Weekly Flylady Thread 18th October 2010

msgnomey

Jasper-your OH needs a kick up the **** tell him what you need is help and support not criticism and put downs, does he help out around the house?? GGGRRRR I really feel for you babe (it must be the hormones LOL)

Any way I am now off to bed hopefully to sleep (after I have taken God knows how many pills!!)

Hugs and spoons all round
(Oh and I made my list, will post it tomorrow don't worry they are all jobs I can do sitting down!)

macpep1

jasperconran wrote: »

Hi all,

Can I join your thread please? I am desperate....everything has gone wrong this year. I had money saved up for our 1 week away and had to use it to clear some arrears for OH as I panicked (stupid i know) and used the money up. but thats not why I have come on here. I started a new job about 3 months ago and I was working full time and everything ( and i mean everything) has fallen apart. The house I am ashamed to say is a pit, I have fallen off the wagon with regards to meal planning, batch cooking, baking etc and have been having far too many takeaways i feel :eek:

I am constantly being told by my OH that I am a rubbish wife/person with regards to houswork and I whilst I sit here, I am crying so much that I can just about see to type. pathetic isnt it?? I feel like I really need some friends right now. How can I get organised please? I have never really been organised really in my life and no matter how hard I try.....its never good enough for anyone. please can someone help me turn things around?

thanks in advance to anyone who can help

JC x

First of all, welcome to the thread, everyone here is so helpful and friendly and will not judge you, do what you can, when you can, I find that when I get in from work, I just wanna flop on the couch and watch tv but I dont, when kids are having dinner I try and work on the list, if you are watching tv, during the ads, see what you can do, it will really surprise you!!! I found it difficult at first and thought "how the heck do all these superwomen manage this in a day" but my biggest tip is decluttering - it has been my saviour!! With regards to batch cooking, do what you can when you can, if you are making say chilli, then double it and freeze, I fell by the wayside through the summer with my batch cooking but I didn't beat myself up about it as the last few weeks I have been making lots of soup etc and doubling up for the freezer, its like hibernating for the winter :rotfl:. With regards to your:rotfl: OH, he should not be bringing you down like that and don't you dare let him get away with it, I don't my DH wouldn't dare say that to me, he does things off my list and sometimes (not very often) if I leave a list lying around he may pick some easy things to cross off :jhe works shifts and I work full time and have the kids most evenings so your marriage is a partnership!

jools27 wrote: »

Hello all, have come to join you if thats ok?? House has been a pit since may when the cold water tank burst and we had a huge hole in the living room ceiling. Everything from there landed in my bedroom, so am finally getting to grips with it all.....filled 4 bin liners wityh clothes too from there today, will head to the charity shop tomorrow with them.......need to stay on top of it now, as n0-0ne else thinks of cleaning when im at work doing 12 hour shifts plus 2 hours travelling time!

Hi Jools, welcome to the thread, sorry to hear about your water tank, perhaps its time you put your foot down and DELEGATE some tasks to your family whilst you are out earning for them!!! Leave lists out and tell them to pick one from each level!!! (Sorry don't know how many are in your household) you will receive brill support on here from everone and no-one will beat you up if you don't complete the lists, do what you can when you can, they come around every few weeks again anyway so if you have done it the first week, the next time it comes round you may not need to do it again, good luck x

craftdaft

:xmastree: I'm back to try again. Aiming to do level 1 for the week (I've never managed this before so you can imagine what the house is like!)

Monday ~ Kitchen and Dining Area
Level One
Clear and wipe work surfaces
[STRIKE]Sweep and mop floor
[/STRIKE]Level Two
Empty and clean out fridge.. use up those almost past their best things and fling anything furry or icky!!
Wipe units and appliances
Clean table and replace cloth if necessary
Level Three
Wipe hob and make oven shelves shiny again!
[STRIKE]Empty and wash out bins
[/STRIKE][STRIKE]Run appliances through a clean cycle[/STRIKE] and make sure filters and detergent drawers are clean
Extras

1. Wash windows
2. Dust and deweb.. we have loads of spiders looking for new homes at the moment!
3. HHI
4. Throw away/rehome/sell 10 things from each room in the house!!

Tuesday ~ Living room, Hall and Stairs
Level One
[STRIKE]Declutter the floors
[/STRIKE][STRIKE]Vacuum said decluttered floors!
[/STRIKE]Level Two
declutter and dust the mantle putting back only what should be there
Wipe the sofas if needed
Wipe and water plants, dust and deweb
Declutter and wipe coffee table/magazine rack if you have one!
Level Three
Wash any soft furnishings that are in need.. hang winter curtains/linings
Clear and wipe window sills, and any electricals and picture frames etc
Empty and clear out a cupboard..

Extras

1. HHI
2. binbag dance
3. Wipe the paintwork and bannisters
4. Wash any windows that have been neglected

Wednesday ~ Master Bedroom
Level One
Declutter the floors
[STRIKE]Strip the bedding get it washed dried and the bed remade! [/STRIKE]Vacuum and turn mattress if it hasn't been done in a while!
Level Two
vacuum the floors
Straighten a cupboard of clothing
Empty all the bins upstairs
Level Three
Tidy a box of 'stuff'
Tidy up the floordrobe, inc. shoes bags and toiletries.
dust and deweb

Extras

1. HHI (you will get to the bottom of it all this week!)
2. Wash windows
3. Binbag dance
4. Check doors and windows for draughts and make a plan of action for dealing with them

Thursday ~ Childrens pits, spare or neglected rooms!
Level One
[STRIKE]Strip , wash and replace bedding
[/STRIKE]Declutter and vacuum the floor
Level Two
Sort through a cupboard.. any cupboard, could even be a kitchen one!
Drag out and sort all the gibble from under the bed!
Straighten the toy boxes and shelves
Level Three
Wash any soft furnishings that need it.. or the duvet!
Dust and deweb
Wipe sticky grotmarks from the walls, doors and paintwork
Extras

1. Binbag dance
2. HHI
3. List 1 item to sell
4. sort the shoes, coats and bags!

Thank Crunchie it's Friday ~ Study and Bathroom
Level One
Spend half an hour doing something for yourself! Coffee with a friend, hair appointment... whatever
Declutter the floors!
Level Two
vacuum/mop floors
wash the bathmats/shower curtains or anything else that needs it
scrub the fixtures! polish the mirrors and taps
Level Three
Clean and sort a cupboard or shelf and recycle all those empties
dust and defrag the pc and declutter 50 unwanted emails and 5 links from your favourites.
Wipe over the desk and any chairs that are in these rooms
Extras

1. empty and wash out bins
2. HHI
3. wipe doors and paintwork
4. [STRIKE]wash any stinky pet beds[/STRIKE].. or the pets themselves if you wish

Am planning to be busy tomorrow.....

Dippypud

Welcome to Jools27 and Jasper,

Hugs, Spoons and sticks to all those that need them.

Pud :cool:

Maxonian

so...this is what's left.........

Monday ~ Kitchen and Dining Area

Level One

mop floor

Level Two

clean out fridge
Level Three

Wipe hob and make oven shelves shiny again!

wash out bins

Run appliances through a clean cycle and make sure filters and detergent drawers are clean

Extras
Wash windows
Throw away/rehome/sell 10 things from each room in the house!!

Tuesday ~ Living room, Hall and Stairs

Level One

Level Two

Level Three

Extras
Wipe the paintwork and bannisters

Wednesday ~ Master Bedroom

Level One

Declutter the floors

Level Two

vacuum the floors

Level Three

Tidy a box of 'stuff'

Tidy up the floordrobe, inc. shoes bags and toiletries.

dust and deweb


Extras
HHI (you will get to the bottom of it all this week!)
Wash windows
Thursday ~ Childrens pits, spare or neglected rooms!

Level One

Level Two

Level Three

Extras
HHI
List 1 item to sell
sort the shoes, coats and bags!

Thank Crunchie it's Friday ~ Study and Bathroom

Level One

Spend half an hour doing something for yourself! Coffee with a friend, hair appointment... whatever

Declutter the floors!

Level Two

vacuum/mop floors

Level Three

Clean and sort a cupboard or shelf and recycle all those empties

dust and defrag the pc and declutter 50 unwanted emails and 5 links from your favourites.

Wipe over the desk and any chairs that are in these rooms

Extras
empty and wash out bins
HHI
wipe doors and paintwork

My list

Must do
enter ins details
sort trips for holiday
Ironing x 3 HH
edf
book smear test
take car for service-clear carp out first!
book H into vets for annual jabs
take stuff back to m&s
order packs for wyn
boots order on fri or sat

Want to do
Find all knitting on the go and sort it
Update library wishlist
photos for ebay
Lakeland
plant seeds
upgrade my mobile

Dustykitten

Evening all

Welcome Jools and Jasper. Tips - don't beat yourselves up about what you haven't done but celebrate what you have done. Everybody finds their own way for me it is:

Now I've got the place almost tidy keep it that way - makes the cleaning quicker and easier
Don't put it down, put it away - that's Vallis top tip
Find a home for everything and clear the clutter - that's Serena'a tip
Once you've got an area sorted aim to keep it that way and then move on.
Get in the habit of doing some things daily so that it doesn't build up (Just 15 minutes can make a massive difference if it is targeted)

Good Luck!

Tomorrow's plan for me:
Dailies
Help friend prepare for school meeting
Plant out crocosmia
Meet friend for cup of tea and bulb and lakeland orders
DS3 diving
Return Mother's phone call
Check online banking
Reply to some emails
nearly forgot the flying - dust downstairs

Rejoice that it's half term.

jools27_2

I probably just need the motivation, tbh, dd does her own room, ds tries(!) to do his, not to my standards but i close the door, just need to clear the backlog, but on days off just hope to veg as much as possible recently.....have had 3 deaths in the past year, including my dad, and an attempted murder, so been busy keeping everyone else in one piece, so home has been the last thing on my mind! Am now at the stage i want to burn it all when i look! have done 3 rooms over the last 2 days, so nearly there!!!! just need to keep on top of it all really!

AnW'sMum

vanilla wrote: »

No flying done here yet today. Poor Rhys fell earlier and has knocked a part of his front tooth out and pushed the whole tooth back. He's not in any pain and we've been to the dentist. So DS 1 & 2 are in next month and Rhys will go to, just to check on the tooth.

W did exactly that when he was 2.5 and then just after Daddy died, he 'kissed' Mr M's floor knocking the rest of it out, a week before my sister's wedding! We looked a right sight all slumped on the floor blubbing, all wailing 'I want Daddy'. But he was ok abliet with a cute gap instead :rotfl: He now has lovely new big teeth to knock out :eek:

Talking of which, the tooth fairy needs to pay a visit as an incisor of his fell out this evening.

Woohooooooooo it was Monday this morning and then blow me down by tonight it was FRIDAY :j No work for me until next month :T:D:beer:

toochoosey

Nice one for the short week, AnW'sMum, and oh, bless for the wedding photo's xx

Just a mini rant but, you know when you;re talking and you feel like you're not being listened to.........I'm not a loud person, but when I'm talking , I want to be listened to!!!......sorry xx

Triker

Penelope_Penguin wrote: »

REJIGGED FLYLADY MEET

I've checked with a couple of you, so who wants to meet at Cas-Vegas, West Yorks on Friday 5 November. PM me if you're interested, and we'll sort a time and place :j

Oooh sounds good, will check diary and claim some lieu time if I can do it...:rotfl: