The 'anti-bride' and - is anybody *really* on a budget??

Silaqui

Slowlyfading, glad it's not just me that thought that! Maybe it's ok having it that early then... I guess if we get out of the church at 1, it's likely the eating place will be somewhere within half an hour so that that makes it half one so arrange to eat at 2pm perhaps? But then even if it takes 2 hours to eat (and with my family, it won't take that long! ) then it's still only 4pm... hmmm.

Shame there's no football on, I was hoping it would be in the middle of the European championships so there would have been something else to do other than hang around. Suppose it's time for a nap though haha :rotfl:, or could always go home for a bit. Oh and photos maybe?

Another question - are you supposed to change out of your wedding dress for the evening do? What's the norm?

And regarding the order of things, do you do cake cutting and stuff after the meal? Or in the evening? This is the problem I don't really know when you are supposed to do things, can anyone outline for me what a normal order of the day is please? (or send me a link to a good one?)

e.g. Get up, have a fry up, sort hair and makeup, get dressed - I know that bit... presumably get to the church and get hitched, but what time should we both get there? I guess bloke is meant to be there at 12 (if it's a 12-1 booking) and all the guests at the same time? Is the bride supposed to be a bit after? I hate being late, also how do you greet people? and then what happens roughly after that?

COMP, I'm going to ask my usual hairdresser if she'll come round in the morning (she's mobile anyway so it's just like normal) but I'll do my makeup myself I reckon. Wouldn't trust anyone else to make me look like me! It also means I can treat myself to some posh brands I wouldn't usually on the pretence that it'll last the day! :A I don't know whether to grow my hair or not, at the mo it's chin length but I really love the way Katy Perry's hair looks here so not sure whether to grow it either! (perhaps not quite as long as that). Decisions decisions!

xx

clearing_out_my_pockets

Silaqui wrote: »

Slowlyfading, glad it's not just me that thought that! Maybe it's ok having it that early then... I guess if we get out of the church at 1, it's likely the eating place will be somewhere within half an hour so that that makes it half one so arrange to eat at 2pm perhaps? But then even if it takes 2 hours to eat (and with my family, it won't take that long! ) then it's still only 4pm... hmmm.

If you're out of the church at one and you're having a photographer, allow half an hour for photos so you'll be leaving at half one. If your reception venue is half hour away from the church, allow 45 minutes for the one person who will inevitably not be able to follow directions. So if you're having welcome drinks have them from 2-3. This also allows you to have time for more photos and to 'greet' your guests as they arrive. Our venue suggested 2 hours for a meal was fine but it also depends what you're having. A hog roast or barbeque may not take as long.

Shame there's no football on, I was hoping it would be in the middle of the European championships so there would have been something else to do other than hang around. Suppose it's time for a nap though haha :rotfl:, or could always go home for a bit. Oh and photos maybe?

If you find a venue with separate rooms you could set up a playstation / xbox / PS3 (if they'll let you) for the gap between day and evening and you could have guitar hero / wii fit / something equally competitive and fun. If that's your cup of tea!

Another question - are you supposed to change out of your wedding dress for the evening do? What's the norm?

Some do (I am - into a monsoon grecian number for the sake of dancing) but I suppose it depends how much your dress is. If you buy an expensive one, you'd be pig sick at changing after 3 hours! There is no norm - it depends on what YOU want to do.

And regarding the order of things, do you do cake cutting and stuff after the meal? Or in the evening? This is the problem I don't really know when you are supposed to do things, can anyone outline for me what a normal order of the day is please? (or send me a link to a good one?)

- Get up
- Have champagne (or mse equivalent)
- Have fry up
- Hair (with champagne)
- Makeup (with... you get my drift)
- Dress
- Groom arrives approx 15-30 mins beforehand (registrar needs to confirm he's getting married of his own free will or something)
- Guests usually arrive 15 mins beforehand so they can see the bride arrive and get seated
- Get married
- Photos
- Travel to reception
- Welcome drinks, photos & mingling
- (Just before you sit down some couples have a 'receiving line' to greet guests)
- Eat
- Speaches & cake cutting
- Coffee
- Evening guests arrive
- First dance
- DJ announces buffet is open
- (some couples have bacon / sausage butties late in the evening)
- (some couples have a 'last dance' before they leave)
- Everyone waves you off

e.g. Get up, have a fry up, sort hair and makeup, get dressed - I know that bit... presumably get to the church and get hitched, but what time should we both get there? I guess bloke is meant to be there at 12 (if it's a 12-1 booking) and all the guests at the same time? Is the bride supposed to be a bit after? I hate being late, also how do you greet people? and then what happens roughly after that?

COMP, I'm going to ask my usual hairdresser if she'll come round in the morning (she's mobile anyway so it's just like normal) but I'll do my makeup myself I reckon. Wouldn't trust anyone else to make me look like me! It also means I can treat myself to some posh brands I wouldn't usually on the pretence that it'll last the day! :A I don't know whether to grow my hair or not, at the mo it's chin length but I really love the way Katy Perry's hair looks here so not sure whether to grow it either! (perhaps not quite as long as that). Decisions decisions!

If you're thinking of doing your own makeup (as I probably will) using posh brands, consider going to one of the posh stands a few months beforehand and ask them to do a makeover. Some charge but it's redemable (sp?) against any products you buy. That way you get to see for yourself how long they last.

xx

Some thoughts in red. The only IMPORTANT part is the "get married" part. Everything else is optional.

x

missknixon

Our plan for the day is 2pm wedding, photos after the service, 3.45pm wedding breakfast and speeches, between the wedding breakfast and the evening do we having some more time for photographs and chilling, then the evening do starts at 7.30pm.

I thought it was a little early but then the venue gave us a rough outline of the day! It seemed quite scary!!!

Silaqui

Thanks both, COMP that outline was really useful (I especially like the champagne part ) Thats a wicked idea about setting up a games console! I'll have to take my laptop so I can get on MSE haha.

It is well scary Missknixon... I'm bobbing myself incase I forget to do something! Knowing my luck I'll do my usual trick of forgetting my mascara or something lol!

I've just got to stop hedging and get organised now!

xx

slowlyfading

Thanks for the outline COMP, that was handy!

Swinstie73

Has anyone, or is anyone getting nervous about writing/saying their vows?? We've booked the registry office and I was looking on the website and what I didn't realise was that even at the registry office, you're supposed to write your own vows. I honestly thought you just repeated after the registrar, how naive am I?! I'm totally not into this at all - wish the flights would be on time to get married in Barbados!

mimosaurus

Swinstie73 wrote: »

Has anyone, or is anyone getting nervous about writing/saying their vows?? We've booked the registry office and I was looking on the website and what I didn't realise was that even at the registry office, you're supposed to write your own vows. I honestly thought you just repeated after the registrar, how naive am I?! I'm totally not into this at all - wish the flights would be on time to get married in Barbados!

swinstie, totally feeling you on the nerves... ours is in less than three weeks :S

i've gone very short and sweet - 1 line!!

if it helps, our registrar gave us a list of suggested vows and said either to use them, or create our own with them, or just do them completely by ourselves. she also said we can choose to either repeat them, or have a card and say them ourselves, so talk to your registrar

Silaqui

Swinstie73 wrote: »

Has anyone, or is anyone getting nervous about writing/saying their vows?? We've booked the registry office and I was looking on the website and what I didn't realise was that even at the registry office, you're supposed to write your own vows. I honestly thought you just repeated after the registrar, how naive am I?! I'm totally not into this at all - wish the flights would be on time to get married in Barbados!

OMG seriously :eek::eek: I always though that too, you just copy what they say! I'm so glad all you ladies are the same as me, thats excatly how I feel Swinstie - a bit naive...:rotfl: Although COMP is really helpful, I guess you are a bit further through it though aren't you. You can be our weding mentor lol!

I will have to ask the vicar if there are any prefered vows they use in a church. I'm so bad I haven't even been to church in like, ever and if you asked me I would say I'm totally agnostic and not interested in religion at all... will have to skirt around that issue when we meet though. My b/f and family are all into it though so I'm sure it will be ok, hope so anyway!

Mimo, I think I'm going to go for nice short one too if I can get away with it, can't be doing reams and reams in front of everyone!

I am so totally unromantic I'd just feel like an idiot! I honestly think I should be the man in our relationship - my boyfriend was going to propose on the London Eye, and had it all planned (I didn't know), but then we were watching telly and some guy did it that way and I was ranting on and on about how unoriginal it was and only boring people with no imagination would do it that way :rotfl::rotfl: So he asked me on Rita at Alton Towers instead

xx

mimosaurus

Silaqui wrote: »

Mimo, I think I'm going to go for nice short one too if I can get away with it, can't be doing reams and reams in front of everyone!

I am so totally unromantic I'd just feel like an idiot! I honestly think I should be the man in our relationship - my boyfriend was going to propose on the London Eye, and had it all planned (I didn't know), but then we were watching telly and some guy did it that way and I was ranting on and on about how unoriginal it was and only boring people with no imagination would do it that way :rotfl::rotfl: So he asked me on Rita at Alton Towers instead

xx

i do think there's a really tight line to walk between 'romance' and 'slush', which is why i've gone short! that and i'm a huge pansy and will be blubbing before i even arrive probably! my OH is a big girl too though, he had a little teary moment when a friend said they would do our wedding cake as a wedding present!

clearing_out_my_pockets

http://www.weddingchaos.co.uk/TheOrganising/wedding-vows.asp

This website gives you a bit of info about the standard vows. There are certain bits you have to say (you're free to marry etc) but you don't HAVE to write anything else if you don't want to.

Silaqui - you mention that you're getting married in a church. This link may be helpful as it gives the 'religious' vows. Not many use the word 'obey' any more.

http://www.cofe.anglican.org/lifeevents/weddings/marriageservice.html