Guests wearing white to a wedding

morocha

Don't wear white, even if the bride does not mind, her mum, her nana, her bridemaids, her aunties etc.... will hate you for it.
Wearing white in a wedding where the bride will wear it... it just says, "look at me".

Fuzzy_Duck

talulahbeige wrote: »

At my wedding then yep i will be a bit miffed if people turn up in bright red as most female guests know that i am getting married in red.

You run the risk of sounding like Bridezilla though. The majority of brides still wear white, so it makes sense to be cautious and wear any other colour but white. What if people don't know what colour the bride is wearing? It seems a bit rude to write on your invites 'don't wear red, that's MY colour' to get the message across. You'll be having so much fun you probably won't even notice what your guests are wearing. I'll be wearing red myself, but I figure the fact I'll be wearing a posh wedding frock will separate me from any guests who want to wear red too

I think the key point here is you don't personally know the bride and groom, so you can't be as daring as close relatives or friends might be. It's not worth having the mother of the bride giving you evils all night because she thinks you're trying to upstage her daughter. As another poster said it's similar to wearing red at a funeral. If you're a close relative and the deceased loved red, you're probably wear red anyway, but if you didn't know the deceased very well you'd play it safe and wear black.

Definitely ask the bride, worse she can say is 'no'

belfastgirl23

Fuzzy_Duck wrote: »

You run the risk of sounding like Bridezilla though. The majority of brides still wear white, so it makes sense to be cautious and wear any other colour but white. What if people don't know what colour the bride is wearing? It seems a bit rude to write on your invites 'don't wear red, that's MY colour' to get the message across.

It depends though, if the OP in this case is chinese (for example) red is traditional bridal wear and guests would presumably know to avoid it

puss14

I did actually wear white to a wedding when I was around 15 and I remember saying to my mum beforehand that I wasn't comfortable wearing it, but she asssured me being so young it wouldn't matter. The only reason I wore it was that it was the only formal outfit I had and I couldn't afford to get another. Noone in my family commented negatively but a couple of ladies I didn't know made nasty comments and it very much put a dampener on the day for me. I definitely wouldn't wear white to a wedding as even if the bride doesn't care someone is bound to get antsy about it.

GracieP

Fuzzy_Duck wrote: »

You run the risk of sounding like Bridezilla though. The majority of brides still wear white, so it makes sense to be cautious and wear any other colour but white. What if people don't know what colour the bride is wearing? It seems a bit rude to write on your invites 'don't wear red, that's MY colour' to get the message across.

Not if talulahbeige is from one of the many Asian cultures where red is the traditional bridal colour. Then it would be expected.

ellay864

I'm planning to wear purple for my wedding and will be letting people know....not because I'm scared they'll upstage me but because as this thread has proved there are people who just wouldn't want to be possibly seen as trying to do that. I'd rather they knew...if they want to wear purple that's fine, but if they'd be embarassed at being in the same colour as me I don't want them to feel awkward

Primarni

I wouldn't wear white to a wedding because like the OP I have a vague idea that it might offend some people and that's enough for me to decide not to risk it. I wouldn't even bother putting them on the spot and asking about it.

poet123

It is not worth the risk of causing offence, there are loads of nice dresses in the sales.

courteener

I said to my mum about this and she said even if the bride couldn't care less plenty of the other guests would say rude comments about a woman who came to a wedding in a white dress. She says it's an old fashioned traditional view but there would be grandmas and aunties at the wedding and never mind upsetting the bride, it's the bride and grooms mothers who have probably paid for everything that you really don't want to make angry.

Fuzzy_Duck

belfastgirl23 and GracieP, you make a good point. Like belfastgirl23 said though, if that was the case the guests would hopefully be aware of that. I still think the majority of western brides still wear white, which is why it becomes a bit iffy when you have to inform your guests not to wear a certain colour. Some would be grateful you'd told them, others would find it a bit rude, especially if they didn't have the money to buy a new outfit.