Guests wearing white to a wedding

Bronnie

Tbh I'm really surprised at the strength of feeling suggesting that the bride will be upset and offended and feel that a guest in a white dress is stealing her limelight.

What if the guest is younger / slimmer / prettier than the bride............will that upset/offend the bride too or will the guest be expected to dress dowdy/ put bag on her head / gain a stone before the wedding etc etc not to be considered a b*tch?

While not going out of your way to choose white, if you've already got a suitable dress or have found the one you really like and will get use of of then for a summer wedding, why not, as long as your intentions are not to deliberately dress to upstage.

The glamourous blonde guest in a mini dress with a mile of tanned leg on show and high heels will draw more attention from the bride than someone in a simple white frock! Times have changed so much and the concept of white being "virginal" and therefore reserved for the bride rarely applies today, so what's the fuss?

gwhizz75

I agree with Bronnie but then I don't really go for the whole big white wedding thing. To me, all this talk of "don't upset the bride" and "don't upstage the bride" is just ridiculous and shows that the true purpose of a wedding has been completely forgotten! I wouldn't go to someone's wedding if they were bratty enough to moan about being "upstaged".

People should have weddings to get married, not to be the centre of attention for a day.

missPinky

Catch 22 situation, if you are going to appear in any of the pictures then no.

In our culture the bride wears red and no one else of the immediate family wears red as the bride refuses pictures with this person and they are frowned upon by everyone else attending and it remebered as when it is there big day the bride will then deliberately wear red as payback.

impy78

B44 wrote: »

Hi,

I am attending a wedding early september and have found it hard to search for outfits that I would like to wear. I have found a few dresses, but they are white!

I do not know if the bride is going to wear white, but it is a church wedding. Is wearing a white dress appropraite? Obviously not a big ball gown or anything lol. I'm not close to the bride at all, only met her a few times (attending with bf - his cousin).

Thanks.

Best to ask, at least then you know rather than guessing. I don't think any offence can be taken at your being considerate of the couple's wishes!

Hop you have a lovely time whatever you wear

belfastgirl23

To me it's not about taste or who's right, it's about not doing anything that might upset or give offence to my hosts. When I go to a wedding it's because I want the bride and groom to be happy and to have the best day they can. If there's any risk of causing offence by wearing white then why would I do so? I might very well think it's ok but the day isn't about me, it's about them.

Similarly I wouldn't feel it appropriate to wear a jordan style outfit or to swear loudly in front of elderly relatives or to get drunk and fall into the band.

minnie123

I say no no no I would never wear white to someone elses wedding. Also the replies on here are the majority saying no and a few saying it doesn't matter. This will prob be the opinion of the guests at the wedding so even if the bride turns out to be someone who doesn't mind other people will so just don't do it - there are so many colours to choose from anyway.

Pennylane

As I said before, I've never heard of this before. When I got married I wouldn't have even thought about what guests wear.

We live very close to a church and we see lots of wedding guests arriving and leaving and TBH if I were a bride I would be far more offended by the behaviour of certain guests rather than female guests wearing white.

How many brides wear white nowadays anyway?

We frequently see wedding guests smoking outside the church doors and then grinding their fag ends into the path or the church steps. We've had male guests nipping behind a hedge to relieve themselves and we've had horrendous screaming children being dragged out of the church by women who can't even walk in their sky-high shoes.

Mind you, I bumped into a woman I know earlier today and she was shopping for a black top with some sparkle. She said she was going to a Hen party next week and this is what they'd all been told to wear. Now that's another thing I've never come across before.:eek:

LEJC

If I were you I would check with the bride or her close family....It probably is a personal thing and it really should be her decision....When I married my bridemaids had high street dresses in navy blue the bridezilla in me came out a bit and I did try and warn the female guests what they would be wearing in order that no one turned up in the same dress..I would have been mortified if that had happened but having said that I wouldn't have minded if someone turned up in white.....afterall I doubt you intend to accessorise your outfit with a veil and bouquet!

lolly1981

i got married 2 weeks ago and to be fair i as the bride didnt really pay much attention to what anyone else was wearing (except my now SIL who had a dress that showed wayyyyy to much boobage lol) but on a hwole its only been on the pictures that i noticed what anyone wore. a cousin of min was in white...granted it had black patterns on it lol. and if anyone else was offended by it that was their problem not mine lol

Bronnie

This is similar to the kind of dress I've got and wouldn't have thought twice about wearing to a summer wedding, before reading this thread!!

http://www.asos.com/French-Connection/French-Connection-Cap-Sleeve-Shift-Dress/Prod/pgeproduct.aspx?iid=1079728&utm_source=google_product_search&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=google_product_search



I'm really surprised (and obviously naive, even at my age) that this would offend.