teenagers paying board ?

RAS

Have you parents also made sure you are listed as a student for CT purposes? Otherwise they will be billed for CT unneccesarily.

whatatwit

EMA is paid directly to the student, not to the parent.
Your parents income must be over £30810 for you not to get the lower amount of £10 per week.

I have found the child benefits agency very helpful when I had a problem with my bank account. I emailed them and they sent me a form. Filled it in and my payments resumed very quickly and I got the outstanding monies paid at the same time.

My daughter does not qualify for EMA either, so I give her a weekly termtime payment and from this she pays for her travel and any other 6th form expenses. She does have a Saturday job and this pays for her social life, clothes and toiletries. She also gets her own lunches and often buys food for tea also.

FatVonD

I didn't go to college/uni but was expected to contribute a token amount for housekeeping as soon as I started work at age 16, my parents didn't need it but felt it was a lesson that needed learning and I agree.

That said, I expect to support DS as long as he's in full time education (and I'm sure my parents would have done the same.)

Could it possibly be that your parents are short of money and view buying clothes as frittering away the money that (may look like it's) been diverted from their pockets to yours when they are struggling?

You mention buying food, did you mean lunches or food at home? Maybe you could write down where the money is going and work out a small amount that you could contribute to the household food bill and take sandwiches to college?

Brighton_belle

Violetta - if you are getting dla, it mean you need that extra money to cope with the extra burden of illness or disability. I think people don't realise the extra expence of having an illness or disabilty. So any pennies you have left over to save is essential for the unexpected.
I hope your parents are proud of you coping with what ever it is you have to, and still being focussed enough to go to college:T. As you say there are other ways to contibute, such as cleaning etc and it doesn't sound to me like you are someone looking for an easy ride.

Have you parents suggested how much they would like from you? Are they sympathetic to your situation but desparate. Or have they not got a clue? If it came to it: do they think you should give up college so you can give more money to them?
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LJM

i think you should pay board you are living in your parents house they are paying for you to be there i agree with other posters that you should contribute i held down a 2 college course and also 2 part time jobs so that i could contribute to my parents weekly and i managed to pass my course just fine

bestpud

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Well, then people should be aware of the cost having a child before they decide to have one. Just because they turn 17 doesn't mean they should be able to fend for themselves. You have children for life, and as long as they are in education, parents should still contribute.

If they leave education as young adults (17/18), then it's up to the parents whether they charge *some* rent/living costs. Although I don't think I could bring myself to do it, tbh. Taking money from the children you chose to bring into the world sounds very wrong to me. It must be a cultural difference (French).

I agree parents should support children until they are 18, if they are in full time education.

Mine were told I would support them until they left college but if they decided to leave education, I'd charge them rent.

I don't think that makes me a bad parent tbh. I prefer my children to see family as a two way thing and not see me as a cash machine.

I disagree parents should keep a 'child' once they get to HE and receive student finance for living costs. I wouldn't charge rent during the holidays if they lived away but I would if they lived at home and went to a local uni.

I also disagree that charging a child a nominal rent is subsidising them and nothing like leaving them to fend for themselves!

PolishBigSpender has hit the nail on the head when she says the children are expected to give to their family as well as take in Poland.

You say British parents are selfish for expecting their ADULT children to contribute IF they have an income of their own, but I say British children are selfish and expect everything to be handed to them on a plate. That isn't how I want my children to turn out tbh.

We won't agree, of course, but I think there is pros and cons to both views and I prefer to stick with mine.

skipsmum

DS is 16 and recieves EMA and DLA. We are still getting child benefit for him as well. He gives me £10 of his EMA towards his travel to college (I take him and its 10 miles away). I make sure there is plenty of packed lunch food in the house and if he wants anything else he has to buy it out of his own money. He soon stopped buying sausage rolls at college.
We split his DLA, he has 1/3, I have 1/3 towards his general disability expenses, and we bank 1/3 for him for the future.

paddedjohn

skipsmum wrote: »

ds is 16 and recieves ema and dla. We are still getting child benefit for him as well. He gives me £10 of his ema towards his travel to college (i take him and its 10 miles away). I make sure there is plenty of packed lunch food in the house and if he wants anything else he has to buy it out of his own money. He soon stopped buying sausage rolls at college.
We split his dla, he has 1/3, i have 1/3 towards his general disability expenses, and we bank 1/3 for him for the future.

if he can afford to bank 1/3 of his dla benefit surely he could afford to give it back to the state as he obviously doesnt need it.

onlyroz

I wouldn't expect my kids to pay rent while they are still in full time education. I also woyld't demand they got a job while studying either.

paddedjohn

onlyroz wrote: »

i wouldn't expect my kids to pay rent while they are still in full time education. I also woyld't demand they got a job while studying either.

well maybe you could afford to keep your kids and thats great but the ops mum is on a low income and the op gets about £50 per week dla which is obviously not needed for any special requirements.
The op sounds like a spoilt brat to me and should pay up