DD not excited to see me

flippin36

jenhug wrote: »

mine used to cry when I picked her up, because she didn't want to leave! Imagine how that felt! LOL!
I just saw it that she was so well looked after there, she didn't want to leave the fun!

My dd used to do that. She would cry because she didn't want to leave. I used to worry what people who worked there thought - but I guess they have seen it before, its funny what worries us when our kids our little!

heretolearn_2

Be glad that she feels so secure and confident that she'd rather grab another 30 seconds playing! You've done a good job and she is well prepared for school.

Rather that than a kid like me. Clingy is not the word. I refused to go to any playgroups without my mum, and spent the first 6 months of school being physically prised finger by finger off my mum (I had her clothes in a death grip) by two teachers and dragged in, where my teacher would have to hang on to me kicking and screaming while trying to teach the class.

dizzybuff

I drop my DS off every morning , I get a bye mummy and he runs in , when i get there to pick him up hes eating I dont disturb him. He hears the doorbell go and all the kids argue whos mummy it is . What a balanced lilgal you have you should be proud.

tiamai_d

Kids are weird. I've heard every explanation and the only one that actually fits with all 3 of mine is that children are just plain weird.

Some days I get a hi, sometimes I get completely ignored, sometimes I get a hug, sometimes I get told to go away, sometimes I get met by a tantrum. You want to see it if daddy is with me when I pick him up...

alwaysskint96

jenhug wrote: »

mine used to cry when I picked her up, because she didn't want to leave! Imagine how that felt! LOL!
I just saw it that she was so well looked after there, she didn't want to leave the fun!

Yes my son did the same. LOL

Becles

tiamai_d wrote: »

You want to see it if daddy is with me when I pick him up...

Something unexpected came up once, so I arranged for my Dad to collect Josh from playgroup. My Dad wasn't known to them, so they said we had to arrange a password just so they knew they were sending him home with the correct person.

The parents used to wait in the foyer while the children finished off on the mat with some songs, but we could see them through the glass doors. Apparantly when Josh saw my Dad, he was jumping up and down yelling excitidly "look it's my Grandad! My Grandad is out there!" so they had no absolutely no worries that he was being sent home with the wrong person :rotfl:

picnmix

jenhug wrote: »

mine used to cry when I picked her up, because she didn't want to leave! Imagine how that felt! LOL!
I just saw it that she was so well looked after there, she didn't want to leave the fun!

So glad it happens to others as well, I used to get paranoid that the nursery would think there was something odd that DD1 didn't want to go home, used to realy embarass me until one of the nursery assistants told me that her daughter used to cling to the furniture and scream when she used to take her home!!!:rotfl:

mumslave

Cookie_monster wrote: »

My dd (2.5 yrs) started playgroup last week, when I pick her up the other children all see their mums and are really excited to see them and run up to them to give them a cuddle going "mummy". My dd looks over at me then carries on with what she is doing and then we'll go home. Why is she not pleased to see me? Why don't I get a cuddle?

I always imagined that those are the sort of magical moments you get as a mum! I feel a bit rejected as daft as that sounds!:(

Some kids are like that. Once my eldest cried because she didnt want to go home! I was mortified :rotfl: I do believe its simply because they are independant and in my case, home is not nearly so much fun as preschool. I am often busy with the younger ones, housework and cooking...at preschool its fun all the way!

Dont worry about it.

Fiolondon

Tricky one.
My mum tells a story about me hanging on to the railings at nursery because they had good toys in there and I didn't want to go home!
However that was when I was 4.... but under threes are psychologically a different kettle of fish and need a bit more security.

My son is 18 months and he didn't always look up when I went to collect him from his childminder. I have been keeping an eye on things, but now that he is walking better he seems to welcome me more now and show me the toys he was playing with - but I did worry a bit.

Ignoring you might mean she is just fine and is playing with her toys, but it is also a way that under threes can express protest - so you will have to suck it and see. I think it depends on the child and what sort of size of change has been made to their routine. If this is the first time she has been left in a nursery or you are working longer hours it will presumably be a big change for her and it will take a while for her to relax and settle in.

Keep an eye on things, give her lots of ressurance and love and see how it goes. Maybe you could ask the people who work their to give her a bit of extra TLC to make her feel better? If you decide she is not happy or settled in after a few months, maybe change the arrangements to ones that might suit her better - but try not to chop and change unnecessarily.

Basically (ike everything) it is yet another minefield that we parents have to negotiate!
Good Luck

OrkneyStar

She just sounds like a confident happy little girl- don't worry!
My DS started nursery last week- seemed pleased to see me when I turned up (tried to kiss me on the first day) but equally toddles off, waves bye and doesn't seem to mind me not being there! They are all different!