Annoyed at feeling guilty

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Perdi wrote: »

:rotfl:And then I drove her nuts because I spent ages in the toy shop weighing up the play vs cost ratios of buying several My Little Ponies or one big thing.:rotfl:

OMG!! That is sooo me!!!:rotfl:

Hermia

I think as long as you are meeting your financial commitments and are financially prepared for the future than you should not feel guilty. As they say, you can't take it with you.

I can understand people feeling guilty because their mothers scrimped and saved, but remember most mothers want their kids to have a better life than them. I'm sure all the badly-off mums on here would love the idea that there daughters may one day be living in lovely homes filled with beautiful things.

Piggles12345

Hermia wrote: »

I think as long as you are meeting your financial commitments and are financially prepared for the future than you should not feel guilty. As they say, you can't take it with you.

I can understand people feeling guilty because their mothers scrimped and saved, but remember most mothers want their kids to have a better life than them. I'm sure all the badly-off mums on here would love the idea that there daughters may one day be living in lovely homes filled with beautiful things.

Wow! You're so right! I had never thought about it like that. Growing up my mum was always saying to me 'don't end up like me'. So when I'd complain about having to go to school she'd say 'you've got to go to school and get an education so you don't end up like me'.

And, ultimately, that's what I did. So I should really be focusing on what else I learned from my mum, which is to work hard so that I can have a situation where I can afford to treat myself! My mum would hate the thought of me scrimping on myself because of the way she used to scrimp! I might ring my mum later and tell her that I spent £60 on perfume because she drummed into me that I should work hard to have a better life than what she did. She will probably just think I'm drunk or something!

minimoneysaver

I know what might make you feel even better Piggles and that is buying your mum a bottle of her favourite scent just because you can and reminding her that it is because of the values that she installed in you from a young age, that you can afford to go and do it.... just because. x

morocha

haha you are like me ! same background.. i remember when i first got some christmas money from one of my customers ( £40) nice cos i was self employed, anyway i went to Debenhams and decided to treat myself.... i love make up.. anyway i ended up buying 2 Lancome lipstick to get the free goody bag with lots of things in it... total cost £36 and i felt sooooooo bad about it, i still have them.

i always shops on the sale, never buy full price, i usually only look at items £5 or less... it is weird cos even when i know i can afford it i do it. Today it was a revelation... went to Debenhams and bought a gorgeous £10 oasis dress for my hols... i saw another one from Warehouse but could not bring myself to buy both of them even when the other one was £15.

Noctu

I am exactly the same! It's so nice to hear about others who are the same way...

I spent £33 on underwear in the La Senza sale (half price) - only 4 items for that amount of money, and I felt so guilty afterwards, even though 2 of those items were for my wedding.

My Mum was always scrimping and saving too, I think that seems to be a common denominator here...

Piggles12345

minimoneysaver wrote: »

I know what might make you feel even better Piggles and that is buying your mum a bottle of her favourite scent just because you can and reminding her that it is because of the values that she installed in you from a young age, that you can afford to go and do it.... just because. x

That'd be so lovely! Even at Xmas when I get my mum presents she says 'don't waste your money on me'- I'm like mum it's Xmas for god sake, I'm not going to just not get you a present!

When I finished my first degree I put together a box of goodies for my mum to say thanks for everything and she almost died of dehydration with how much crying she did so I don't know how she'd cope if I got her something 'just because'! lol! xx

Bananabelly

I am pretty sure this is what JaneRN was referring to:

If I had my life to live over, I would have talked less and listened more.

I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained and the sofa faded.

I would have eaten the popcorn in the 'good' living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.

I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.

I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.

I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage.

I would have sat on the lawn with my children and not worried about grass stains.

I would have cried and laughed less while watching television - and more while watching life.

I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband.

I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren't there for the day.

I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn't show soil or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.

Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.

When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, "Later. Now go get washed up for dinner."

There would have been more "I love you's".. More "I'm sorrys" ...

But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute... look at it and really see it ... live it...and never give it back.


© Erma Bombeck

minimoneysaver

Awww, that's lovely.

nearlyrich

minimoneysaver wrote: »

I know what might make you feel even better Piggles and that is buying your mum a bottle of her favourite scent just because you can and reminding her that it is because of the values that she installed in you from a young age, that you can afford to go and do it.... just because. x

One of the best things about my modest success in life was the fact that I could and frequently did treat my mum to things she would have never bought for herself, also trips out and little holidays etc

She always said she was lucky but you really do reap what you sow...treat your mums if you can this weekend just because, I will get a nice bunch of flowers for mum's grave