Immoral_angel's Debt Diary

immoral_angeluk

I've come to the conclusion that my dad is attempting to buy a relationship with me as he always used to. Either that or he's heard that I've won a crate of Banks' Bitter and he wants to get his grubby alcoholic hands on it.. :rotfl:
But if he's stupid enough to give me money when he dies in the hope of me being all pal-ey with him again then so be it. Not that it's going to do jack.
It's just a good job Ste wasn't here or else he would've lamped him one!

Still trying to work out the 2 bank accounts thing... it's still not making sense in my head! lol!

Toto

When you've lost a parent it's pretty low for the other parent to use their own death as a way of wriggling back into your life. The last thing you want to consider is having to deal with another death (even if you aren't close to that person)

immoral_angeluk

Tell me about it but that's the kind of thing he does. When my mum was diagnosed with Cancer he couldn't deal with the fact that everyone was paying attention to her so he made up a story about him having tests for bowel cancer. He's the lowest of the low.

immoral_angeluk

The most annoying thing is my kidney wasn't hurting before he came round.. now it's hurting like hell again AND I've got a headache....
Coincedence or psychosomatic?? Who knows but it's bloody annoying.

Karmacat

Sorry you're going through this IA - its hard to understand that a father can treat his own child like this. And now you're in pain again........

blackangeluk

Hi IA

Sorry to hear about your Dad turning up but I hope his visit brings you some good news with the policy - you do deserve it.

Re your bank account - we have a bank account that all bills go out of and a bank account that are our "spends", i.e. food, etc so we can see exactly what we have in there and don't get it confused with the other accounts that have loads of DDs going out. Not sure how it would work with salaries etc but might help keep it clearer.

Hope you are feeling better soon x

Toto

I'm not surprised you feel the way you do about your dad. From someone else who lost their mum to cancer I think your dad's behaviour was appalling. He has obviously never had to watch someone he loves die from that evil disease. I think it's ok to feel any way you do about your dad, I've thought some awful things about mine. My father couldn't give a stuff about his grandchildren, I have to send birthday cards through the post for them pretending they are from him, because he started sending them, then decided he couldn't be arsed. Anyway, many a time while I'm choosing cards with grandson or granddaughter on I've thought about how bloody lucky he is to be alive to see his grandchildren grow up and how my mother would have sold her soul to the devil to have that chance. I've also thought that if I could have chosen which parent went it wouldn't have been my mum. See, I am an evil person.

So, don’t let your dad make you feel angry, sad, anything. He doesn’t deserve your emotions. And, certainly don’t let your kidneys give him the attention either. I hope you feel better tomorrow.

Snaggles

Sorry about your problems with your Dad IA. How can someone like that have fathered someone like you??

I hope you feel less shaken tomorrow and I hope your kidneys settle back down again too. If I'm stressed I tense my stomach and lower back up (not on purpose, I just don't realise I'm doing it), and I often end up with what feels like kidney pain - could that be what you're doing? Try and focus on relaxing those muscles and see if that helps at all.

Snaggles

PS - 200 pages and almost 4000 posts in your diary now!!!

immoral_angeluk

Jesus... 200 pages?????? I'm suprised Rich hasn't made me a part 2 yet! lol!... I do want to start another one because of the length of this but want to do it at a poignant time.. LMAO.

Oh and hows this for a kick in the teeth... someone on my local freecycle has offered a bass guitar :mad: Trouble is you have to email them literally straight away otherwise someone will take it really quickly because it's so busy all the time.