Botched termination-urgent help!

Savvy_Sue

There may be a pregnancy crisis centre near you which could support her at this time. I know that we have one in Bristol where anyone can talk through things at any stage - from the "Help I'm pregnant and I don't want to be" to "I had an abortion and now I regret it". The GP or midwife would be good people to ask about this. I am sure they would give support through a worrying pregnancy.

Hugs.

vizcacha

What an ordeal

please send her hugs from me xxx

I really hope things get better for her soon

alba37

I found this stat on surgical termination:

Over 99% successful. Less than 1% of the time it fails and needs to be repeated.

Unfortunately I really do think is will be covered by the consent form. She will be full of emotions just now and must be a very difficult time. I had a friend who fell pregnant on the contraceptive injection, the hosp thought it may affect the baby, but the baby was born 100% healthy... My thoughts are with your friend.

mandi

advent1122 wrote:

That would be high on my priorites at this time too.

She wants to sue the hospital,


Forget about a potential life then,... Money talks.:D ..An unborn baby cant..............

roswell

mandi wrote:

She wants to sue the hospital,


Forget about a potential life then,... Money talks.:D ..An unborn baby cant..............

All I say is there lawyers will be considerably more expensive than yours and coudl drag it out for years and dont forget He who loose`s pays ......

Im sure there will be a success / failure rate on the forms she signed.

wigginsmum

What a terrible situation to be in - I'll be praying that she can get the support she needs and that she and the baby remain healthy.

Emmzi

She doesn't need to sue if she wants answers.

My dad used to volunteer as an adjudicator for NHS disputes. The aim was to work out what went wrong, why, and stop it happening again- surely the most important thing to do?

*Sometimes* there is cash; sometimes not.

He also said the toughest cases were when someone died and the family just couldn't accept it - they needed someone to blame... even where there was no negigence.

Anyway - first action, hospital's internal complaints procedure booklet?

ailuro2

There was a woman here in Scotland who tried to sue but failed, after she had a failed termination.
tbh,all I could think of when reading it was- how is that woman's child going to feel reading that when he is older, and knowing he was unwanted, and she tried to get money out of the fact she hadn't wanted him? Even if he doesn't see the article he will be told in the playground his mummy didn't want him.So sad. These cases do happen. There are risks.

I understand completely that your friend is in a slightly different situation, but I feel that,as in many things in this life, some things are just meant to happen, and they happen for a reason. I speak as the mother of a daughter born while I was on the pill and declaring I didn't intend having any kids.I haven't managed to have any more kids-did someone/thing somewhere want this to happen before my time ran out??


I'd help her concentrate on the positive side of this event- what's done is done, and if she looks on it as a second chance at deciding to keep the baby she may feel less distraught.

I do hope she feels better soon, she's lucky to have a friend like you who cares for her.

Sarahsaver

I think it is wrong to sue the NHS it is a public service. The same people who sue will complain about lack of funding...

elaine373

I am sad for your friend as i am sure she went for the termination for all the right reasons. I hope one day soon she is happy it didnt work.Too may women go for terminations because they cant see any other way out. Many have problems dealing with it after.I hope she gets all the support she needs to go forward.If that baby is meant to be it will be. give her a hug from me.