For those mum's waving someone off to uni for first time

nearlyrich

I drove home from taking DS to uni in tears his very expensive room looked like a complete slum to me and I was sure he would not enjoy it there but he did, one year later DD went a bit further away, she was in halls very nice en suite rooms. We propped her door open with a case of lager and the girl across the corridor came over for a chat as did the two either side, see cake or alcohol it works either way!

They do get settled it's just us mums who relive first day at primary school...hugs to all going through it over the next few weeks...

Fliparoo

My Grandma baked me one of her famous cakes for when I moved into halls, I never asked whether my parents were emotional or not though.

My mum was emotional when I moved to France though, she couldn't come to the airport either as my dad was going to France with me (so I could take more luggage :-D )

This year when I move back to uni, there will be no tears... They'll be on holiday in Dom Rep and I've had to ask my OH to take me... He has no idea yet how much stuff I have!

Jinx

Fliparoo wrote: »

I've had to ask my OH to take me... He has no idea yet how much stuff I have!

Oh I can fit in her stuff......think shes getting tied to the roof tho!!!! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

denton6

exciting times ahead for all the new students. the second of my oldest boys is away to uni in two weeks, i am really gonna miss him so much, he has been my rock since i have split with husband over him cheating on me. this year our house will have gone from being a family home with both parents and three boys to only me and two little ones left. that is going to make it even harder to say goodbye to him. i wish him all the luck in the world but the selfish part of me wishes he wasnt going.

GlasweJen

When I went into halls my mum was fine and sat chatting to my flatmates mum and left us to get on with it. My aunt on the other hand was an emotional wreck, she was crying, insisted on making my bed, helping me unpack etc. Mum had to drag her back to the car to take her home lol.

LittleMrsThrifty

I recommend taking a door wedge to University. Very simple, but most bedroom doors are fire doors so shut automatically and you'll never meet anyone if you're sat behind a closed fire door.

Clive_Woody

My poor mum held it together pretty well when they dropped me at Uni, but as they drove off I could see she was in tears. I had to phone that night to check she was okay I was so worried about her.

I went to Uni before mobile phones (and email) were common place so communication from halls was done by pay phone or writing a letter. Kids have got it so easy these days to keep check on their parents.

Best advice to anybody going away to Uni is do not be shy about talking to complete strangers, most people are in the same boat and know nobody there, so a friendly hello means a lot.

Cake, beer, biscuits, pringles, etc are great ice breakers....and that first night when suddenly they have to provide themeselves with an evening meal for the first time they may be essential.

Clive_Woody

LittleMrsThrifty wrote: »

I recommend taking a door wedge to University. Very simple, but most bedroom doors are fire doors so shut automatically and you'll never meet anyone if you're sat behind a closed fire door.

...or accidently lock yourself out of the room.

pimento

I'll be taking my son to university in a couple of weeks too. He's quite self-sufficient and I don't think we'll miss him too much. Besides, we're getting the house back to ourselves for the first time in 18 years!

The suggestion for cakes/sweets/lager is a good one though and I will definitely be doing that. So is the door wedge.

I'll look forward to his dirty washing walking back on it's own come Christmas though.

top_drawer_2

Its lovely to read how other peoples parents are supportive of them going to uni. It really does make a difference. My parents were a waste of time - they couldnt wait to get back home again as they were going out for a drink (as they did every friday and saturday and sunday evening).

I was teary and a nervous wreck when I left for uni, but it turned out ok because I was finally able to break free from my mother and step-fathers dominating and bullying. Uni was a good half way house for me before becoming entirely independant.

Jen