what shall i do

Becles

lkmc01 wrote: »

i've got no chance of fitting a part time job in. i struggle to study, clean and tidy the house and look after son at the moment!!

You need to organise your time better if you can. I've just finished a four year BA degree with the OU, and continued to work in my part time self employed job, did all the house work and looked after three children including the third who was born during the degree. It was hard work, but it is possible.

If he is unhappy in the job he is doing, it will affect him mentally. He'll end up not wanting to go to work and hating the time he is there, which will drag his overall mood down. I was in a job I hated before I went self employed and it really made me feel depressed. Changing jobs and doing something I enjoy was a really good move as I felt much better mentally.

lkmc01

so if one week he ends up with say 28 hours how can we put food on the table and not waste 4 grand?

Googlewhacker

lkmc01 wrote: »

i've asked him why and he says cos he is sick of abuse bus driving, but thats no reason to take a pay cut

Sorry but it is, would you rather he stays in a job that he hates?

If you are feeling under appreciated then I suggest you persuade him to do more work around the house to help you but bear in mind he has to look after his well being as well and 6 hours extra a week is not really alot

MrsE_2

I worked full time, studied for my AAT part time for three years & did the housework.

GavB79

He is doing his best to provide whilst you are being a student - what kind of job are you hoping to get that NEEDS an MSc? When you qualify and are earning £20 an hour, twice his salary, I hope you let him give up work to look after your child and do the housework as reward for him supporting you through your degree. I bet he wouldn't complain as you are doing.

liney

He is enabling you to do post grad study, and you are begruding him changing jobs because he's being verbally abused! He's not walking out; he's doing the responsible thing by applying for alternative employment paying around the same as his current job.

The issue you have isn't your husband, it's your time managment. Have you ever heard the phrase "Housework expands to fill the time available"? It's very true. Many women work full time and still do the vast majority of the housework and childcare. The difference is that studying is your "job" and you need to allocate time for it which means you do not do the housework, during those hours.

Bobl

You need to take a step back and look at the situation as an outsider. You are still 'at school' thinking only of yourself, and in today's work opportunities, or lack of, the MSc will not help you get a job over others with actual experience. He is putting food on the table to enable you to study, and actually wants to enjoy his job which is why he is looking for anew job that hopefully will lead to less stress - good on him. My BIL is a Bus Driver and the abuse he gets is disgusting.

Stop thinking about yourself and start appreciating your partner who is trying to do the right thing by you, the family and now himself.

Good Luck to him.

Oldernotwiser

Having now read some of your earlier posts I am going to leave this or else I'll say something really rude to you and probably get banned!

FATBALLZ

lkmc01 wrote: »

i spend hours and hours each and every day tidying up after my partner and son, I then have to study over night

Then you should be in favour of this, your partner will have 6 hours a week less to make a mess, you can then get a part time job yourself due to the reduced cleaning time.

Seriously though you're having a laugh about the cleaning, anybody who spends hours a day cleaning needs professional help. Unless they actually have a job as a cleaner - that's an idea for you, it might suit you.

viktory

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Having now read some of your earlier posts I am going to leave this or else I'll say something really rude to you and probably get banned!

*Wanders off to look at OP's other posts*