Dummy debate

BigBlackcat

All 3 of my children refused dummies. Sadly. I think they can be a very useful tool.

I've never understood why some parents feel the need to 'hate' others parenting choices. Particularly when it comes to something as innocuous as a dummy.

OrkneyStar

BigBlackcat wrote: »

All 3 of my children refused dummies. Sadly. I think they can be a very useful tool.

I've never understood why some parents feel the need to 'hate' others parenting choices. Particularly when it comes to something as innocuous as a dummy.

I just hate plastic dummies, but completely respect that others may not, and are able (as adults) to make their own decision. Same as I hate crocs shoes but have friends who don't! I base my overall opinion of someone on a wealth of things!

Caroline73_2

OrkneyStar wrote: »

I just hate plastic dummies, but completely respect that others may not, and are able (as adults) to make their own decision. Same as I hate crocs shoes but have friends who don't! I base my overall opinion of someone on a wealth of things!

Don't even get me started on Crocs!!!!!:rotfl:

OrkneyStar

Caroline73 wrote: »

Don't even get me started on Crocs!!!!!:rotfl:

lol! x
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shellsuit

My eldest is 14, and didn't have a dummy. I did try him with one, but he couldn't suck it so it kept popping out lol

Daughter is 12, tried with her too but she was the same, so she never had one.

Youngest son is 17 months and has always had one! He really only needs it for getting to sleep in the night and if he wakes to send him back off, but he does have it at other times too.

It doesn't bother me and I couldn't give a shoot what other people think.

ETA : Oldest sons comforter was a blanket, he would take it everywhere. The babies comforter is his dummy. (Daughter didn't need anything).

SugarSpun

tiamai_d wrote: »

I've heard the term 'lazy parenting' used before with regards to dummies, but I don't understand what is lazy about it?

Apparently if you use one it means you never actually have to comfort your child yourself, you can just plug in the dummy and get back to neglecting your baby in peace.

We mummies who give our children dummies don't have to worry about checking the crying baby to see if it's hungry/wet/tired/sitting on something uncomfortable/frightened/wants a cuddle/has dropped whatever it was playing with/turned around and can't see you any more and thinks you're gone for ever/frustrated/bored/wants something that's just out of reach/all the other things I could totally have time to type if only my baby had one of those sorts of magical dummies and not just the regular one from the chemist.

Greener_Grass

My son has had a dummy from he was 3 days old. He was breastfed till 8 and a half months. He is now almost 20 months and is still firmly attached.

I personally preferred him sucking on a dummy rather than sucking on me constantly for comfort.

galvanizersbaby

OrkneyStar wrote: »

I just hate plastic dummies, but completely respect that others may not, and are able (as adults) to make their own decision. Same as I hate crocs shoes but have friends who don't! I base my overall opinion of someone on a wealth of things!

lol!...I think crocs shoes have got a ch*v reputation now which is a shame as my daughter has a pair which I brought because they were recommended by the consultant as they have antibacterial properties in the soles (my DD has a rare foot condition)
She has worn them this summer at the beach and playing outside and her condition has improved so am pleased

I think it's the same perception with dummies to an extent as illustrated on this thread!

Dontknowanymore

McKneff wrote: »

I agree wholeheartely with this. Older children walking around with their dummies stuck in their mouths is ridiculous.

I also think they are filthy and riddled with germs.

I gag when i see a parent pick a dummy up that a child has dropped, suck it themselves and then stick it in the childs mouth.
The transfer of germs is horrendous. YAK

Sorry I had to laugh when I read this.
Do you not kiss your baby on the mouth?
Does the baby not put almost everything they come into contact in their mouth?
What about when a baby puts their finger in your mouth or something, then puts it in theirs.

Dontknowanymore

My eldest had a dummy for not very long at all, he wouldn't keep it in his mouth though so I just sacked it off after a few weeks.
He had speech delay and had to have speech therapy too.
My youngest 17 months has a dummy, well he has about 14 of them at last count, he loves em, and I let him have his whenever he wants it, but he can take it leave it really, but has to have it at bed time, but I couldn't really care less what other people think.
He's starting nursery on Monday so will only be having it for nap times there, but there is so much to do that I cant see he's going to miss it!
Oh and he talks really well for his age, he constantly calls his brothers name which IMO isnt the easiest of names to pronounce.