MSE Parents Club Part 15

tarajayne

Re clubcard vouchers, now we are getting double points we are still better off than we were 2 years ago. Even after going down to 3x the value. I was saving for Airmiles so this won't make a difference.

tarajayne

Hi Newid, that really does sound like one for the doctors to refer. Although I did have an extremely fussy eater until he was 6 or 7. We were told to completely ignore what he was doing but I can't see how you can ignore being sick. Wasn't there a SuperNanny recently where one of twin boys was doing this?

newidentity

alwaysonthego wrote: »

It seems to me the trigger for her to be sick is when you introduce new meals.

I think you are worrying too much and it sounds like she is getting a really good diet, however I would avoid making any issue about food and don't try and coax her to eat new foods that make her vomit. She is associating new food to vomiting, though I would get her checked out by a doctor. She is still very young, but you could slowly introduce her to new foods like cooking her a veg omelette but use very little egg and when she has eaten it praise her behaviour and make a fuss of her, but if she is sick clean her up but don't make a fuss. She is using negative reinforcement to avoid having to eat new food, i.e she vomits so she does not have to try anything new.

Thank you, that is good advice. The problem is, if she is sick, she is very sick and unfortunately, it is difficult not to make a fuss as our tea (and the rest of the table) gets covered - sorry if TMI . I do minimise it though and dont make a big issue but it is impossible to ignore it (although I do not ever tell her off about it). The one food I managed to get her to eat is potato as this used to be the same but I continued to give it to her despite the vomiting and slowly, it improved but it has taken 2 years for her not to vomit on it (although she still gags sometimes).

Her diet is fine and yes, it is healthy but I am so worried about her going to eat at a friends house or taking her to stay at relatives. Whatever I do, I feel I am doing the wrong thing.

newidentity

tarajayne wrote: »

Hi Newid, that really does sound like one for the doctors to refer. Although I did have an extremely fussy eater until he was 6 or 7. We were told to completely ignore what he was doing but I can't see how you can ignore being sick. Wasn't there a SuperNanny recently where one of twin boys was doing this?

Oooo, was there? I will try and have a look for that as not been able to find much info on it anywhere.
Yes, I do try and ignore but it really is impossible as explained above. Fussy is one thing but it has always been this way, even when weaning. Its so hard when you try and do everything right but continue to fail.

CAFCGirl

cazscoob wrote: »

will give that a go thanks but these are not any cats they like to eat lemon curd and play in my bath water :rotfl:
Im guessing that the cats will be more trouble than the kids

Oh i found a beautiful tree in Dobies yeaterday however it was £300:eek:

in which case go for orange/grapefruit/bergamot...and nothing fluffy/bell like on the bottom....

SugarSpun wrote: »

Did anyone do an Amber update? Tia thinks they might be home tomorrow! :j

I'm worried about the baby playing with the tree. I think there'll just be a lot of vigilance.

i can offer no suggestions on baby vs tree though LOL

kitkat5566 wrote: »

I was about to say MORNING ALL but its half 3... where did today go!?

Cafc: I love the idea of an xmas blog, I bet you could come up with some lovely ideas as I remember you making bits and pieces for L's room

Well 2 days in with T being lactose free and so far all is good; only one dirty nappy, nappy rash totally disappeared, eczema gone!, skin beautifully smooth and soft, generally much much happier, no colic-ness last night and slept, well.. like a baby Still having some trouble with wind after feeds but hopefully this will improve.

Had a lovely day at my mums yesterday, she fed T and nursed him so I could have bit of a rest, then she cooked me a lovely meal (first proper meal all week!) and then I came home, fed T and he slept right through until 8am. OH is home tonight and apparently is taking me shopping tomorrow (I will believe it when it happens!) and he has said with the SS grant we will put some towards heating oil, he will pay rest, and the remaining we can buy a decent video camera and digital camera, hopefully! My digi camera has packed in so I wana new one so I don't miss pics of my gorgeous bubba

Firstly WOOOOOOOOOOOOHOOOOOOOOO Baby T
Secondly WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOWOOOOOOOOOOOO Shopping post baby.....
Thirdly YAY fo mum's homecooking....

And four-dly well ta very much....im just trying to plan it a bit better so it doesnt end up going off... any suggestions from anyone on what would interest them?

NewId - Its likely it got moved here so you could get more responses from the mummies here. I've not got to that stage with my son yet but im sure there will be someone along shortly to offer their help xx

Krystaltips

Hi Newidentity... Sometimes posts get merged into here and because we're such chatterboxes they disapear a couple of pages back... But most of the time people who aren't here at the moment read back and reply / quote you so you'll probably end up with lots of replies

If it were me, and she was eating healthy food, then I would just leave it as it is... Maybe if introducing a new food, put 1 mouthfull of it on her plate and try not to draw any attention to her trying it... Maybe up the amount as she gets used to it... It could be a texture thing... Even now at 31 I can't eat jelly because the texture is all wrong...

Also, as she gets older and starts eating at friends houses, I know when I have my friends children round I tend to stick to yellow food (nuggets, sausages and fish fingers) because I know the majority of children eat those with no fuss... And if DD were to eat at her friends but not like the food, I'd just give her a butty before bed...

tarajayne

newidentity wrote: »

Oooo, was there? I will try and have a look for that as not been able to find much info on it anywhere.
Yes, I do try and ignore but it really is impossible as explained above. Fussy is one thing but it has always been this way, even when weaning. Its so hard when you try and do everything right but continue to fail.

Surely if it's been since weaning then it could be a physical thing, I would asked to be referred. X

CAFCGirl

just a thought newid - does it happen with drinks?? like a new fruit juice or a smoothie?

alwaysonthego_2

newidentity wrote: »

Thank you, that is good advice. The problem is, if she is sick, she is very sick and unfortunately, it is difficult not to make a fuss as our tea (and the rest of the table) gets covered - sorry if TMI . I do minimise it though and dont make a big issue but it is impossible to ignore it (although I do not ever tell her off about it). The one food I managed to get her to eat is potato as this used to be the same but I continued to give it to her despite the vomiting and slowly, it improved but it has taken 2 years for her not to vomit on it (although she still gags sometimes).

Her diet is fine and yes, it is healthy but I am so worried about her going to eat at a friends house or taking her to stay at relatives. Whatever I do, I feel I am doing the wrong thing.

When I say ignore, I don't mean ignore the vomit you obviously have to clean it up but don't mention it to your daughter, which is what you are already doing. She may need to see a psychologist to have CBT, but I would go to your DRs to see if she can be referred. Behaviours can be unlearnt so I would not worry too much. You would be surprised that children mimic one another so if your dd saw her peers eating one of her trigger foods without vomiting she may follow lead.

alwaysonthego_2

tarajayne wrote: »

Surely if it's been since weaning then it could be a physical thing, I would asked to be referred. X

It is a possiblity, but small babies can learn undesirable behaviours.