A singleton in London....any offers?

Lebowski25

llh189 wrote:

I too would be interested in a little MSE dating forum, see laughing cows last post for my situation, I have tried other interent dating and quite frankly I would have been better saving the £65.

Laughing Cow, every night I think whilst sitting on my sofa with the cat that tomorrow I will get fit, alas tomorrow has happened yet.

I live about an hour on the train to London ( a very slow train but not far up the A1M) but feel a little old and fat to go out on the pull, and everything else costs a fortune - maybe we should put our heads together and come up with something else to help with meeting that someone special or Martin should start a dating forum for us.

Lisa

Hi Lisa

Which internet dating site did you use. I've used a few but no one replies to my messages.
Speaking to a female friend of mine, she says all she gets is old men looking for a good time type messages.

Same with gumtree. I've had a look, but it just seems to be loads of perverts on there.

astonsmummy

llh189 wrote:

Astonsmummy - every time I have looked on gumtree the ads have mainly been for people wanting to meet other people for wild weekends of sex with no strings attached - maybe I am looking in the wrong place!

Ahh see i put an ad in the friend section as i'm moving to london and wanted to make friends before i got there - male or female.
I didnt actually go on there looking for a date but ended up with a fella!

llh189

Lebowski25,

I used matchdotcom, the men seem to ski 10 times a year, climb mountians every other week end, the weeks end when they are not climbing they are riding bikes, running, doing all of this listening to dance music, no one seems to watch ANY tv, and they all want skinny young things after no commitments. I am none of those things, I'm no couch potatoe and a size 18, like to have fun, do normal stuff, I'm looking for a down to earth, tactile man who likes to cozy up on the sofa sometimes with a bottle of wine and a DVD, you would think that I am after the worlds most perfect man. I don't fancy any of my friends husbands but they seem quite content, seem quite normal and do sometimes do the cozy thing with their wives, so those men do exist but good god I have no idea where they are.

match is ok just don't join with high expectations of meeting someone, once my membership runs out I won't be renewing!

HTH

Lisa

Lebowski25

Hi Lisa

I hope you don't mind, but I might change my profile to include some of the things you mentioned.

It seems that everyone on there is busy doing this and that, want this and that. Doesn't seem to be any regular, normal people.

I used match, but my account expired and dating direct 10 days left. After that I'm going back to the normal world of trying to meet someone in everyday life situations.

Miroslav

When I tell people I don't drink and have no intention of doing so, and that drunks really annoy me, it puts people off :rolleyes:

Surely not every woman is a binge drinker? Maybe it's just my town

My first rule, always be honest, because by not being, ultimately it's my time being wasted when I don't turn up with the Brad Pitt face I could say I had, and the woman saying 'no chance' and walking away.

If you do internet dating, try and be original with your ad.....make yourself sound interesting. The wording is important......Single Parent, could be Single Parent of a fantastic boy/girl who keeps me young and energetic..........well, bad example, but you get my drift.

Showmethemoney_5

Me again!!

Just read all of the interesting comments and totally agree with the majority of them!

At the moment I'm suffering from a sore throat so my quest to find a partner has been suspended...but to be honest the search is very timeconsuming. Writing profiles, scanning pictures and just generally emailing men back and sometimes chatting on msn messenger is becoming a full time job!

I'm always honest with my ad...I don't see the point in lying not like some men. And yes I had the dates with men (you know who you are) who have overstretched the truth! I've noticed it is always with short men who pretend they are 6ft 1ins...there's no excuse and the lying for me is a complete turn off. I have joined gumtree and received around 20 replies in one day so you can guess I'm still trawling through them all which is driving me mad.

Maybe I should resort to the old fashioned way of dating and wait for a men to approach me. However, I feel some men nowadays can be intimidated by a self assured woman who has a career, own flat etc so I think I would be waiting for years.

I may consider the charity events where you have to trek to raise money. I wanted to do this anyway but now I've found out that there's plenty of men on these trips has given more of an incentive!

Showmethemoney_5

Where abouts in London are you anyways, I know a few people that work down oxford street so I am regulaly about.


Oh yes I forgot!!

To Gal...

Maybe we should organise a MSE Martin's Moving Saving 'Meet and Great' for those singletons on this site...

Imagine we would be all haggling for the price of a drink to save money!!

:beer: :rotfl:

tomstickland

I'm 33 and have been single for 5 years now. I've had a look at most of the options available, but somehow don't feel motivated enough by what I've found. It all sounds so simple "oh you'll find someone when you're not expecting it, just go out and be yourself" etc.

I'm quite happy living on my own now, in fact I think I want to do this until I'm bored with it, which might take 2-3 years yet.

Showmethemoney_5

tomstickland wrote:

I'm 33 and have been single for 5 years now. I've had a look at most of the options available, but somehow don't feel motivated enough by what I've found. It all sounds so simple "oh you'll find someone when you're not expecting it, just go out and be yourself" etc.

I'm feeling like this at the moment probably because the summer has now ended and the winter is drawing in.

I'm happy being single for the time being....with my two cats (how sad is that!)...

However I will not give up hope...and neither should you!:D

tomstickland

Well, I'm very happy with how things are at the moment. I go out biking every weekend, can spend as much time as I like on the net, work hard, go out socialising most weekends. On the downside I know I'm looking older and sometimes look in the mirror and think "ugly oik". I'm fitter than I've been for years though.

I suppose my point was about the void between what people say and reality. I went out on a few dates last year but none of it came to anything. I've got a few messages on a dating site but I'm not feeling motivated enough to pay the membership fees. I used to go to dance classes but I was the youngest person there. I'm not bitter about any of it, just happy enough with things how they are and not feeling in the right mood for making a big effort.