Trying for a Baby Part Six

smash7

vesper wrote: »

As for mothers' day, my friend's 9 year old came up to me on Friday and asked me if I have any children anywhere. I said no, and she gave me the biggest hug and said that she was really sorry that I didn't have anyone to really spoil me and bring me tea and flowers on Mothers' Day as I really deserved it. To tell the truth I was at work and have to go and walk into the beer cellar and have a bit of a cry for a few minutes.

Ah that is so sweet, brought a tear to my eye

QQuaver

tinksy wrote: »

'i may not be celebrating mother's day with a baby, a toddler, a child or a teenager but that makes me no less a mummy than anyone else. For those who have loved and lost angels, some who we held, some who we never met, for those of us still trying we are all mummys in our hearts and one day those dreams will come true'.

phunkles wrote: »

CD1

Any bfps?

Not yet this month:o

phunkles wrote: »

which made me cry because well it would be impossible to get a bfp this cycle and has made me think its complete and utter bowlocks and I wont be paying 6quid out for one ever again

My court case - sentencing took place today but I cant find the sentencing anywhere online Ill pm or facebook the link to the most recent and the 1st newspaper articles if anyone wants to know. But it wasnt nice at all

PM please!:j

bigzippy

keelykat wrote: »

Hello, can I join please?

Welcome keelykat

vesper wrote: »

As for mothers' day, my friend's 9 year old came up to me on Friday and asked me if I have any children anywhere. I said no, and she gave me the biggest hug and said that she was really sorry that I didn't have anyone to really spoil me and bring me tea and flowers on Mothers' Day as I really deserved it. To tell the truth I was at work and have to go and walk into the beer cellar and have a bit of a cry for a few minutes.

Awwww *bottom lip wobbles*

Someone's signed up for FF through my link (thanks ) and someone (else?) has added me as an FF friend but only has a username number (27beb8), not a name...who is it?

I completely forgot to temp til I'd got up, dressed, had a drink, and come downstairs. Figured there was no point trying to haul myself back up to take my temp, esp as me and DH have both got some kind of lurgy that's given us a bit of a temp anyway. Also forgot to do an OPK (CD10) cos I've never done them but I actually did a water sample before cos I was a bit worried I have another kidney infection, so I can dip in that Need to try and remember tomorrow.... when's the optimum time? After you've been up a few hours?

Phunkles, feel free to PM the articles if you want to share. No pressure though

Jen I hope you get something worked out with work and that you both need and get mat leave from them

Can't remember anything/one else specifically I'm afraid. I don't have problem SIL's though, I just have problem sisters! :rotfl:

Greener_Grass

CD100!!!!:eek: Where's my medal?????!!!!

Good news is i got a prescription for provera last night:j so hoping not to reach CD107:cool:

I've also joined slimming world so hoping to lose 3 stone sooner rather than later!!!:T

Hugs to anyone who needs them, I just can't keep away

euronorris

KimmyMarky wrote: »

I actually only shop for myself, that's how bad his eating is. I eat salad's, homemade soups, fish, white meat etc. He eats tinned stuff, ready meals, chips, crisps, sweets and chocolates etc.

He is actually a baker in Asda so buy's he gets his naughty stuff after work. But if I text him for milk or something he moans saying he hates shopping after work so I have to go out of my way to get it myself!!!! lol. I'd better laugh or I'd cry. Aparently he ate his mum's healthy food until he was 14 then went rogue!! :mad:

Sounds like how I used to be with food. I was soo fussy, and tbh, my parents had let it go unchallenged from such an early age it's been really hard for me to break such bad habits. I mean, I never even used to eat chicken!!

Thankfully, now I do, and I tried my first curry at about age 21/22 or so, and fell in love with Korma's! lol. I've been trying new foods and eating tonnes more fruit and veg (and a lot less carp) ever since.

For me, texture plays a big part, not just flavour. And I hate trying new stuff in front of groups of people or in restaurants. There is way too much attention focused on me at that point and I feel so much pressure to like it. How about your OH? Has he explained why he eats so badly/is so fussy/won't eat healthily?

In the end, for me, despite my apprehension, I was sick of eating the same stuff over and over again, so I started trying more and more stuff. Just started with simple things first, like more fruit and veggies, and then tried Chicken (although I'm not a big fan of processed chicken), then started trying different sauces with foods (yes, I was quite fussy about them too), recently started to eat beef (instead of just burgers) and next to try is pork (I like sausages so fingers crossed).

I found it helps to cook a lot of stuff myself. I guess it provides reassurance, as I know exactly what's in there then. Could your OH do the same?

Even if he's not willing to try new stuff, he shouldn't get in a mood with you for being concerned about his health. How would he feel if the tables were turned? Besides, he wants to be a daddy right? Perhaps he should try changing his eating habits for their sake. Firstly, they need a healthy father and secondly, they need a good example set for them. Will he be as happy to dismiss the health concerns when his children start copying him? OH, for instance, wasn't eating many meals with veggies in, but he's started to add more and more and eat at more regular times to get into the habit before any kiddies come along.

Sorry, I'm rambling. Have a talk with him, and see where the problem stems from and take it from there. ((HUGS)) I know it's not easy.

xx

smash7

phunkles - please may I have the articles, as well, if you get a sec? Thanks x
Greener - you definitely deserve a medal!!!!!!!! :eek: If I had one, I'd give it to you! Yay re: getting the provera!!!! :j Roll on CD1!!! xx

keza

phunkles wrote: »

My court case - sentencing took place today but I cant find the sentencing anywhere online Ill pm or facebook the link to the most recent and the 1st newspaper articles if anyone wants to know. But it wasnt nice at all

Ooohh Pm please

Sorry to hear the witch got you Phunkles. Psychic things are always big, grandady, yellowing, y-front pants! hope it happens for u soon hun xx

colli

Morning all!

BFN this morning for me . I know it's not over till the witch shows but I'm pretty sure that's me out.

At least I can keep wearing the super sexy new trousers I "accidentally" bought the other day for at least another month and these big chesticles are all me

Lots of hugs needed this morning, mothers day was tough here too. Seemed lots of people I know chose it to announce their pregnancies on Facebook. Really pleased for everyone but still a bit meh. OH apologised that it wasn't us yet bless his heart.:o

Sorry I don't mention everyone individually, you're all so chatty I can't remember who says what.

Looking forward to the first April BFP :T

KimmyMarky

euronorris wrote: »

Sounds like how I used to be with food. I was soo fussy, and tbh, my parents had let it go unchallenged from such an early age it's been really hard for me to break such bad habits. I mean, I never even used to eat chicken!!

Thankfully, now I do, and I tried my first curry at about age 21/22 or so, and fell in love with Korma's! lol. I've been trying new foods and eating tonnes more fruit and veg (and a lot less carp) ever since.

For me, texture plays a big part, not just flavour. And I hate trying new stuff in front of groups of people or in restaurants. There is way too much attention focused on me at that point and I feel so much pressure to like it. How about your OH? Has he explained why he eats so badly/is so fussy/won't eat healthily?

In the end, for me, despite my apprehension, I was sick of eating the same stuff over and over again, so I started trying more and more stuff. Just started with simple things first, like more fruit and veggies, and then tried Chicken (although I'm not a big fan of processed chicken), then started trying different sauces with foods (yes, I was quite fussy about them too), recently started to eat beef (instead of just burgers) and next to try is pork (I like sausages so fingers crossed).

I found it helps to cook a lot of stuff myself. I guess it provides reassurance, as I know exactly what's in there then. Could your OH do the same?

Even if he's not willing to try new stuff, he shouldn't get in a mood with you for being concerned about his health. How would he feel if the tables were turned? Besides, he wants to be a daddy right? Perhaps he should try changing his eating habits for their sake. Firstly, they need a healthy father and secondly, they need a good example set for them. Will he be as happy to dismiss the health concerns when his children start copying him? OH, for instance, wasn't eating many meals with veggies in, but he's started to add more and more and eat at more regular times to get into the habit before any kiddies come along.

Sorry, I'm rambling. Have a talk with him, and see where the problem stems from and take it from there. ((HUGS)) I know it's not easy.

xx

That's the thing, we've had this conversation for 11 years. The excuse normally is "I tried that when I was 5 and I didn't like it", lol. He doesn't like the look or smell or even know's what's in it that he thinks he doesn't like he won't try it. We don't eat together anyway coz we both work different shifts. Tried explaining about getting healthy and being an example but he's not interested, just gives me a blank stare, lol. He think that because he gets a heart check up every 2 years and has the all clear, that he's in perfect health. I get to the point that I think that he's a grown man and should want to look after himself properly. Even threatened to put him on Supersize Superskinny, lol. He's so stubborn, and I'm a pushover!! :mad:

euronorris

KimmyMarky wrote: »

That's the thing, we've had this conversation for 11 years. The excuse normally is "I tried that when I was 5 and I didn't like it", lol. He doesn't like the look or smell or even know's what's in it that he thinks he doesn't like he won't try it. We don't eat together anyway coz we both work different shifts. Tried explaining about getting healthy and being an example but he's not interested, just gives me a blank stare, lol. He think that because he gets a heart check up every 2 years and has the all clear, that he's in perfect health. I get to the point that I think that he's a grown man and should want to look after himself properly. Even threatened to put him on Supersize Superskinny, lol. He's so stubborn, and I'm a pushover!! :mad:

Oh rubbish, a) so what if he tried at five, people's tastes change and b) speaking from experience, he's probably lying his @ss off! Sorry, but I've been there and not wanted people questioning me so I used to insist I'd tried stuff when I hadn't.

His heart isn't the only part of his body that is effected by unhealthy eating habits. All that sugar could cause diabetes. Your GP will be clued up on all the health risks. WOuld he go with you to the GP's to discuss it? If not, you could tell him it was about TTC instead and spring it on him then. He might listen more to a GP.

Or, try getting his friends involved. I quite often find that my OH won't believe something I tell him, and then his mate/colleague/brother tells him exactly the same thing and suddenly he's taken it on board! :eek: Infuriating! But I guess sometimes people just need to hear certain things, from certain people.

Other than that, there isn't much you can do. It's his life and his body, so he has to want to change himself. I'd keep pushing on the changing for the good of the family aspect. I bet you aren't a pushover, it's just hard in relationships balancing what you know is the right thing to do, without pushing the other person too much. It's a fine balance. ((HUGS))

Ah supersize and superskinny! Love that show! You should totally enter him on the sly! hehehehehe :rotfl:

Edit: You could always use me as an example of someone who WAS like him, but has managed to improve her eating habits and found that a lot of foods she thought she didn't like, she actually does. Change is scary, it might make him feel better to know he isn't the only person who's struggled with this stuff.