Grrrr CSA

PlayingHardball

I think the OP will have a good chance of succeeding with a variation if her ex earns a lot of money. I'm guessing he did as he volunarily paid her £500 per month until the fall out. That would put him on £80k plus, at a guess.

It would be difficult for any accountant (even the sly/clever speeders) to bury that much income.

Speedster, you really shouldn't continue to brag about the fiver a week you give your ex. Most men would be ashamed of this fact. You come accross extremely bitter and resentful of your ex, move on. Was she all that bad, after all, she married you?;)

For clarification, the OP has NOT said she is contact blocking as a result of her reduction of child maintenance from the ex. Just to clear confusion and redirect the thread to what she was originally asking advice on.

Shermanator123

I wonder? if your daughter saw your comments on here about her mother and the satisfaction you display at the fact you only pay a fiver a week towards her, would you still maintain that relationship/bond??? I doubt it! And what opinions or comments would you have if your daughter was to be left bringing up a child by herself, with her ex only paying a fiver towards her child, would that satisfy you? You say your child is well provided for in the future well this forum is about child support meaning they need support whilst their a child (I hate to point out the obvious) I would much rather my child look back at her childhood and have happy memories not ones of the mother struggling to put food on the table etc... because dad only gave mum a fiver!!! A round of applause to you Speedster I bet you make your mum proud pfft!!!!!

speedster

as both of you well know, my ex is a foolish individual.

secondly, we were never married, i was a sperm donor to a virtual stranger, but as my dear old mum (who was very proud of me FYI) used to say. "any bloke with a !!!!!! can be a father, but it takes a real man to be a dad"

i decided the child should not only have a father, but a dad. i have had to fight for the "priviledge" of seeing my daughter and had her used as a weapon to beat me with for years, but i refused to give up. my daughter has the RIGHT to 2 parents and i have concreted that bond.

i fought hard in court, did my research and gave her a beating in the court arena. she showed herself up for the vile cretin she is and the judge tore her to pieces. and the most valuable thing i have gained is my daughters respect. unlike her mother. she's done fighting now as daughter has woken up to her mothers pathetic games and now treats her with the contempt she deserves. i can honestly say that if my daughter spoke of me the way she does about her mother, then it would break my heart.

and yes, she got stuck on a fiver a week for nearly 3 years. her fault. she got greedy and in her own words "i don't need the money, but i'm gonna get them to destroy you" so it was never about my daughter not having food on her plate, and i've always bought most of her clothes and stuff anyway.

hell hath no fury as they say. still, lies and fraud and lack of knowledge ensured that she lost and is now finally being investigated for her frauds.

so, the pair of you can take the drivel you post and shove it. no wonder you have trouble with your exes.

i have the most important thing to me, and that is my daughters respect, so i couldn't give less of a toss what you think.

oh, and Steerpike, if you need any help in getting those nazis off your back, then PM and i'll see if i can be of any help.

speedster

just to add, my ex finally realised that the csa couldn't touch me.

it took the pig headed imbecile 3 years to work it out, but she got there in the end and we now have a private agreement worth a shed load more than a fiver a week. combined with my savings plan for her, not only am i providing for her now, i am also helping with her future.

unlike her mother, i hasten to add.

so, now whose the bad guy??????

muppets.

speedster

PlayingHardball wrote: »

I think the OP will have a good chance of succeeding with a variation if her ex earns a lot of money. I'm guessing he did as he volunarily paid her £500 per month until the fall out. That would put him on £80k plus, at a guess.

It would be difficult for any accountant (even the sly/clever speeders) to bury that much income.

don't bet on it. a half brained accountant could lose a big chunk of 80k.

i would seriously advise the OP to try and patch things up if possible and strive to keep the CSA out of it. it'll save her years of hassle as they're like waving a red flag at a bull.

wouldn't want to see the OP ending up like some of the twisted wimmin on here whining about years of csa aggro and their exes all the time now, would we??

FBaby

I bet she regrets having gone for your sperm!!! How old is your daughter? Is she living with you now?

FBaby

ha she still lives with her mum then, isn't she begging to live with you with all the respect she has for you and contempt she has for her mum?

A bit confused as to why you have a private arrangement now.... you say that your daughter was cared for when you only provided £5 only, so why change this? Did she suddenly needed more money after 3 years?

speedster

FBaby wrote: »

ha she still lives with her mum then, isn't she begging to live with you with all the respect she has for you and contempt she has for her mum?

A bit confused as to why you have a private arrangement now.... you say that your daughter was cared for when you only provided £5 only, so why change this? Did she suddenly needed more money after 3 years?

jeez. how is it that all these "experts" here know f k all about family law??

ever tried for a RO? i doubt it. ever fought a hugely female biased family law system?? i doubt it, otherwise you wouldn't bother with your ridiculous post.

this is the system who leave countless children with abusive parents as they have a reluctance to take a child from it's mother even where abuse is clear. so if you have a magic cure on how to get a RO when up against it then please share it with the world wont you??

oh. ex doesn't "need" more money, but it's always noce to have that bit extra and keep the boat on calm waters so to speak. funny how money has that effect on wimmin, yet they'll quite happily try to destroy their childrens childhoods with their pathetic war games over contact??

JulietAmber_2

Just a question - how does an Accountant 'lose' money? Our accountant only takes receipts that we have used for the business and gave the CSA the realistic and honest sum that my partner actually earns.

speedster

JulietAmber wrote: »

Just a question - how does an Accountant 'lose' money? Our accountant only takes receipts that we have used for the business and gave the CSA the realistic and honest sum that my partner actually earns.

with or without csa involvement, an accountant is judged on how much he/she can save you in tax.

travelling, clothing, equipment, tools, advertising, overheads, wages, running costs etc, etc are all LEGITIMATE expenses, therefore i fail to see the problem when they simply do what they are paid for.

SE get no sick or holiday pay. no pension and if you aint working, you get naff all, so it's not exactly what i would call a bed of roses.

i couldn't go crying to the benefits office when the credit crunch hit and sit on my lazy !!!! on benefits while whinging about child costs. (i have 2 living with me) i had to go and get whatever work i could so i could house and feed my family.

the pwc who sit there and moan about lack of benefits and "i want more off dad" get right on my t1ts.

they should join the real world and instead of thinking it owes them a living.