Botched termination-urgent help!

ooobedoo

Thank you al for your words of support, I will pass them on.

I am very sure it's not about money, it's about this Dr's attitude, she did nothing to say she was sorry, she was horrible to my friend and basically my friend is so distraught about it that yes, she doe swant somebody to blame. This isn't about as broken leg that wasn't fixed properly. It's possibly the most emotive subject that she will ever go through. I think it's tragic, I really do.

I will tell her to google failed terminations, I don't judge, I just want to help her. I wanted to be able to direct her to this page so she could read the msgs but obviously I can't now.

Debt_Free_Chick

Sarahsaver wrote:

I think it is wrong to sue the NHS it is a public service. The same people who sue will complain about lack of funding...

I just think there's no point - as it's only funded by taxpayers, we are effectively "suing ourselves". Any money paid out for a successful claim, simply gets deducted from the nursing/care budget - so more planned ops are cancelled.

No medical procedure is 100% guaranteed to be 100% successful, first time.

In order to sue, one would have to demonstrate negligence i.e. that the surgeon/staff didn't do something they should have done; or did something they shouldn't have done.

domestic_goddess

I would still show her this page, the positives far outweigh the negative comments.

I completely agree that sueing is not always all about the money (although it can be sometimes these days).... I had a relative who was recovering from cancer and when he went to get his regular check up they told him that it had come back again and as it was back so soon then it must be a very aggressive growth. It was a full month before they were able to tell him that he didn't have cancer again, the idiot that had sent the samples away had sent the wrong sample away. Can you imagine how he must have felt for that month thinking he wasn't going to see his kids grow up all because some idiot didn't do there job right. I know that this is slightly different to your friends situation but I really believe that sometimes people sue for justice not for money.

clairec79

What usually happens when an abortion fails is that it was an undiagnosed twin pregnancy, one twin was aborted (which was seen - and at 8 weeks it is pretty obvious what has come out if you are looking for it). If they don't realise it was a twin they assume the abortion has worked.

trickytrolleys

I really feel for your friend and i really hope she manages to come through this - I wish her the best of luck and send her hugs!!!

Although i understand why people are uncomfortable with suing the NHS i often feel its the only way that a complaint is taken seriously and changes are actually made, otherwise I think they just make all the appropriate noises and forget about it as soon as you walk out the door.

Just because your friend signed a consent form, as with any operation an abortion can fail, it would not protect the doctor if the doctor was negligent.

Savvy_Sue

PALS - Patient Advice and Liaison Service. The hospital must have one, and they should be good people for trying to make sure that this doctor never speaks to anyone like that again. Which, although it doesn't help her, might make her feel better. People do have mixed experience of them, but I found they were very helpful when I just wanted my neurosurgeon to fill in the forms which would enable DVLA to say I could drive again!

ailuro2

I had a missed miscarriage a couple of years ago and had to have a 'procedure' to take away the remains- (a missed miscarriage is when the body doesn't know the baby has died and keeps it.)

The doctor I saw was a heartless !!!!!, put me down on the sheet as an abortion and it was the nurse looking after me who had to point out to her that I was a miscarriage.After that she was a tiny bit nicer,but still made me feel really bad,even though I didn't think things could be worse.

I think they probably have to be pretty hard-hearted when we know the statistics on the women who use abortions as a method of birth control,:mad: they don't take(have?) time to see each of the rest of us as an individual with an individual reason for the procedure.

clairec79

Abortion (albeit spontaneous abortion) is the offical term for a miscarriage. What most people call abortions are generally recorded as a termination of pregnancy (or induced abortion).

I know it doesn't help emotionally when you are in that state, but he probably wrote abortion because technically abortion is just the end of a pregnancy before 24 weeks - regardless of what causes it - nature or someone deliberately doing it, rather than thinking of how seeing that would affect you

ailuro2

Thanks, I know miscarriages are termed as abortions.Horrible word.The Dr. was a She, and the term she wrote referred to an induced termination, not a miscarriage, I wouldn't have noticed a small thing like that,but the nurse picked her up on it.:mad:

Hope the OP's friend is feeling better now.

patchwork_cat

Hi
7 in 1000 abortions fail. link here