Its tough, it will get better and guess what its freezing brrrrr!

jediteacher

kidcat wrote: »

Jedi - thanks for your advice - the trouble is we have explained the circumstances to them and they promised they would be supportive, I understand that kids arriving late can be disruptive but we are talking one or two minutes, when all the kids are still lining up outside to go into form - so register has not even been taken. Its not the average situation having DS6 in a temp unit for assessment for his needs, it means that he and DD4 are in seperate schools four miles apart, eldest two school right in middle so I effectively travel into centre for eldest two then onto DS school and cross back past the eldest two school to get DD to her school all within a twenty minute window. When DS6 was moved the education authority suggested it would be better for me to deliver DS6 first then the eldest two then onto youngest, but this would mean they never arrived for register and school didnt seem happy - so I said I would do the complicated way to keep school on side.
To be fair they have loads of pupils and I know its hard for them but this last two weeks have been a nightmare and they seem far from supportive - which is adding to my resentment of them for their treatment of DD16 when she had glandular fever. I suppose this is the price you pay for having kids attend the best school in the area.

Isnt life complicated?

I do sympathise and I really do think that the school are being very unreasonable. We all want what is best for our children and that is what you are trying to do. School should support you no matter how big or small it is. It is making me angry that the school have been so unsupportive to you. As I said if you need any help with anything do yell.

RAS

gailey wrote: »

Our landlord insists on keeping us on yearly contract we been here 6years next may which means we have to pay agents 70pounds admin fee for new contract every year.

The contract states we have 3months notice but landlord can give us just 1months notice.

gailey head over to the Housing and renting forum to confirm this.

You have an AST renewed annually.

By law, during the AST the LL has to give 2 months notice whether at the end of the shorthold period or to evict for non-payment etc. The tenant cannot give notice during the AST but at the end of the AST, when the tenant can leave without giving any notice at all, although it is polite to let the LL know you are going.

If the new AST is not issued, it becomes at periodic statuatory tenancy and you can give one month's notice, but the LL has to give 2 months notice, by law.

Does not matter what is in the tenancy agreement.

kidcat

jediteacher wrote: »

I do sympathise and I really do think that the school are being very unreasonable. We all want what is best for our children and that is what you are trying to do. School should support you no matter how big or small it is. It is making me angry that the school have been so unsupportive to you. As I said if you need any help with anything do yell.

Am gonna take your advice and contact governors - have two ways of doing it quietly - am governor at DS6 temp school and also my DD16 is dating son of gov at big school. So will try that way first before going all official. And hey maybe I will sleep tonight and be more able to cope tomorrow.

Just wanted to say how much the support on here has helped today, I have felt like breaking but am now feeling much stronger and better able to cope.

jediteacher

kidcat wrote: »

Am gonna take your advice and contact governors - have two ways of doing it quietly - am governor at DS6 temp school and also my DD16 is dating son of gov at big school. So will try that way first before going all official. And hey maybe I will sleep tonight and be more able to cope tomorrow.

Just wanted to say how much the support on here has helped today, I have felt like breaking but am now feeling much stronger and better able to cope.

Good for you. :beer: If it does need to go official please do get in touch as I can help with what should get them to take more notice and be more supportive. Make sure to take care of yourself and I hope you sleep better tonight.

gailey_2

Thanks everyone for advice re contract will check terms and conditions.

Sorry you going through bad time kidcat sounds nitemare.
Do you have 4kids at 3different schools?
I deliberatly picked a primary with preschool attached to make my life easier as wont have problems picking up eldest when younger 2 in preschool as preschool pickup 3pm and primary 3.10-3.15.

My mates done seperate infant junior thinks he might regret that when eldest moves up to juniors. My mam had to do 2seperate picksups as sister at infants me at juniors said it was stressful.
Im bit worried about secondary as no good ones near me so might mean a commute by bus or worse case either me of hubby having to take her there whilst having 2 at primary but will cross that bridge when come to it.
Hope you can sort things out.

Well hubby rang hes home late as busy as usual.
so means havent seen him all day.
Just put baby in cot.
Just my eldest to put to bed and do homework with.
shes kicking off as she thourght daddy be home.

Got chicken casserole in oven.
cheating with mash brought ready made as was on offer for 50p in morrisions thourght be handy for cant be bothered night, feel shattered.

Done mealplan for this week.

wed-frozen fish in tomato and chese sauce with new potatoes.
Thur-tuna pasta bake as have tuna and packet mix and stops hubby whinging not frozen again tonight.
Friday-visiting butchers so thinking gets lots of bacon and make

homemade pizzas
36homemade mini quiches.

sat-steak in peppercorn sauce with potato wedges.
sunday not decided may have to be something frozen.

Thinking as hubby gets paid may do

50quid tesco shop next week as near a tesco tuesday
a lidls/adlis shop for fruit and veg
following week sainsburys but do need to go farmfoods for milk but running down most of frozen in freezer in time for reduced xmas bargains and xmas meats.

On sat think I may do huge batch mincemeat
cherry brandy

do need to do xmas chutneys maybe keep that until sunday but daughter has birthday party plus wanted to visit co-op for reductions.

Eldests driving me potty tonight shes 4half going on 30 and so grumpy, tired and whiney.
Bit worried nits 2nd day of school dinners shes come home hungry so far shes had

small plate of leftover curry and rice from last night as wasent too spicey.
choc mouse for dessert
1apple
1satsuma
small banana
handful of red grapes
1biscuit.

anyone think this is excessive? She said she ate all her lunch.
trying to give her fruit when she naggs said no to crisps.

Baby on other hand hardly eating much and picking throwing most of meals on floor!
Tried her curry and rice for luch she ate 4small teaspoons full
1fromage frais

for tea she had bread and and butter
half an apple
satsuma
1biscuit.
juice

shes not got some milk.

Not sure why shes being so fussy

jackieglasgow

Is it possible the older one was thirsty and not hungry Gailey, I have an eight year old who still struggles with the difference between thirst and hunger, so every time he asks for food, I gove him a drink first, and then see how he goes. What she's snacking on is healthy enough, but maybe you could offer her a slice of wholemeal toast or cereal and a piece of fruit, that might fill up her spaces a bit more? I do this with my gannets, as they would eat a whole punnet of grapes in one sitting, if they could!

bluebag

Gailey,
I had the same problem when my littlest went on to school lunches.

She said she ate all her lunch and indeed she had, but on closer questioning 'lunch' consisted of a slice of garlic bread as that was all she fancied on the menu.

I was quite horrified that the school wasn't aware how little she had eaten in the day. Needless to say I put her back on packed lunches pronto.

gailey_2

Thanks guys she drinks like a fish as well.
Se gets to pick whats off menu but only have her word not sure what portion size or how much she ate plus she had fruit for dessert..

She had been on packed lunces but was begging to go back to scool dinners.
even with packed lunches she dident eat it all and said she dident have time.
Wondering if they get as long as they need and then out to play and wonder if shes rushing lunch for more time in playground.

Tonight she kept saying she was hungry but shes ate so much.
Made conscious effort to not let fruitbowl go empty as she has snacked on crisps and biscuits in past she a terror for snacking .

When she does eat its tv off and at table so shes more aware when shes full and can concentrate.

shes whining now shes hungry just put her to bed.

right bets go get her another snack.

Im ball of stress this week as hubby has final job interveiw friday for job he really wants and be pursuing since july! Feel so nervous.

ceridwen

Pitlanepiglet wrote: »

Thanks Rosieben, I think it was on the original "tough" thread that I first mentioned it, it was incredibly cathartic to say the words "out loud" and I had some fantastic support and advice. It's been over 18 months of problems, so it has effected us all quite badly, we've tried to stay strong but there is no doubt that it's been a problem. Hubby is very glad that I'm back and as is my Dad (who hubby cares for).

T'is a bit odd though, weekends have always flown by and even the odd weeks of holiday go so fast...there is loads to do though but I plan to take it very easy this week.

Ah yes...I remember now...it was indeed on the old "Tough" thread that you first mentioned this. Glad you are now in the process of getting this situation sorted out. May the future be better than the past has been - I'll drink to that:beer:

kidcat

Gailey - my two eldest are at the same high school but DS who is six has special needs (mildly autistic) which werent handled at his primary school - tbh they treated him appalling seperating him from his peers and dragging him about when he didnt co-operate. Last year I spent weeks in school all day with him to try to support the school with him (they had failed OFSTED and head teacher was on sick leave - replaced by deputy head who hated job and wasnt effective - lovely woman, great teacher, bad leader), eventually on th advice on ed psych, an independant counsellor we brought in and the specialist staff at a nearby unit we agreed to transfer him on a temp basis to the unit (within a primary school) the idea was to give his school time to get themselves together pass OFSTED, get new head etc sorted before he came back. Its been agreed that he needs to be in mainstream school with some support but also that he cannot go back to it the way ot was (described in one report as abuse), in the meantime DD has started in reception at his mainstream school as we had applied etc before he was moved. Transport etc was all discussed and all these issues were raised by me at the various meetings and all schools were consulted. I could see that when she started it was going to be very difficult but the education authority were very supportive and promised schools would be "or else!!", its the practise that is actually difficult, getting the schools to want to co-operate. DS6 unit is amazing and they haved worked nothing short of a miracle, but the other two schools have different goals.

TBH DS6 has a big meeting this week to decide what happens next, its supposed to be to agree transition back to the old school, but I am very unsure, alot of the attitudes havent seemed to change and whilst there is a new head I am not convinced he is being backed by the staff, but only time will, tell.

My advice to anyone looking at schools is to be very careful, ask as many questions as you can and speak to parents before deciding what to do, just because a school is "the best in the area" may not make it right for you or your kids. At the eldests school it is very much of if your face fits, has been that way forever apparently.