Memorygirls - The Matrix Reloaded

fantasia322

maryb wrote: »

Just to let you all know I have had a lovely PM from MG (all sorted now, by the way MG) and I fully understand why she has not wanted to tackle her inbox. It seems some 'phantom posters' have sent her some really nasty personal emails and she has, I think, been dreading what she would read next. It's hard to believe there are people like that out there when this thread is so supportive.

MG, you will bounce back from this just as you did from being left standing in the bank, and if we can help, we will. Remember to accept it.

And put the phantom posters on ignore, and delete their PMs without opening. Don't stay away from the forum, we all want to cheer you on as you regroup

Glad it's all sorted now, but as for phantom posters. I guess some people have nothing better to do with their time, and are also too inadequate to make an impact openly. I just don't get it.

clairewop

Bitsy_Beans wrote: »

also known as AE, alter ego, troll and people with clearly nothing better to do.
At the end of the day if I've got something to say I can quite clearly post it under my own name. But then again I am not the sort of person who'd need to go making personal comments to upset someone.

So who ever has been sending this pathetic PM's, shame on you. Perhaps you could act your age next time and not your shoe size?

I hope MG has reported the PM's to abuse.

They are most probably just jelous

groatie_queen

The way round the mean anonymous pm's is for us to make more use of the pm facility at our other online home, which has lots of protection built into it. MG can be more sure that pm's sent 'over there' are not from nasty trolls.

Thank you for your beautiful post Firewalker. I love that image of each of us helping each other's Sun to shine, 15 minutes (or longer) at a time.

Well at last all the heaps of snow have gone here and the world is technicolour again, and safe to walk on once more! I'm having a domestic day here and thoroughly enjoying it - making watercress soup from yellow-stickered watercress, baking bread, etc.. I love Sundays - that feeling of cosiness and rest is so comforting. I like to keep it as a domestic day and do pottering type things, and enjoy taking time to catch up on skype messaging with my far flung family. Restfulness and ease, and simple domesticity, and the cat curled up nearby. Simple pleasures that mean so much.

I hope your Sunday is going well.

GQ xox

Firewalker

groatie_queen wrote: »

The way round the mean anonymous pm's is for us to make more use of the pm facility at our other online home, which has lots of protection built into it. MG can be more sure that pm's sent 'over there' are not from nasty trolls.


GQ xox

I fully agree - several among us have already had loads of support over there; and I am talking all kinds of support.

For my part, I alsways try to do my 15 minutes a day - sometimes longer.

FW

Bitsy_Beans

groatie_queen wrote: »

I love Sundays - that feeling of cosiness and rest is so comforting. I like to keep it as a domestic day and do pottering type things, and enjoy taking time to catch up on skype messaging with my far flung family. Restfulness and ease, and simple domesticity, and the cat curled up nearby. Simple pleasures that mean so much.

Swap with me please? My Sunday has been spent shattered with young kids (mostly DS) bouncing off the walls It's been tipping it down here and it's just too wet and windy to go out and have any fun.
Roll on bedtime when I can collapse :cool:

fantasia322

groatie_queen wrote: »

taking time to catch up on skype messaging with my far flung family. Restfulness and ease, and simple domesticity, and the cat curled up nearby. Simple pleasures that mean so much.

I hope your Sunday is going well.

GQ xox

Only a few weeks GQ and your girls will be with you. Bet you can't wait x

MrsMoo2U

All, I am pleased to hear that some of you are having lovely Sundays. I too love a "domestic" Sunday, doing things that just take my fancy. Today I have baked the lovely twinks hobnobs, muffins, bread and made some soups. I am not looking forward to tomorrow as I have a VERY long day - leaving the house at 4.45 to make it to a meeting in Cardiff by 10 am via the train. Wont be back home until 10 at night. Can you all send me some virtual energy!

I am sorry to say that I am not shocked by phantom posters but I am sorry that MG has had to put up with this. These people are, in my opinion, cowards. If they cannot say what they have to say in an open, adult and honest fashion then what they have to say is obviously not worth taking a bit of notice of. MG, report these PMs and then ignore them. I totally agree that we should use the PMs over the other side as we are all protected there and I also think that any ture support is given there.
Firewalker - your post says so eloquently what I feel. We all strive to do the best that we can, we cannot always predict what is going to happen in our lives and with the best will in the world plan B isnt always enough. Having moved hundreds of miles away from my own support network I have quickly learned that things come out of left field and I have nobody to turn to. I have always been a very reliable person but there have been times recently when I have had to let people down through no fault of my own. This doesn't make me a bad person but I have to say that it has certainly made me evaluate what a true friend is. I also have to say that when somebody is dealing with one thing after another the easiest thing to do is bury your head in the sand and hope that things sort themselves out. Anybody who cannot accept and understand that must have been lucky enough to never have any real challenges to face in their lives and so I feel that they should not judge a person because they are struggling to cope.

The last thing that I want to see happen is for this thread to lose its positivity, support and general happiness. All of the people on here have helped to pull me through what has been a very difficult year, whether you know it or not you have done more to help than you will ever know. I am sure that MG feels this way too so please all lets pull together when any of us are struggling. And yes, lets also close ranks if any one of us is being bullied and that is what I see as happening with phantom posters.

susan946

maryb wrote: »

Someone who registers under a different user name to the one they usually post under so that the things they say can't be traced back to them. Usually a troll on the forum but in this case it seems they have also sent upsetting PMs

That's an awful thing to do. Everyone who posts on here seems so kind and supportive it's hard to imagine anyone who contributes being a phantom poster. I'd guess it's someone who follows but doesn't post - hope so. Whoever it is - hope they go away.

Sue

groatie_queen

Ahh, Bitsy I remember days which were filled with children who had far more energy than me! and the squabbles! and interruptions! and no time to think or even relax! I know you have a heavy load just now and you must feel at full stretch so much of the time. Kids with particular needs are very lucky when they have Mums who are so there for them as you are.

I'm in a different season, but oh how I miss my girls and Fantasia, yes, it's so great to be on a countdown and know that five weeks today I'll be giving my girls real, not virtual hugs :j:j. And I'll be making every precious second of the two or three days they are with me count, and intend them to be as special and memorable as we can make it.

I absolutely agree with you Cheri about the Matrix and how we all need this kind of mutual support, not always there in our daily lives. It doesn't matter if we are in relationships or live alone, as I do too, whether we are working or trying to get work or start a business, we all need to be understood and cheered on and connected with people of like minds and hearts, who understand what we are trying to do. And who offer that wee bit of valuable knowledge or support or sheer humankindness just when we need it most.

This place and the other, is my refuge and support and has been an absolute beacon of light and comfort for many reasons. I know that when it's my turn to deal with more of life's slings and arrows that I can come to the Matrix and find wise words and new ideas and perspectives, and get picked up and dusted off!

GQ xox

maryb

susan946 wrote: »

That's an awful thing to do. Everyone who posts on here seems so kind and supportive it's hard to imagine anyone who contributes being a phantom poster. I'd guess it's someone who follows but doesn't post - hope so. Whoever it is - hope they go away.

Sue

MG did say that there were PMs from one or two people with low post numbers so she thinks the phantoms are also people who follow but don't post. I don't think it could possibly be any of the regulars.

Trouble is when you have had a few like that, then ANY email chasing for something feels threatening. MG, I do hope that I haven't contributed to your stress in any way by chasing for replies but that you now feel able to tackle the last outstanding bits so you can move on to your new style of business