teenagers paying board ?

niceday999

I personally could not take a penny of the kids if they are working hard either at school or uni....Its only a short time and they should concentrate on their education.......it costs little more in bills for 3 or 4 people than 2 anyway...The heating will be on regardless of how many people are at home same goes for cooking.....etc.....
I subsidize both my (adult) children.......then i know i have done my best for them....with no regrets !!!!!!!!

bestpud

niceday999 wrote: »

I personally could not take a penny of the kids if they are working hard either at school or uni....Its only a short time and they should concentrate on their education.......it costs little more in bills for 3 or 4 people than 2 anyway...The heating will be on regardless of how many people are at home same goes for cooking.....etc.....
I subsidize both my (adult) children.......then i know i have done my best for them....with no regrets !!!!!!!!

I think you'd be surprised how much extra it does cost to have a teen at home tbh.

Also, I think there is two ways of viewing what is 'best for them' from a parenting point of view.

Some would argue it is irresponsible not to teach adult children how to pay their way, even if it's only a token sum. This is more if they are in HE and receiving a student finance package that is meant to cover their living costs but also applies at FE level in some cases.

Sequeena

When I got my job (18 going on 19) I paid £100 a month board so £25 a week but I also helped out with food shopping.

*max*

bestpud wrote: »

I think you'd be surprised how much extra it does cost to have a teen at home tbh.

Well, then people should be aware of the cost having a child before they decide to have one. Just because they turn 17 doesn't mean they should be able to fend for themselves. You have children for life, and as long as they are in education, parents should still contribute.

If they leave education as young adults (17/18), then it's up to the parents whether they charge *some* rent/living costs. Although I don't think I could bring myself to do it, tbh. Taking money from the children you chose to bring into the world sounds very wrong to me. It must be a cultural difference (French).

ailuro2

It doesn't matter what money you have coming in, you should be paying a %age of it towards your keep.

If you think they're being tight/nasty/mean/unfair then move out and see how you fare paying for everything by yourself.;)

They are on a low income and can't afford to keep you (will probably have lost around £80 a month)

Have you all checked out entitledto the govt. website that tells you what you can /should be claiming?

Sammy_Dee

My sister lives with me and she receives £60 a week income support (She's 17) (problems with our mum, hence with me)


I don't receive anything for her, so I asked for £10 a week towards food and bills.

She happily accepted - She knows how expensive everyday bills etc are.

PolishBigSpender

*max* wrote: »

Taking money from the children you chose to bring into the world sounds very wrong to me. It must be a cultural difference (French).

Same here, it's rather normal for the adult children at the university to get financial help from their parents, also noone I know had to pay rent while living in their family house. Maybe because we consider it to belong to the family, and not to the parents only?

On the other hand, the children are expected to look after their elderly parents when they need it, and giving them away to a home is not very well seen - in fact, it's really looked down on.

gozaimasu

I am of the opinion that adults choose to have children and should thus be ready to pay to bring them up. Adults are financially responsible for their children until the age of 25 as long as they are in full-time education which the OP is.

So to answer your question OP, I don't think you should be paying anything.

However a lot of people think that if you start to contribute to the daily running costs of a home, it will make you more financially responsible. If indeed you end up not paying anything, don't waste your DLA, prove to your parents that you are being sensible with your money and show them how you plan to use your money to invest for the future, which means you will eventually rely on them less heavily if you are allowed to live free in the meantime.

Personally I don't understand why you would still want to stay at home as whilst you are there, your parents still control you with their rules. That is the price you pay for "free" living. I got out when I was 18 and worked/paid my own way through education and didn't ask them for a single penny. My sibling, on the other hand, sponged off them throughout their education and is still doing so.

Another way to look at it is to pay the money they ask, then use all of your resources to the maximum to get "value for money". Ideally this would be using the internet as much as possible to look at ways of getting even more money than they are taking from you. Much like "unlimited usage" on most student/shared accommodation rental contracts.

gozaimasu

*max* wrote: »

Well, then people should be aware of the cost having a child before they decide to have one. Just because they turn 17 doesn't mean they should be able to fend for themselves. You have children for life, and as long as they are in education, parents should still contribute.

If they leave education as young adults (17/18), then it's up to the parents whether they charge *some* rent/living costs. Although I don't think I could bring myself to do it, tbh. Taking money from the children you chose to bring into the world sounds very wrong to me. It must be a cultural difference (French).

I could not agree with you more, especially the "children for life" part. Although I do think French society favours children much more strongly. If you think parents here are irrational and selfish...don't even think about insulting a child in France.

violetta.

thankyou for all off your replies. i was a bit wary of posting originally, but i think i did the right thing to hear both sides of the argument. in all honestly i would love to move out but there is no way at the moment that i would be able to afford to. i recieve less than £50 a week, most of which goes on travel, food, stationary etc which i already scrimp and save (thanks to being a long time lurker of mse) so whatever i have left i save . my parents dont recieve ema for me or my younger brother, and the cb has been a big problem recently due to the forms being filled out wrongly (but thats another issue). i contribute to the household by cleaning, cooking etc (which i would expect any other 18 year oldto do anyway) but unless i get a part time job (which i have unsuccesfully tried to do in the past but am looking) i dont see where any extra income would come from


im still looking and trying to digest the replies ....thankyou for your time
vi