Teenager reluctant to get a job

VK-2008

well plenty people like myself worked full time me - 44 hours and full time course and passed. so i mean why cant others do it
some people dont have a choice and need to
i think if you are in your final year it is harder also at exam time it is hard but you know what DEAL WITH IT!!!! that might sound tough but if one can do it why cant another?

PolishBigSpender

VK-2008 wrote: »

that might sound tough but if one can do it why cant another?

Are you jealous because your parents forced you to work at the age of 13?
Guess what, in some families the kid's job is to study and get education, there is time for being a child at school, there is time for being a working adult.

Wilma33

VK-2008 wrote: »

well plenty people like myself worked full time me - 44 hours and full time course and passed. so i mean why cant others do it
some people dont have a choice and need to
i think if you are in your final year it is harder also at exam time it is hard but you know what DEAL WITH IT!!!! that might sound tough but if one can do it why cant another?

No offense, but it very much depends on your course and your uni. If you do a science at a "good" uni then you spend so many hours in lectures / classes / lab a week (on top of private study) that I don't think it's possible to do paid work for more than a few hours a week in term time if you are taking your degree seriously.

VK-2008

well i took my degree in business very seriously
and i managed absolutley fine
whatever the uni a degree is a degree and at end of day you still need to pass same criteria
thats like saying if you go to a good or bad school

and i was not forced to work at 13 i was advised if i wished to have a good disposable income i should work and i have
whats wrong with working
i was never hard done too.
i worked very hard and can comfortably say at the age of 23 i have my degree, my own house with my husband which we have mortgage on, we own our brand new car outright, we go two holidays a year abroad, have zero debt, we are both in well paid jobs working full time and paid for our own wedding we had this year
all because we worked hard and stuck in
now planning our first child we are in an amazing position and if my parents never told me responsibilies when i was younger i would not be in this great position

Joannag_2

I work with young people, it seems there are so few p/t jobs around anyway; the keen ones will get them first anyway. Unless she has the motivation she will be lucky to get a job up against the highly motivated. Second what other posters have said - if you cave in and sub her she will never get the motivation either.

VK-2008

and by the way i dont need anyone to feel sorry for me i have had an amazing life
so many people work and study
its part and parcel the way of life these days


and i am sooooo not jealous i had to work.

i dont need student loans i was only entitled to travelling expenses at uni so no bursary either

and i dont see why people are sooo quick to be critical of someone wishing to work and study i think you may find that you's are the onea that are jealous that i can multi task and suceed.

i am so proud of my life. i have worked very hard to be in the position i am in just now and i could of tried the taking money off my parents and being a child all my life.
i worked from young at 13 doing paper rounds i done the morning ones for about a year and then at 14 i done the weekly papers. at 15 i worked in the family shop and at 16 i worked in a local retail store along side the family shop.
i was always able to be a child i saw my friends, i read books/magazines/was involved in church activiites/ youth groups/ sports clubs and seeing my friends at pub/clubs/parties nights outs etc
the satisfaction of working and earning what is rightly yours is fantastic the sense of achievment

ellay864

My DS starts uni in September, living close enough that he could live either here or at his dad's but he's choosing to stay in student accommodation. He is intending to look for part time work, and he's doing maths which is quite a lot of study time, but he knows if he doesn't do some work he will end up more overdrawn than he's already likely to. From experience of other students, work at the uni itself, or in the towns where theres a high student population is more flexible in that they can work hours that suit round their studies more. Your DD would have more of a problem if she has fair time commuting and then looks for work near home, but I don't feel you should subsidise. She has to learn to stand on her own and cant see living at home as a way of ducking out of adult responsibilities

ciderwithrosie_2

Completely with VK-2008 on this :T

Sorry but parents do their kids and themselves no favours by not insisting they get some sort of paid work as soon as possible. It's good for their independence, something they can have pride in and looks good to future employers, these days you have to stand out from the crowd to get anywhere.

Kids can't have it all ways, they want mum and dad to support them for being children yet want the social life and possessions of adults so I think the edges of 'school child' and 'working adult' are somewhat blurred. It's got nothing to do with parents being cruel and sending their kids out to work, it's being a responsible parent and teaching them the value and rewards a bit of graft can bring (and not just monetary)

Ours had paper rounds and as soon as they were 16 they were working weekends down at Tesco (son No3 will be doing the same in a few months time) - for working a few hours a week they were bringing in over £300 a month, not to be sniffed at when you're a student. It funded their social life, stuff for college, holidays abroad with their mates etc.

I don't buy into the 'urban myth' that working means you'll be less successful in your studying. I used to get £5 a week grant when I was doing my graphic design HND and that really was a full-time course, £5 didn't even cover equipment, so I chose to work in a pub 3 or 4 nights a week. Sometimes I'd come home from doing that and stay up all night finishing off a piece of work - you do what you have to do. Others that had time on their hands dossed about smoking hash and boozing in the SU, late in the mornings, funnily enough they didn't do as well as me, they had nothing pushing them, no work ethic.

My son's at Uni but is working all summer to pay for his rent on his house share in London, we can't afford to pay it for him. It's not going to do him any harm, his dad and I have to work all summer to pay our bills and now he's an adult so does he. The supermarket he's working for now snapped him up cos he had nearly 3 years experience already whereas some of his peers are only just looking for their first holiday work.

regards CWR

VK-2008

CWR you made the most perfect point

its good experience and perfect for the cv i completely forgot that point "probably because i worked too much and studied at same time - it frazzled my brain" lol

an employer wants someone motivated

Wilma33

VK-2008 wrote: »

whatever the uni a degree is a degree and at end of day you still need to pass same criteria
thats like saying if you go to a good or bad school

Degree courses and/or grades are not standardised in any way at all. You certainly don't need to "pass the same criteria" to get any degree. They are not like A Levels.