How do I support my Hubby through this?

scaredy_cat

if he want's to talk to someone in confidence, the Samaritans will be there for your OH.

babyshoes

I was just about to mention the Samaritans - I used to work for them and know that they can help him deal with the immediate aftermath, especially if he isn't able to talk to someone close to him for some reason, such as not wanting to traumatise you, not wanting you to see him as weak or because it is the middle of the night, for example. There may be lots of other reasons, which he may not be able to recognise beyond just not feeling able to talk to someone close.

If he is still suffering badly after a while though, I would seriously recommend getting counselling - the Samaritans are good for helping with the immediate consequences but are not trained to offer the type of long term support he may find himself requiring.

One thing you can do is accept that he may not want to, or feel that he can talk to you for some reason which he may be unable to articulate, and support him in finding someone he CAN talk to.

Sending virtual hugs to both of you, it is difficult for both of you in different ways. Take care of yourselves and don't be afraid to seek out any help you may need!

Tigsteroonie

Personally I think your OH did a wonderful thing by stepping forward and carrying out CPR, so many people would have panicked and/or walked away in such circumstances. It's a shame it didn't help, but good on him for trying.

savingmummy

Your DH did a remarkable thing and helped where he could which was amazing!!
He should be very proud of himself, many people have no first aid training and would of either been unable to help or just tried their best despite not knowing how to do CPR correctly.

As a nurse i know how this feels and even having it happen on a `sometimes` daily basis it is very hard to deal with. Only way over the horrible feeling is knowing you did all you could at the time and that his life ended because his body had no more to give.
He wouldnt of been saved even if a qualified professional was there at the scene.

Guilt is a horrible thing but in this case guilt should be pushed aside, well done to your DH.

VK-2008

if it were me i would def go to funeral to support your hubby. also the work will prob start some conselling for people tell him its a gd idea to talk things through
your hubby done his best and it takes a gd person to do what he done. hes a gd man!!
he has all our support here
hugs to you both and his colleagues family xxx