Teenager reluctant to get a job

carolinejane_2

alipops1986 wrote: »

As a former student for 4yrs myself, who lived at home and moved out at different stages - i had a job and it did me no harm.

I did teacher training- would leave my parents at 6am, come home at 5 pm and then go to work for 6pm until 10pm. Plus, i worked all wkends.

Don't be fooled by this whole 'it can affect their degree grade' rubbish. It makes you organized, prioritize your work and more importantly, employable later in life if you have a CV showing you juggled a degree and a job.

Uni costs money - fees, books you need to buy and socializing. You can't be expected to provide for that! My parents gave me the odd £20 a mnth and they paid my fees as back then it was £1200 a yr - i was fortunate. However, beyond that i was on my own.

If you have explained your finances to your daughter then hopefully, once she begins uni and realizes she does need more money to socialize etc she'll realize only way is to get a job!

wimp :rotfl: I used to work in clubs till 2 am somedays :rotfl:
I had a few jobs on the go at any one time as my parents would not fund anything other than necessity. It would be rare for any uni course to be absolutely full time as we would understand that term. I am sure there ill be lots of free periods to make sure work doesnt suffer.

maisiescamp

As others have said, I am sure she will be more inclined to get a job once the reality hits home that you will not be funding her new social life. Perhaps suggest a saturday job in a clothes shop she likes (so she would get a staff discount as well) or a hairdressers (If she is into hair?), if she could work somewhere that she was interested in or gave her perks such as a staff discount then it may make her more enthusiastic!

SarahNeedle1872

carolinejane wrote: »

well I know lots of students do not have the choice to sponge off the parents for luxuries and when does that stop? At that age they have plenty of energy and resources to be able to manage both working and studying and socialising

Beencounting could she try to get a job in the student union at her uni and combine a night out with getting paid:)

And if she hasn't got time to work, surely she won't have time to socialise either?! Problem solved

Fang_3

If she's a University student why isn't she getting a loan?

VK-2008

not read all the comments but seriously your dd has too grow up and get a life
dont be a pushover
my dad is in very wellpaid job and mum on benefits due to being ill, now i have worked from age of 13 doing paperrounds and helping in family shop
when i was at uni full time studying my degree at the age of 18
i had a part time job in evening working 4 night tues,wed, thur, fri for 5 hours a night (20hours) in a bank call centre and then i worked fridays 12-6 and 9-6 on a sat and sun as a supervisor in a childs centre(24hours)
so i was working 44 hours a week and doing full time course.
now i still managed time to study, see my friends, see my now husband, go out to pub/clubs/pic/bowling at weekend
now it never harmed me and if anything taught me how to be more responsible and manage my time.
on top of that i had to help take care of my mum, help around the house, chores including dusting, hoovering, shopping, dishes, cooking, really anything needing done looking after pets

now i am managed to have a ball, i had a great work life study balance

i personally think your daughter should read this comment and see how lightly she gets off with things

my parents said i had to work parttime i chose too work extra two jobs.
my parents never gave me an allowance, i didnt have to pay rent when studying and they paid my car insurance so i think i got off quite well
so kids do not need to live off there parents

Imp

chewmylegoff wrote: »

even a student doing a full time degree has time to do a part time job as well. most university courses really aren't that intensive. the only reason anyone gets worse grades when they have a job is they sacrifice academic study time to work rather than socialising time.

I know there are some "Easy" degrees and some "Hard" degrees. Mine was 9:00am - 5:00pm every day except Wednesday when we had the afternoon off. Then there was 20 - 25 hours of course work to do on top of that. If you had a job on top of that, it was reckoned you would drop one grade.

I worked during the summer holidays and also as a TA soldier during term time.

Edited to add, there were occasions when I was doing over 100 hours a week studying, the last two months at university were a solid project and to do a half decent job, it was 7:00am - 9:00pm as that was the times the labs were open.

ali-t

OP, is this your daughter going to college to get more qualifications to get to uni?

if you think it may be a confidence thing while she is at college how about a pub job on a Friday night. The bar staff become everyone's friend so this would be a great way to boost her confidence, earn some money for herself, get a good social life etc. It will also give her experience so if she does go to uni and needs a part time job away from home she has experience of doing something.

PolishBigSpender

Beencounting wrote: »

With travel to and from, I expect her to be out of the house from about 7.30am to 5.30pm. I think there will also be the expectation that the students will have to put in additional hours on top of this.

5 days a week 7:30 to 5:30 IS like a full time job. To be honest, shouldn't it be her priority to do well at the uni? Maybe agree with her she will work over the summer and let her be during the school year? First year at the uni, new school, new subjects - it can be quite hard anyway, she definitely will be expected to prepare stuff at home - it might be just too much for her.
Alternatively, let her start school and see how it goes, how she copes and how tired she is after classes - and than decide!

PolishBigSpender

Imp wrote: »

I know there are some "Easy" degrees and some "Hard" degrees. Mine was 9:00am - 5:00pm every day except Wednesday when we had the afternoon off. Then there was 20 - 25 hours of course work to do on top of that. If you had a job on top of that, it was re-conned you would drop one grade.

I worked during the summer holidays and also as a TA soldier during term time.

Edited to add, there were occasions when I was doing over 100 hours a week studying, the last two months at university were a solid project and to do a half decent job, it was 7:00am - 9:00pm as that was the times the labs were open.

Exactly, I was doing science course at first, than a design course. They were both really hard and some weeks I didn't have time to go out, let alone work! In my final year in the UK I had to work, as the EU scholarship covers maybe 1/3 of the accommodation. It wasn't unusual then to get up in the morning, attend classes, eat lunch, go to work, come back at 10pm and study till morning. But by then I was used to studying, it wasn't my first year and I knew how to organise my work. In my first year I probably wouldn't have managed.

PolishBigSpender

VK-2008 wrote: »

not read all the comments but seriously your dd has too grow up and get a life
dont be a pushover
my dad is in very wellpaid job and mum on benefits due to being ill, now i have worked from age of 13 doing paperrounds and helping in family shop
when i was at uni full time studying my degree at the age of 18
i had a part time job in evening working 4 night tues,wed, thur, fri for 5 hours a night (20hours) in a bank call centre and then i worked fridays 12-6 and 9-6 on a sat and sun as a supervisor in a childs centre(24hours)
so i was working 44 hours a week and doing full time course.
now i still managed time to study, see my friends, see my now husband, go out to pub/clubs/pic/bowling at weekend
now it never harmed me and if anything taught me how to be more responsible and manage my time.
on top of that i had to help take care of my mum, help around the house, chores including dusting, hoovering, shopping, dishes, cooking, really anything needing done looking after pets

now i am managed to have a ball, i had a great work life study balance

i personally think your daughter should read this comment and see how lightly she gets off with things

my parents said i had to work parttime i chose too work extra two jobs.
my parents never gave me an allowance, i didnt have to pay rent when studying and they paid my car insurance so i think i got off quite well
so kids do not need to live off there parents

I am genuinely very, very sorry for you.