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tellmeitsfriday

crickett1234 wrote: »

Thanks TMIF... you too... (at least, I think its you on facebook!! )

Facebook????

redsquirrel80

crickett1234 wrote: »

Thanks TMIF... you too... (at least, I think its you on facebook!! )

That'd be me have a good afternoon off

clairewop

Oh well still haven't got any further than I had earlier, or I still haven't been into town

Bitsy_Beans

crickett1234 wrote: »

Bitsy... I didn't say that stuff earlier to make you think you were moaning or being silly. I was sharing. Sometimes it makes me feel better to know that other people out there are struggling just like me. That's what I was doing there... not saying "I have more of a right to feel like poo than you do". I hope you know that!

I do my lovely, I took it with the spirit in which is was intended. we'll struggle along together

On the subject of Canada I went when I was 6 years old for family holiday (mum's best friend emigrated there). I am dying to go back one day and see if the waterproofs on the Maids of the Mist round Niagara Falls have improved since the 80's :rotfl: Shan't be heading up the CN Tower mind, far too chicken to do that in a glass lift these days :eek:

I quite fancy Vancouver too, although I do really like the look of Boston and New England in the USA.

natsplatnat

Bitsy_Beans wrote: »

I quite fancy Vancouver too, although I do really like the look of Boston and New England in the USA.

Def go if you get the chance - it is stunning!

Marru

About life:

I always planned that I would be married before I had a child and I always planned to have two. What I didn't plan to be engaged twice and never married and then end up being a sigle mother. I don't think it is the single that gets me, it is the fact that I never married. The fact that DD has her dad's surname makes things more ackward as I get letters with Mrs Ex in them instead of Ms M.

But I don't regret separating. I was brought up in the middle of 30 year war and I couldn't bear that DD would be growing in situation where there were no respect between the adults in her life. I didn't want her to then think that is a norm and repeat that in her own life (like I seem to have copied my mum in my life) so even than I couldn't get myself out of there I had to get her out of there of which I will be eternally grateful to her.

Smells:

My kitchen probably smells of last night's fish and chips supper.

Text messages:

I once sent a text to BF: "Woke up grumpy", got a reply back: "Why are you sleeping with Grumpy and what about the other 6?"

Firewalker

I don't believe life ever turns out as we expect it to turn out. Sometimes it is better, sometimes it is worse but it is always different. When I was 18-19 years old I did have this vision of myself dying alone somewhere, being poor and unhappy. Just like most great artists and philosophers. Gradually this became one of my greatest fears; especially the 'poor' bit. By age 27 I was on my way to completing a PhD, had run a national election campaign and have had one ec-topic pregrancy. When I was 29 I met the only man who could conceivably live with me and love me (he still does), acquired two step-sons and later had Little Boy.

I don't think I will die a poor and lonely woman. But even if I do I'll always know that I was loved and loved in return, that I raised three sons and that I stood for what I believe in. Isn't this what life is about?

Firewalker

Firewalker

Marru wrote: »

Text messages:

I once sent a text to BF: "Woke up grumpy", got a reply back: "Why are you sleeping with Grumpy and what about the other 6?"

Maru, if this is current BF he sounds worth keeping:rotfl::rotfl:.

FW

tenmah

A long time ago (!) I was at a nightclub. I was asked to dance and whilst dancing he asked me what I did for a living. I said I wasn't currently working as I was bringing up my daughter on my own and he walked off the dancefloor and just left me standing there

I have resigned myself to not ever having 'my happy ever after' now. I don't go anywhere to meet anyone and have quite a fragile heart from various relationships over the years, so not even sure if I could cope with another one. Sometimes I feel sad I am on my own, and other times I am quite content.

I am lucky in that I live with my beautiful 23 year old daughter, who is my best friend and will be living with her for a long time to come as she sadly wouldn't be able to live alone as she has a chronic pain condition that leaves her exhausted. We have each other and that is the way it is likely to be for the future. I certainly never imagined her life would turn out this way. Her dearest wish is to have a child but I am fearful she might not ever meet anyone because she can't get out to socialise. Sometimes we talk about a suicide pact (in a joking way) but really it is sad that we even have those thoughts.

Reading some of the posts on here today, I think I should look to the positives in our lives but sometimes that is really hard to do when you see your daughter in so much pain daily.

Cheery_Daff

Goodness, so much going on here these last few days!

My mum brought me and my sister up by herself, after she left my dad when I was 3, and my sister 8 months old. She was 24, divorced, with 2 children - a situation I'd never wish on anybody. She suffered depression, and we were very poor, but I would MUCH rather that way than if she'd have stayed with my dad and been miserable.

Incidentally, she got married because once she started going out with my dad, her family expected her to get married, and she never knew she could say no. That's what she got for following other people's expectations!

I'm ever so grateful to her for many things, not least NEVER saying a bad word against my dad, even when he 'couldn't' pay maintenance because he was going on holiday, or didn't turn up to pick us up when he said he would. I'm grateful to her for teaching me strength, resiliance, how to survive on a budget, and that 'family' doesn't only have to mean 'mum and dad', or even just 'blood relations'.

I'm afraid I get ever so riled when people talk about 'single parents' - even judging by this thread, there's SO many people bringing children up in many different situations, how is it EVER possible to make sweeping generalisations?? Let them wash in one ear and out the other, and follow the path that you trust.

Ooh, don't know where that soapbox moment came from, sorry!