For those mum's waving someone off to uni for first time

Clive_Woody

pimento wrote: »

I'll be taking my son to university in a couple of weeks too. He's quite self-sufficient and I don't think we'll miss him too much. Besides, we're getting the house back to ourselves for the first time in 18 years!

The suggestion for cakes/sweets/lager is a good one though and I will definitely be doing that. So is the door wedge.

I'll look forward to his dirty washing walking back on it's own come Christmas though.

Dependent on previous training it might be worth offering a few washing instructions to sons off to university and pointing out what the funny symbols on the labels mean.

Chaserofdreams

This is a great thread, my daughter is off to Uni next year and I'm going to remember the chocolate cake idea!!! Thanks x

clumsymoo

January20 wrote: »

My daughter has one year left at school and then she (hopefully) will be off to university. I can't even think about her leaving home! It's just too traumatic, but perhaps it's because it's just the two of us. At the same time, it's quite exciting as it's a new phase in both our lives.

Please post this again next August and I'll try and be the mum who bakes a cake...

ohhh nooo that wil be me in a year too.
DD is hoping to stay at home and do BA in costume design at London College of fashion but deep down she would quite like to go away too. Trying hard not to influence her too much to stay at home (but would make financial sense) as I can see the benifits to her either way.
I have been teaching her to cook for years ( and DS too ) as it is the best skill to give them.
She will be able to bake her own cake!:j

pimento

Clive_Woody wrote: »

Dependent on previous training it might be worth offering a few washing instructions to sons off to university and pointing out what the funny symbols on the labels mean.

Well, he can cook (after a fashion) but his halls are part catered and only have a mini kitchen. With his washing, if he does venture into the on-site laundry, he can do what I do. Separate everything into dark and light and wash on 40 degrees.

I suspect that unless he gets a girlfriend, he won't bother. :rotfl:

louise3965

And me in a year too. My dd passed her A levels with great grades last week but didnt get any offers on her 5 choices to do a social work degree. So she's home and working for another year and hopefully going next year to do a different (but simillar field) course. I will bawl my eles out, I know I will.

ellay864

My DS1 starts uni next month but at the moment I feel fine. He had hoped to go to Warwick - about an hour or so away from us here in Cheshire. As it is he's ended up with his 2nd choice of Manchester, which is our main city. In terms of physically getting stuff there it will be great - we can take the essentials and once he knows how much space he's got etc I can take over anything else he wants...suits him and gives me an excuse to see him again He could even go live with his dad and commute easily but he wants to live in student accommodation...I'm totally in favour of that one! He could actually pop and see his dad easily for tea any day, or get to me in a half hour train ride. But this may sound strange...in a way I wish he'd got to Warwick. I kind of feel if he's close I'll expect to see him more whereas in Warwick I know we'd have that separation. And I do really want him to settle in and get fully immersed in uni life.
Now having said that watch me post back in a few weeks saying how I blubbed my eyes out!!

busiscoming2

top_drawer wrote: »

Its lovely to read how other peoples parents are supportive of them going to uni. It really does make a difference. My parents were a waste of time - they couldnt wait to get back home again as they were going out for a drink (as they did every friday and saturday and sunday evening).

I was teary and a nervous wreck when I left for uni, but it turned out ok because I was finally able to break free from my mother and step-fathers dominating and bullying. Uni was a good half way house for me before becoming entirely independant.

Jen

Awww a ((((big hug)))) for you, your post made me feel a bit teary! I am glad things turned out ok for you and I am sure you are a stronger person for it.

BrokeBrunette

My eldest daughter is off to uni in 3 weeks time. I'm definitely going to cry because I'm really going to miss her - mess, untidyness and all!

However I keep telling myself she is embarking on a massive chapter in her life and I'm determined to be supportive. She knows I'm going to cry when I say goodbye but is ok with it lol. I'm so proud of what she has achieved to gain her place and would never spoil her moment. We've started collecting kitchen stuff, bedding etc and although she is totally funding herself as I can't afford to help her I will do what I can. My family have asked for a 'Uni List' so that they can help her with things she needs to buy and she is very excited about it all. She's the first person in our family to go to university and we are all so very proud of her.

I think she has under-estimated how much she is going to miss home though as we are a very close family (have been The Three Muskateers for the last 10 years). I'm prepared for lots of phone calls home but hope she makes lots of new friends so she doesn't have time to call much.

She's going to be 3.5 hrs car drive away so not too easy to get home but chose this particular uni because of its good reputation for her course. Exciting times and I hope all mums/dads who are waving their children off to uni feel as proud as I do

savingmummy

Lovely posts

It must be heart wrenching to `drop` them off and come away, for those who are going to be doing it soon good luck and hope it is a little easier reading through these posts and seeing that they will be fine.....especially with cake and home goodies!

Amanda65

Eldest DD off mid-September to Birmingham and I am dreading it as I will really miss her, but also know that as a previous poster said that it is the next chapter in her life, and by her being succcessful there I will have done my job well :T

However it is not being helped atm as despite her offer being changed to unconditional in June following her art foundation results, and applying for the accommadationas soon the same day, she still hasn't received details of where she has been allocated (had to put down 6 choices :exclamati) or anything about her course, which is making her a little jittery and not helping with the nerves. Fingers crossed she hears soon.

Love the idea about the cake - think I'll take up a homemade chocolate fudge cake when we take her up - and have no doubt that the skills she has learnt working in a cocktail bar this summer will make her a popular housemate