Its tough, it will get better and guess what its freezing brrrrr!

ceridwen

NualaBuala wrote: »

I really enjoyed this post Ceridwen, very insightful and thought-provoking. And I really like the blog you linked to, especially the post on Mindapples. These are hard times and my mind needs all the help it can get to be well and happy.


Kidcat, thank you! I literally laughed out loud when read this, gave me a good old chuckle (I think that will count as a mindapple for the day!)

Glad you and others liked that blog. I missed the bit re mindapples myself - so will have to go back and look for that link.

Cant find my own darn post where I put that link to that blog now - maybes I'm still half-awake (havent had my first cup of coffee of the day yet...).

Right - gone off and checked elsewhere where I stored the link to her blog and found that skirlie recipe on it:

http://www.mostlyeating.com/2009/06/skirlie_fast_savoury_oats.html

Will go and check that post out...

jackieglasgow

Morning All,

Hugs to Frugal.

Mardatha, you are an angel, that brought tears to my eyes. I trained to be a social worker when I was young, but never stuck the job for long, I was too young and soft, and it was a difficult thing to do, I am thinking of going back to it sometime in the future, but not 100% sure, yet. The hardest part for me was seeing to the families of drug addicts, I was raised in a poor working class family, but seeing what those poor children had to live through really opened my eyes, and you're right, a lot of them didn't even have mattresses to sleep on, because their parents had sold them for drug money, never mind food to eat. There is still a lot of stuff that goes under the radar, and its easy to criticise social work, but they have to work to a set of rules which they don't make themselves, and under a lot of pressure because of the scale of the problem of people who quite simply, have never been taught how to live a decent life. Its very sad. I don't know what the solution is, a lot of them are now second or third generation drug addicts, with no idea of how to get out of that spiral.

jackieglasgow

Ceridwen I don't want to post the link again if its not allowed but its mostlyeating with the usual bits in front and after

ceridwen

sammy_kaye18 wrote: »

Firstly HUGS to Frugal. Hope your ok honey and that your dad is feeling better soon.


CERIDWEN --- I'll light a candle for us both! Although at the minute I'd be happy with any house! and build up to my dream house with my small holding.

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First off - I'll echo the good wishes to Frugal for her father. I dont do that sorta wording myself - to virtual friend that commented re me not using that sorta language..:). But - have some good vibes in your direction Frugal from me too.

SAMMY - right now I think you are probably feeling rather more "focused" than I am:rotfl: - so..yep...a candle for both of us sounds good:D. Yes - I know you would be more than happy with any house Sammy - so heres hoping and fingers crossed you get your wish. That IS the one thing I feel very conscious of from my "visualising to get a house" that I had to do to get mine and that I really really should have been very specific about exactly what the house was to be like (i think because I wasnt very specific in my requirements the Universe just went "House - oh right - okay - ceridwen needs a house. She hasnt said what its to be like clearly enough - so we'll go for her default setting and give her one like the first one her parents had then - that should be okay for her, as she lived in one like that before..."). Duh - <slap head smilie> idiot ceridwen......stilll....at least I got a house anyways...:).

<exit stage left muttering: "Now what sorta house do you want EXACTLY ceridwen? "Good Life" style, 4 bed. "executive" style or eco-house in eco-community. Make your mind UP...ceridwen.....">

ceridwen

jackieglasgow wrote: »

Ceridwen I don't want to post the link again if its not allowed but its mostlyeating with the usual bits in front and after

Its okay - it IS allowed - and I've posted it up again.

I think it may have gone. I've realised whats happened - and that MSE didnt realise that the link ISNT for one of my own blogs. Its for someone ELSE's blog. Thought for MSE - I don't even know how use a camera - never mind post photos up on blogs (and she has all sorts of nice photos on HER blog).

sammy_kaye18

ceridwen wrote: »

SAMMY - right now I think you are probably feeling rather more "focused" than I am:rotfl: - so..yep...a candle for both of us sounds good:D. Yes - I know you would be more than happy with any house Sammy - so heres hoping and fingers crossed you get your wish. That IS the one thing I feel very conscious of from my "visualising to get a house" that I had to do to get mine and that I really really should have been very specific about exactly what the house was to be like (i think because I wasnt very specific in my requirements the Universe just went "House - oh right - okay - ceridwen needs a house. She hasnt said what its to be like clearly enough - so we'll go for her default setting and give her one like the first one her parents had then - that should be okay for her, as she lived in one like that before..."). Duh - <slap head smilie> idiot ceridwen......stilll....at least I got a house anyways...:).

<exit stage left muttering: "Now what sorta house do you want EXACTLY ceridwen? "Good Life" style, 4 bed. "executive" style or eco-house in eco-community. Make your mind UP...ceridwen.....">

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: You must of added that last slap head bit after I'd finished reading and as I quoted.

Well if Im in two minds about my ideal house!!!

Ideally
I want a nice rural set farm house with either a coal fire or log burning stove - preferably 3/4 bed as ideally I'd like ben and holly to have a room of their own, our room and a guest room/Joshs room. Enough space to raise /rescue some animals (ie chickens/pigs/ducks/goats and a donkey - dont ask!) and have my own small holding and be able to have my kids play in safety not worrying they'll get hit by a car or mugged as soon as they step out the front door.

OR

I'd like a 3/4 bed house with a bay window (to put my christmas tree in of course ) . Again a coal fire would be lovely, and a big enough garden to have a veggie plot and a few chickens.

I know I secretly would love the first option more though.

like this for example http://www.smallholding-wales.co.uk/elizabeth-row-smallholding.php

princesstippytoes

ceridwen wrote: »

I "visualised" my way through to getting a house - the one I have doesnt "match" the one I was picturing:( - but I DID get a house at any rate:D.

Perhaps we ought to light a few candles together and picture two "Good Life" houses for ourselves?:D:rotfl:. I assumed as I grew up that I would have a "Giles and Sue Live the Good Life" style house - that one they have (in a suitable road) would do for me. I'd just add a conservatory (and my solar roof panels) and I'd be good to go...:rotfl:. Or a nice eco house in suitable eco community would be nice too....(Note to self - maybe thats where I "went wrong" last time - as I couldnt make up my mind whether to visualise a "Good Life" house or one of the modern 4 bedroom "executive" style houses....hence I got one that was different to both styles.......).

ceridwen wrote: »

Well - one where I believe in being in control of my life - and not at the whim of my body or anything else if I can help it. Though I DO know that I am much much more concerned with my life being under my control and going "According to Plan" than most people from what I see. I've found that job losses and bouts of ill health have been outside my control unfortunately - so had to deal with them as best I can when they happened. But - I dont believe in letting things that ARE under my control get "out of control" 'tis true.

In your posts you speak oft about how ones life choices are under ones own control. That being the case why did you buy a house that doesn't match or at the very least come close to your ideal? Forgive me if your house was inherited and not your own choice.

ceridwen

sammy_kaye18 wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: You must of added that last slap head bit after I'd finished reading and as I quoted.

Well if Im in two minds about my ideal house!!!

Ideally
I want a nice rural set farm house with either a coal fire or log burning stove - preferably 3/4 bed as ideally I'd like ben and holly to have a room of their own, our room and a guest room/Joshs room. Enough space to raise /rescue some animals (ie chickens/pigs/ducks/goats and a donkey - dont ask!) and have my own small holding and be able to have my kids play in safety not worrying they'll get hit by a car or mugged as soon as they step out the front door.

OR

I'd like a 3/4 bed house with a bay window (to put my christmas tree in of course ) . Again a coal fire would be lovely, and a big enough garden to have a veggie plot and a few chickens.

I know I secretly would love the first option more though.

like this for example http://www.smallholding-wales.co.uk/elizabeth-row-smallholding.php

Now that is what I call being focused and specific:rotfl:

At first glance - ie the front of the house i went "blah..." - but then I looked round the inside:) and round the garden:D and thought "Yep - can see why Sammy would like that one. Looks pretty good to me - and she could always plant stuff by the front of the house to soften/wild it up a bit". Nice choice.

Re the guest bedroom - hmmm...3 bedrooms...but it would be possible (from a glance at that hallway) to make up an occasional "Pirate Den" hideaway that a kid would probably love in the "nook" by that stairway - with a sorta "skull and crossbones" flag and olde-worlde lettering notice saying something like "Visitors will walk the gangplank if I don't like them....<joke>"

Crikey - you CAN get a lot more for your money in your area than I could dream of here....

mardatha

I want an old stone cottage on the side of a mountain in the west highlands. I want a huge coal/wood/peat burner in it; I want a solid old stone barn for my chickens; and a sheep with her lamb; and maybe possibly a Jersey house cow. Sigh. And the lottery win to run it with. A couple of wee cats to talk to and a collie for a helper.
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Oh and possibly a huge hot swimming pool in another barn. :rotfl:

ceridwen

princesstippytoes wrote: »

In your posts you speak oft about how ones life choices are under ones own control. That being the case why did you buy a house that doesn't match or at the very least come close to your ideal? Forgive me if your house was inherited and not your own choice.

I speak about personal responsibility - which I do believe in strongly. Not enough money for a house I would prefer - in a nutshell...:rotfl::(

So - I chose the best I could....(as do most of us...)