MSE Parents Club Part 15

SusanC_2

keelykat wrote: »

I currently feel horrible, so called friend making me feel down and making me cry but when I say something to her (which wasn't nasty) it's ok for her to put me down even further. I must be a bad parent, because I don't intend to spend/buy loads for Elliot this xmas. Somehow she's splashing cash on designer handbags for herself, booking holidays and now buying lots of xmas presents when she's not working and relies on benefits. When I said kids don't really need loads, they all end up saying I'm bored and are fed up on xmas afternoon-she said i was jealous and i thought i was better then everyone else. I'm not jealous at all, i'm quite hurt at what she's said to me.

She's put me down because I'm a stay at home mom, she keeps pushing that I should go and leave Elliot at the creche and get a life. It started off because i said i was feeling a bit fed up, next thing she's telling me i'm depressed and my husband is horrible basically. I hate it when people think they can tell me what to do, but don't like it when you say something to them. How is that fair? Thanks for making me cry. What a great friend you are.

Obviously I am making big assumptions on the basis of a small amount of information here but it sounds like perhaps she is using material things as a substitute for things which your family has and therefore feels defensive of what she is doing and jealous of you and so is dealing with her feelings by attacking you?123 Obviously it's still hurtful and wrong to say those things to you wahtever the reasons but it may just be a reflection of how bad she feels about ehrself rather than what she really thinks of you. E12scuse the numbers - 1A"lic3e i4s 5into6 them atthe moment.1234

SusanC_2

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tarajayne

GISI, big (((hugs))). I agree with everybody here, you need to talk to him. I would suggest a chat later when H is in bed a a glass of wine first hun. Hope it's nothing though. XXXXXXXXXX

ladybirdintheuk

Don't worry Susan, I do that too - post a "hello!" then read back as far as I have time for. Alice is very cute, but making you very hard to understand

keelykat

SusanC wrote: »

Obviously I am making big assumptions on the basis of a small amount of information here but it sounds like perhaps she is using material things as a substitute for things which your family has and therefore feels defensive of what she is doing and jealous of you and so is dealing with her feelings by attacking you?123 Obviously it's still hurtful and wrong to say those things to you wahtever the reasons but it may just be a reflection of how bad she feels about ehrself rather than what she really thinks of you. E12scuse the numbers - 1A"lic3e i4s 5into6 them atthe moment.1234

That makes a lot of sense, i think she has issues with my husband as she's got two kids with two different dads and she's now single and to be honest is in love with a new man each month I have stayed with my hubby because i do love him-she finds it hard to see why i stop with him when we have off days and irritate each other, if that makes sense? I may say oh hes doing my head in today! but it doesn't mean i hate him, i don't want to leave him or anything, it's just a normal healthy relationship where we do want our our space sometimes

Sarah_Joanne

Awwww big ((((hugs)))) GISI I hope you can have a frank discussion tonight and resolve things. If that is what is happening though it is in NO WAY your fault. Hope work is busy but easy so the day passes quickly for you

SusanC_2

ladybirdintheuk wrote: »

Don't worry Susan, I do that too - post a "hello!" then read back as far as I have time for. Alice is very cute, but making you very hard to understand

She's done twos to Bruno in Lexulous and as she went upstairs to brush her hair she told me she's doing threes and fours next. We're going out soon though and if I don't chase her she'll take a long time to brush her hair so there's no danger of her being back before I switch the computer off. I think she must be "reading" one of her bedtime stories on the landing as I can her story telling voice now.

MichelleM

Wilma123 wrote: »

Grrr second day in a row i've utilised some ahem, 'spare' realistic fb accounts to vote for a certain baby and she's still not first :mad: I feel so defeated.

Well I hope you're referring to A... feel like a right noob if youre not! lol Another MSEr is also catching up too! :eek: BTW, do you have a stalker?!.

Buttonmoons wrote: »

I wouldn't pay a fiver more for my flat, and honestly, my house is CRAWLING with beasties (carpet beetles)

Aww, what a big PIA. We had them at our flat too, it makes you feel so yuk even though it's not even your fault! They get into the plaster, the woodwork, everywhere! I used to spend half my time hoovering and mopping all the time. DH (OH at the time) wasnt sure what was going on and used to think it was me! :eek::eek:
You're brave Redmel!
Hugs for you CAFC. XXXXX

Sorry about your DH GISI, I suspect he may have a crush? Im sure if you both discuss it properly you will be able to work it out. Hugs for you though. XXX

I cant remember much else, sorry. Feeling really fed up with the whole not sleeping thing AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!! :(:(:(:(:(:(:( Im spending half of the night up with her and its driving me mad- was 12.30, 2, 3:30 and 4 before I pulled her in with us. Then shes teething so very moany at the moment so that doesnt help things. I know it's not her fault but there is only so much a person can take.

Hope everyone is ok.

SusanC_2

keelykat wrote: »

I have stayed with my hubby because i do love him-she finds it hard to see why i stop with him when we have off days and irritate each other, if that makes sense? I may say oh hes doing my head in today! but it doesn't mean i hate him, i don't want to leave him or anything, it's just a normal healthy relationship where we do want our our space sometimes

That does make sense. Unfortunately (and I think the media reinforce this idea) it can be easy for people to think that a relationship should always be happy and never involve difficulties or arguments so they think that if anything goes wrong or if they have to work at the relationship that it must mean that they should abandon it as it can't work/they aren't meant for each other.

aless02

Hi Alice! :hello: