasturesNew wrote: »

My last birthday passed without note or event.... I didn't even tell you guys I had it.
Twas one of those "bigguns", but none of my "bigguns" have ever been noted/celebrated, so it was just another.
I've tried, unsuccessfully, in the past, many, many years to get a few people (2-3 or more) out ... but nobody ever comes; then everybody says "I'd have come", but they wouldn't when it came round to it. It's a tricky time, when people have just been paid, but are saving their money as they've Xmas and Xmas events to pay for.

Happy belated birthday Pastures!!!! I don't like bigguns as a rule. Remind me I'm getting older, prefer the 9 other ones in the middle.

vivatifosi

GDB2222 wrote: »

Any theories about why? Do you think it's lifestyle (eg you spend a lot of time out of doors) or perhaps a genetic predisposition?

A bit of both really. It is certainly not helped by time outdoors, nor the fact a lot of us live, or have lived in Australia. However there has to be a genetic element too because I know what my genetic results were and I had a faulty gene. Skin cancer is only in one side of my family, but in that side, I have six groups of relatives and it can be found in five of them. The other group of cousins are a lot darker skinned so I wonder if that helps.

lostinrates

Happy Big Birthday PN.

We had the first BBQ of the season. DH is full of cold .....poor him But its what he wanted so we did it. We got some ore stuff planted, but it doesn't look very much different.....lots of weeding.

LydiaJ

michaels wrote: »

...one of the reasons I am so anti private school is I think that one of the draws is that it makes sure that little Tarquin and Chloe only get to meet other Tarquins and Chloes and are 'taught' that their ilk are better than the 'unwashed masses'.

silvercar wrote: »

I'm sure that there are private schools like that, but there are a hell of a lot that aren't. Maybe you should visit some and dispel the myth? Most private schools offer decent bursaries with a genuine intention to give places to the clever kids who couldn't otherwise afford to attend.

The private school where I teach has boarders, so the rich kids not only get to know the "normal" kids whose parents are making sacrifices, but the "full scholarship" ones (including some from long term workless families on benefit from central London) and also a wide variety of overseas kids from Nigeria, China, Brunei, etc etc.

michaels wrote: »

Be fair, it can be difficult for us guys, women have been known to say things like 'don't worry about Valentines this year as I know money is tight' and then not be best pleased when you take them at their word...

Michaels, you sound like a lovely bloke, but I'm with Sue on this one. I would never tell a love interest "not to bother" about Valentines or my birthday or whatever, but I might well tell him to keep it cheap if money was tight, and I would expect him to believe that I meant what I said and act accordingly. If a man won't listen to me, can't understand me or doesn't believe me, why would I want to be with him???

GDB2222

Can I just ask for the collective views of the wise here about something that's bothering me?

My daughter was talking to a friend of hers a couple of years ago, and he told her that he is gay. Fair enough, he was mid-20's at the time, so he ought to have made his mind up by then. I was therefore surprised to read in the local rag about his recent engagement - NOT to my daughter, thank goodness. Surely, this isn't going to work out, and should somebody warn the girl?

BTW: I have considered the possibility that he isn't gay at all and just wanted to get rid of my daughter, but I'm assured that that wasn't the case.