Trying for a Baby Part Six

twi1ight

Chin up Phunkles. If I remember, you were a bit down before your visit so hope you had a refreshing break and a good lean on oh. It's not easy living apart but how fortunate you 'forgot' the pressies and have to go back.

Smash we're testing buddies. Yay for Christmas eve.

Pawpurrs, I'll stand well back!

Calamity - well done with the temping. I find it strangely interesting seeing what my temp is doing although find it almost nerve wracking just before af as scared of the drop. Highly strung? Moi? It's a good job I don't do opks or I'd turn into a frenzied mad woman.

ddebski_us

calamityclare wrote: »

JCR - Aww It doesnt matter what anyone else thinks!

Not seen post from Feanor since she was going to test again unless i missed it, hope she ok

Completely agreeing with this - it's no-one elses business!! I got upset this weekend; DH told his mum the name we'd thought about if we had a girl - (he only told her purely for it's comedy value*, but I still told him off) and she said she didn't like it. I got quite upset, but then thought, hey it doesn't matter - it's what me & DH want that matters.

Agree - where is "obsessed with testing " Feanor???

xDx

* the name would have given the baby the initials ARS :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

calamityclare

jcr16 wrote: »

thanks clare. i know ur right. but it doesn't mean it doesn't get to me. i think why should it be a secret, like it something sorded or wrong. and then when i do fall, i'll be lying and saying it an accident. but we feel we have to.

i guess because i'm the type of person who is always genuinely happy for another. i see the good in all. i'm always happy and positive. i find it hard when others are so nasty .

whats wrong with a young married couple so in love and so happy they want to extend their family.

Theres absolutely nothing wrong with wanting a big family if you are in a good position financially and you both want it so dont take any notice (i know its easily said than done x) Perhaps the inlaws meant well and dont know how strongly you feel about having more?

twi1ight

Jcr, maybe it hasn't occurred to them that you might want another. They may just see you're so happy now and don't see that you might want another child. They should be more thoughtful though and not assume. I'm always really careful to tread carefully. Eg if you see a family with only 1 child, they may not have planned it that way. Or a big age gap may be for a reason. I hope your family will be happy when the time comes for you to break the good news.

jcr16

unfortunatly they do twilight.

a few weeks ago we were talking about the snow last yr and i said it was a god send having my 3 wheeler buggy. and we talked about how nice it was to push etc. and i said i love that buggy. but it in loft now as ds is too big for it. and hubby said we will want it for our next, as we both liked it. before i replied, inlaws said oh god, u don't want more. stick to what you have . you won't see us we can't cope with u having more. i giggle , yeah yeah like u do. but i felt like sobbing. we've said for years we want 4 or 5, or more if money allowed. but realistically were stop at 4 , proberly.

i guess it may of been said in jest, but it doesn't stop it from being up setting

forumgrazer

Wonder_Womble wrote: »

Hey PB, don't feel like you can only post if you're helping someone!

Sometimes you can be helping without knowing by just posting how you're feeling etc. Often I'll read a post by someone and I'll think 'that's just how I feel about ttc ... thank God I'm not an oddbod!' :rotfl:

Thanks WW... I find that it definitely helps me to know that there are other people out there going through similar feelings.

PMA is up this morning even though we're still not officially TTC - DH upset me last week when he mumbled something about it not being sexy TTC (halfway through BD practice :rotfl:) - I can understand some of his sentiment but its not as if I'm tying him to the bed with frozen peas on his bits, I'm just fed up with not knowing at all if its going to be easy for us or if we're in for the long haul.

Still we did one unprotected BD over the weekend staying over at my sister's. DH didn't bring in my overnight bag from the car and we got carried away (CD 16 so might have done the trick :whistle:) I felt really guilty afterwards though, as if I'd planned to trick him into it but had a good talk with snuggles and feel better now - I squarely blame catholic upbringing for this entirely unhelpful guilt trip.

I think that our differing feelings about the urgency of TTC aren't very conducive to the matter in hand but for me this thread helps me to vent and rationalise my feelings and then I can discuss them sensibly with DH instead of collapsing in a crying heap anytime the subject is raised (or not). (why is it that men - or at least my man - always want to put things off until tomorrow? it was exactly the same with our engagement) Now (unlike in my twenties) I wish it wasn't something that we had so much apparent control over - fingers crossed for happy accidents now! :rotfl:

Anyway enough for now - I've got an tiny hopeful chance for this 2ww till xmas and will happily wait until DH's more eager for the real thing in the new year.

SBDA
hugs to those that need it and thanks girls for being here to listen to this particularly long post
ps DH's health tests all came back clear last week so at least he's got a clean bill of health there.

Lemon_Tree

QQ yes i've tested a few times, last time was about a week ago, BFN which have been what i've expected. I guess this is just another one of my endlessly long cycles. Oh the joy of having low progesterone & pcos

jcr16

your all right, after having a nice big cuddle with my youngest ( he 2.5 and give fab cuddles).

Sod what anyone thinks. i'm happy , hubbys happy , we have 3 happy children. Anyone who want to be bitter, nasty , horrible etc. up to them.

onwards and upwards. i won't dwell on being sad about it anymore.

PMA.

but when i do get pregnant i still won't tell anyone.

twi1ight

jcr16 wrote: »

Sod what anyone thinks. i'm happy , hubbys happy , we have 3 happy children. Anyone who want to be bitter, nasty , horrible etc. up to them.

onwards and upwards. i won't dwell on being sad about it

:T that's the way to do it. Good for you jcr.

I saw a picture once that said "A ship is safe in harbour, but that's not what ships are for." I'm making it my moto.

delain

jcr16 wrote: »

your all right, after having a nice big cuddle with my youngest ( he 2.5 and give fab cuddles).

Sod what anyone thinks. i'm happy , hubbys happy , we have 3 happy children. Anyone who want to be bitter, nasty , horrible etc. up to them.

onwards and upwards. i won't dwell on being sad about it anymore.

PMA.

but when i do get pregnant i still won't tell anyone.

I'm not TTC and all of my little bundles of joy were surprises, so I hope no one minds me posting this here.

Your older family have no right to plan your family for you. When my nan had a dig at me after they found out I was PG last year, saying what I was doing wasn't right yada yada I'm only thinking about myself and I had enough kids, they told me I shouldn't have more and I just said to her 'Well I never did do as I was told'.

Keep strong, and tell them to get lost

I'll butt out now:o