In a mess, deeper and deeper...

ocalllo · 20 October 2010 at 1:12PM

i agree with Sunshinetours - i think you have answered your own question and there are so many doubts, would you ever feel happy there?

Getting up and looking at rusty fences and putting your child off bringing his firends home after school, will only become more and more of a problem as time goes on and make you unhappy.

Why not stay put where you are on cheaper rent, save some more and you might be able to afford a better area in the future.

There is such a stigma about owning your own home, it puts pressure on everyone.

you are not a failure just beacuse you don't own your own home.

good luck.

Catblue · 20 October 2010 at 1:14PM

I also think it is not the right place for you. The immediate neighbourhood and no private parking are things that you cannot change really. I wouldn't compromise on those things - whereas the inside of the house can be a compromise since you can actually do something about it.

And yep, it would bother me hugely that the neighbours air their laundry on my front step. If I saw that, I wouldn't need to see inside the house, it would be a resounding no.

Keep saving and keep looking.

tompritchard · 20 October 2010 at 1:19PM

moving house can be very stressful. Keep calm and make the right decision - a home is not a business decision so go with your gut on this one: do you want to live somewhere that might make you money, but leave you unhappy?

poppysarah · 20 October 2010 at 1:20PM

BigTrouble wrote: »

And there is pressure all right - they need to complete quickly.

You don't though. So don't.

jenhug · 20 October 2010 at 1:24PM

i'd pull out. you wont be happy there, and you know it.

ruggedtoast · 20 October 2010 at 1:45PM

Rightmove link!

morg_monster · 20 October 2010 at 2:40PM

I felt a bit like this the night after we made a somewhat rushed offer on our first house. Didn't sleep a wink and kept thinking... what have we done, what have we done?! So was my DH.
BUT then next morning, the sun came up, and I had another look at the rightmove listing, and the bad feelings went away and never came back. I'm not saying our house was perfect, but the important things were right and the other things didn't bother me much.

For these kind of feelings to be taking over so much, that is not just buyer nerves, that is not right. Getting a bargain isn't the be all and end all, if it isn't right for you, you can hang back in your lovely rented house for a while longer without losing everything.

themull1 · 20 October 2010 at 2:47PM

If you're n ot 100% sure, don't do it. if you do walk away and you feel like a huge weight has been lifted you've done the right thing. Go with you're gut instinct.

dizziblonde · 20 October 2010 at 3:56PM

Sounds like you're sure it's not for you and it's not just big expense jitters (I've had those and I flipping KNOW the street we're buying in).

As for the parking thing - I'd cope with no off street, I'd cope with poor access - but trekking up and down with shopping sucks and really wears you down after time.

tesuhoha · 20 October 2010 at 5:17PM

Its all about location,location, location and I bet if you look on Rightmove for long enough you will find a house that would suit you better for the same price. I would not go for it because it is a buyers' market and when you are buying and selling houses you do not always have everything going for you at all times. What I am saying is make the best of the present opportunities because it could be a very bitter and expensive mistake. Do not worry about hurting the feelings of those involved in the sale. They are strangers to you, not family or friends and you don't owe them anything. You should find the best home possible for your son. You should be picky and look long and hard. Don't make any hasty decisions because the market is on your side and you may be able to make a silly offer on something you did not dream you could afford.