Help as a disabled parent

ShelBell

Hi guys,

Can I ask if anyone can tell me what help there is out there to parent as effectively as a non-disabled person? My husband is working away mon-fri for the next 6 weeks (and the last 7) and it is a huge struggle. My walking is terrible right now so we can't go out without another adult to help, and there isn't anyone. So we are pretty much stuck indoors. I have contacted adult SS and referred myself in but when I asked about help to parent (which I believe they are supposed to provide?) they got very vague.

So any guidance, help or advice would be hugely appreciated, I am feeling pretty much at rock bottom right now

Broken_hearted

Advice never ever tell SS you can not cope with your kids.

dmg24

You need to request assistance for your child from SS, not for yourself (or in addition to yourself). They can then assess your needs as a disabled person, and the needs of your child. However, as it is not an emergency they may not be able to provide much assistance in the given time frame.

Broken_hearted

dmg24 wrote: »

You need to request assistance for your child from SS, not for yourself (or in addition to yourself). They can then assess your needs as a disabled person, and the needs of your child. However, as it is not an emergency they may not be able to provide much assistance in the given time frame.

or they may put them on the at risk register do nothing to help and make your situation a lot worse. A direct quote from SS to us was you would be able to cope if you did not have the kids. Still its your life your risk.

dmg24

Broken_hearted wrote: »

or they may put them on the at risk register do nothing to help and make your situation a lot worse. A direct quote from SS to us was you would be able to cope if you did not have the kids. Still its your life your risk.

Yes, if they feel the child(ren) are at risk they may put them on the register. However, the OP has written nothing that would imply this is the case.

I appreciate you may have had a bad experience, but the OP has asked for advice on her situation, and scaremongering does not help.

lynzpower

I used to be a social worker and used to commission this sort of work, be it support/ collection to get the children to school, or other support needs.

or as an adult, shopping cleaning bathing help.

I have worked in both childrens and adults social care.

ShelBell

I've worked alongside childrens social services for years, and with looked after children, so am not easily scaremongered (thanks be). I'll speak to my GP when I see her later and ask about contacting CYPD for support, thanks.

Lynz, what kind of support did you used to comission? What support is there? The school run for my 9 year old is manageable, its more for my 9 month old.

lynzpower

ShelBell wrote: »

I've worked alongside childrens social services for years, and with looked after children, so am not easily scaremongered (thanks be). I'll speak to my GP when I see her later and ask about contacting CYPD for support, thanks.

Lynz, what kind of support did you used to comission? What support is there? The school run for my 9 year old is manageable, its more for my 9 month old.

Hi there

We could commission for example, part time childminder?

Do you have access to Homestart? Have you accessed your local sure start as they may be able to take your little one for a few hours a day for example?

ShelBell

I used to work for our local homestart, which puts me off contacting them, as all the staff and most of the volunteers know me! A few hours care for my son would be ideal as it would allow me to rest/attend hospital appointments.

Broken_hearted

Not scaremongering just a lot of reading up on disabled parents asking for help and never seeing their kids again. Even on these boards we have evidence of such a situation. As I said your choice after all babies are so easy to adopt out.

lynzpower

Broken_hearted wrote: »

Not scaremongering just a lot of reading up on disabled parents asking for help and never seeing their kids again. Even on these boards we have evidence of such a situation. As I said your choice after all babies are so easy to adopt out.

I think the fact that the OP has said she has worked alongside LAC children for years might actually give her some significant insight into the LAC and adoption process.

You are scaremongering yet again, it really isnt helpful.