Ive been asked to leave home

popadom

make sure you get child maintence!http://www.csa.gov.uk/en/setup/how-maintenance-calculated.asp
its a terrbile suitation as it is, but you can at least use the money to buy food!

Tammer

Hi,

I sympathise with your situation. The reality is though that he's stuffed, once you have a kid with someone there's no getting away from it all until they're an adult. Here's my advice:

• Do not leave the house. What's he going to do? I suspect that as you have a kid, he's more likely to have to leave the house if, say, the police were called.

• He will have to pay maintenance for the child for the next 18 years. Ask him how much he's prepared to pay and when does it start.

• Contact the Citizen's Advice Bureau as someone else has suggested. Also consider a solicitor that offers a free initial consultation. If you have been paying bills you may have a claim on part of the house for another reason (not just because you're the mother of his child).

You have my best wishes. Be strong.

suited-aces

Best of luck OP. Don't know what sort of man would put his kid and their mother on the street.

The_Next_Verse

suited-aces wrote: »

Best of luck OP. Don't know what sort of man would put his kid and their mother on the street.

Anyone that would cannot be considered a 'man'.

Hope you manage to sort things out OP.

lauren_1

Tammer wrote: »

Hi,

I sympathise with your situation. The reality is though that he's stuffed, once you have a kid with someone there's no getting away from it all until they're an adult. Here's my advice:

• Do not leave the house. What's he going to do? I suspect that as you have a kid, he's more likely to have to leave the house if, say, the police were called.

If the OP is not on the deeds or tenancy she doesn't have a leg to stand on regarding the house and if they are both on the tenancy the police can do diddly squat as its a domestic matter

• He will have to pay maintenance for the child for the next 18 years. Ask him how much he's prepared to pay and when does it start.

Why ask him? just go straight to the CSA

• Contact the Citizen's Advice Bureau as someone else has suggested. Also consider a solicitor that offers a free initial consultation. If you have been paying bills you may have a claim on part of the house for another reason (not just because you're the mother of his child).

You have my best wishes. Be strong.

Are you taking the child with you?

Broken_hearted

With respect no-one said he was kicking the child out, only that he was kicking her out. He has a house a job and stability, there is no reason the child could not stay with him.

flutterby_lil

Hello Soda
How are you today? have you had chance to talk. If you say things have not been well for a couple of years, has something happened to make him do this?
How old is the child and have you any plans to move back to where your family and friends are?
Good luck, keep us updated x

dogcat_2

Just wanted to say..hope things work out for you, it must be a very stressfull time. Good Luck. Lets know what happens. Hope you are ok.

sassyblue

You have a child together. If it's that bad for him tell him to leave while you try and find somewhere else, he has to contribute to his child so bear that in mind with rent and stuff and yes go and talk to the local housing authority asap.

Not sure l'd leave a child of mine with it's father if he kicked me out, he doesn't sound like much of a dad. :mad:

soda-monkey

Wow! There has been so many replies,thank you.

Broken_hearted wrote: »

With respect no-one said he was kicking the child out, only that he was kicking her out. He has a house a job and stability, there is no reason the child could not stay with him.

Yes,i agree with broken hearted, my partner said to me that he assumed our daughter would stay with me as i am the one who works child/school friendly hours and he works various shifts BUT i know he could change to days if he wanted to.

With the thing that happened a couple of years ago with his sister in law,he always maintained the fact that he never liked her and his brother rang him up one day (we were at the same uni at the time) saying that i had been saying awful things about her which really want true as im not like that. my partner rang me up to not ask me about it, but yell at me and this completely took me by surprise as he believed her over me even though he grew up with her and knew she is a compulsive liar. That has hung over us ever since.

Since then, we have tried so hard but the last year he has been going out to they gym a lot and not telling me to the last minute.

Financially,things are tight but i know we are not the exception to
this. my partner has lost all over time but i told him he should never take over time for granted or rely on it as part of his basic wage. We argue about money and i feel like i am the one who is forking out for our daughters basic needs. i cant remember the last time he paid for her presents,school uniform,etc.

I know people are probably reading this thinking 'oh well but he pays for the mortgage' but his repayments are very low and for what i pay out it is almost twice the mortgage cost and most of my wages. I am curious to know where the other £1000+ from his wages goes as he is always telling me he is skint.

we are both off tomorrow but we didnt say anything to eachother this morning. I know in my heart though,if i had the money,i would be out of here like a shot because i cant bear it anymore.

Soda