Nice people thread part 3- Nice as pie

misskool

We bought a lot of Comte reduced in waitrose. I'll never understand why cheese has a sell by date

wageslave

Malcolm. wrote: »

I don't understand the guilt ws. Did you not appreciate him being there or was it something else?

The fact there's other decent people out there is good thing, no.

(warning. male brain at work!!)

I had convinced myself only I was any good for the girls.

The fact that there is other decent people out there is very good, but a slap. It wasn't how I saw it

This boy is their father, all the father they will ever , or should ever know.

And he is a nice, decent boy desperately doing his best

It was around about that nanosecond I began asking myself if I was right

PasturesNew

Malcolm. wrote: »

Pastures, what cheese do you like?

Any extra strong, mature cheddar.



No squidgy cheese or odd stuff for me.

Malcolm.

lostinrates wrote: »

The true genius is the balsamic vingar...try it.:)

Viva: edam is ''traditonally'' the cheese of dieters. I think its because its so bland you only really want a nibble before falling asleep

In fact, I hold its probably better to have less of a tastier cheese when you have it, so you get a good cheese fix from a small amount. But still, I get edam for me if I think a cheese on toast meal is likely.

My very favourite cheese of all cheeses is without doubt chauource (althouh the spelling looks worng). I wouldn't adulterate it with anything.

We don't stock balsamic vinegar. DW is the cook and doesn't like acidic tastes. Hmmmm I have a fresh batch of bread (supermarket ran out of bread during snow) for me to toast and cheese before bed.

Thanks - that's two cheeses on my new list. If anyone has any other suggestions, please suggest-away. I'll catch up with the thread tomorrow.

G'night.

lostinrates

wageslave wrote: »

I had convinced myself only I was any good for the girls.

The fact that there is other decent people out there is very good, but a slap. It wasn't how I saw it

This boy is their father, all the father they will ever , or should ever know.

And he is a nice, decent boy desperately doing his best

It was around about that nanosecond I began asking myself if I was right

I like the idea of the majority of us being good for the children we know. Lots of children have more than two parent figures,the lucky ones get a majority of those being good for them. Perhaps knowing he is good for the girls is actually good for your relationship with them too.

SingleSue

My eldest son drove me to distraction with his eating habits as a young baby and toddler, the amount of times I contacted the health visitor worried about him as he would only eat marmite on toast (well more sucked the marmite off the toast and left soggy toast behind), banana baby food and chocolate baby food...oh and wotsits.

We tried all manner of things like hiding stuff inside his favourite foods, I got stressed, he got stressed, hubby peed off down to work to escape....then the health visitor told me to stop stressing, at least he is eating something and to gradually introduce different foods to him but without the stressing I had been doing before.

So I stopped stressing, I stopped trying to get him to eat different things and started a gently gently approach...and it worked, well sort of. He is still a fussy eater but will eat pasta (loves pasta, hated it as a child), potatoes (hated them as a child), veg (detested them as a toddler), fish, cheese and chicken. He absolutely refuses to eat anything other than white meat and detests marmite.

For some strange reason, he hated Farleys rusks as a baby but loves them now and questions why he never had them when he was young.....well eldest, because you always blooming threw them at me whilst shouting "No!" in your little toddler voice!

With eldest, it is the quantities he needs to keep weight on, he has to eat an enormous amount of food (his thyroid is fine, they think it is connected to his EDS), so much so that he has a school dinner using his voucher, I give him an extra £2 a day and he takes a packed lunch! This is on top of a good breakfast and a healthy evening meal too....and yet he is like a bean pole and verging on underweight.

I did a good deed today - we had popped up town briefly to go to the cashpoint and a lady was just coming out of the Wimpy after asking directions to a bed and breakfast and not really getting very far. She looked a little upset and lost, so I gave her directions to the nearest B&B which was a reasonable price and she set off. We got into the car and started to drive off but then thought of this poor woman, visibly upset, carting a suitcase in the freezing cold fog on what would not be a short walk...

So I stopped and asked her if she wanted a lift (being from London stock, rather than Suffolk stock, it has been drilled into me to help my fellow man (woman)). She was so grateful and it turned out she is also a Londoner, down here to attend the funeral of her last remaining aunt tomorrow and the train station was further out from the hotels and B&B centre of the town than what she had been told.

I know it was a risk picking up a complete stranger but I had the boys in the back armed with my crutch if anything bad happened...they could have just clonked her over the head if it had!

wageslave

lostinrates wrote: »

I like the idea of the majority of us being good for the children we know. Lots of children have more than two parent figures,the lucky ones get a majority of those being good for them. Perhaps knowing he is good for the girls is actually good for your relationship with them too.

He is brilliant with the girls, desperately trying to be man for them

It wasn't that LIR. He doesn't blame their mother at all. While I have wanted to murder her. Over and over.

He said their mother was doing her best.

He looked at me and said, she never let them come to any harm, no matter what.

And he is right, she didn't.

I need to learn to be less judgemental.

They are all only children. Him, her, the girls.

It really is a tragedy

tomterm8

wageslave wrote: »

It was around about that nanosecond I began asking myself if I was right

It seems to me that it wasn't your decision. At the end of the day, social services decided who would suit the kids better. Just because he is a nice guy doesn't mean that he can cope with them.

lostinrates

wageslave wrote: »

He is brilliant with the girls, desperately trying to be man for them

It wasn't that LIR. He doesn't blame their mother at all. While I have wanted to murder her. Over and over.

He said their mother was doing her best.

He looked at me and said, she never let them come to any harm, no matter what.

And he is right, she didn't.

I need to learn to be less judgemental.

They are all only children. Him, her, the girls.

It really is a tragedy

What is harm? Physical pain? Or the confusion of an unstable life, the failure to feed your child well enough for it to grow and thrive (and possibly risk future ill health and present deficiency ). To happily have another woman care for children for long periods of time, not knowing really what goes on with them?

N0 parent is perfect, and my guess is all parents ''harm'' in some way or another (whether through too much or not enough love and knowledge). One part of me screams about these imperfections being part of what builds us into individuals, different experiences, different strengths, a beautiful group of people far removed from identikit automatons. The other part of me thinks, on a practical more relevant sphere, I'd rather kids were with someone wondering how to expand their diet from cheese strings and sausage rolls.

silvercar

Wageslave: I'm totally confused, are these little girls your relatives?