Christmas pressie list .... Your thoughts!

Sammy_Dee

Just wondering what people's thoughts are on this.

An adult with a list of gifts that they would like for Christmas (ranging from £2 - £50) and that list sent to family/friends.


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Personally, I don't see a big issue with it, I would rather get somebody something they really wanted, than a giftset or similar that they perhaps could not use (skin conditions)

I know however, that some people find gift lists the height of bad manners ...

What's the general consensus here?

fiscalfreckles

I would never send out a list, but make one privately & if anyone asked me what I would like for Christmas I would offer a couple of suggestions from it. I oversee my kids' lists in the same way.

I think to send a whole list looks a bit rude. I know it seems practical but think you should let the giver decide whether they want to choose themselves or ask for ideas

RoxieW

If people want telling what to buy for you then they will ask you.
I personally like my gift to be a surprise to the recipient.
However I have given lists to granny when she's asked what to buy my boys for Xmas etc. A couple of older family members just send me a cheque and I buy gifts and wrap them from them. They find it easier that way. The request must come from them though!
My husband and I tell each other what we want but that is different.

MatyMoo

Depends on the adult and circumstances!

My sister was made redundant and, for a better quality of life, took a part time job paying 30% of her old salary so now works to a very strict budget. I welcome her list as I know it is helping her to have the life she wants and it is things that she needs/wants but would not buy herself - there are usually a couple of small extra's that she isn't expecting.

My niece has just got her first job and home since university and has asked for some specific things this year to help, so I don't have a problem with this either.

What I have a problem with is people writing a list with very expensive things on it and expecting to get it ALL. They really must believe in Santa Claus :rotfl:

Sammy_Dee

Hmmm, food for thought.

For me, I don't mind lists. I read constantly and my Amazon wishlist is miles long. So if I could send my book list out and get a book instead of some cheap chocs and bath salts - I'd be in heaven!

I've also had friends moan and whine to me about presents other people have got them before, whilst I find that incredibly rude and ungrateful, I would rather not be someone who is moaned about behind my back!

Sooooo ... Gimme a list, ease the pressure - Job done! Everyone is a winner!

jackieglasgow

I've never heard of a Christmas gift list, except for the one the kids write for Santa, and am a bit shocked tbh! I suppose I have an idea of things I would like, but I only would tell my OH, I am just grateful for anything anyone gives me. Having said that, I don't think I'd mind using someone else's list to buy them something they need/want. Hmm. Food for thought there.

ailuro2

Write a list and if Santa doesn't bring it you'll have to use your own pocket money to buy it.

If you don't think Santa's going to bring you the stuff on your list then don't bother writing a list.

While it's good to be MSE, imho, it's the height of rudeness to give out a gift list to choose from for one's Christmas present, it's also far too late in the day to be asking for a specific present, many people will have bought the gift already ( well I probably wouldn't want to shell out too much on someone if they were rude enough to send me out a list, so they'd be getting a "regift" or something very cheap from last January's sale:rotfl:)

One would get away with a subtle hint here and there, "liking" something you want on FB for example.

travelgran

When asked I've often given a different list of things to my children and husband to choose from and and said I'd like any one. That way I get a surprise when I open it plus it's something I want.

SingleSue

We, as a family, always do lists.

We started after the constant moans of not knowing what to buy me, (I am incredibly difficult to buy for) so I did a list of the books I was after, this then snowballed to the children doing lists, then my parents and siblings and then finally, the close family friends who are involved in our Christmas.

Since the start of doing lists, there are less items put to the back of the cupboard or returned to the shop due to duplicates and of course, because an item is on the list, the giver knows the person will really appreciate it.

Mind you, there is always a little present given as an extra which is not on the list but which has been carefully selected for the receiver, so the surprise is still there.

With the list, it doesn't mean that everyone has to adhere to it, it is more a guideline for the close family members.

MatyMoo

Hmmm, lots of different opinions on here and I understand many of them

The one thing I didn't make clear is that the adults I know have a mental list and only write it down or distribute it when asked for it.

I agree that it would be very bad manners to just send it out unsolicited.

Some people just don't get subtle hints or tips, my OH included :rotfl: I always seem to get a new gismo or gadget that he secretly covets, luckily they are almost always useful and something I would not buy for myself so I am usually very happy

Sammy_Dee

It's always intrigued me. I had never heard of the concept until last Christmas when a new (but now one of my very good friends) commented that she had a list, and would I mind taking a look.
I was surprised at first, but then I thought "actually, that's not a bad idea"

I thought it was a bit presumptious But then again, I know people start shopping quite early on, so it could help some.

www.prezzylist.com



It's good for teenagers too! Stops the "what do you think I should get for my nephew/neice" type questions.