Dont know what to think :(

Fuzzy_Duck

jamespir wrote: »

we all do stupid things when we are drunk ignore the drama queens on here who suggest chucking him out or what ever
perhaps you could sit down and talk to him about it

I disagree. I don't think you can entirely blame being abusive on drink- the anger must have been in you in the first place. I'm sure most of us have said and done some silly things drunk, but that's a vile thing to say that's inexcusable in my opinion.

Has he offered any apology, OP, and has he done this before? I have to say I would struggle to forgive him. No one deserves to be abused, and he is sick for saying such a thing- especially to someone he is supposed to love and support.

Big hugs- I really hope he is disgusted with himself!

Fuzzy_Duck

jamespir wrote: »

i suppose i dont drink so im only going on the stupid behaviour of those around me who do

That's almost certainly because they're idiots sober too.

Clive_Woody

messedup1 wrote: »

My partner after a drink got really angry and threw some stuff back in my face from my past that i had told him about. One of them being the abuse i suffered as a young child. He shouted in front of my children who didnt know about it all and basically said he didnt believe what i had said and i probably wanted it to happen. For a long time we have argued and i just dont know what to think now. How can a person who cares about me say such a terrible thing?

You say you have argued for a long time. Have you said things to him that might have provoked this? Do you argue with him in front of the kids normally?

balletshoes

OP you really need to discuss this with your OH, as soon as possible (and hopefully as calmly as possible). I remember my parents used to shout at each other and argue in front of us (real hammer and tongs stuff) when we were children, and I vowed I'd never do that as a parent myself - its a horrible thing to do and to have to witness when you're little.

If this is a frequent thing, you 2 arguing, especially in front of the children, then you both need to think about whether you want to change things for the better (Relate might be able to help, if you're both willing).

SUESMITH_2

poor you, he sounds awful - no matter how drunk people get certain things should never be said.

he sounds like he has no respect or regard for you or the kids

Mupette

1st post.

sniff sniff.....troll

messedup1

Thanks for everyones repiles muppette i am not a troll . I wont be asking for any more advice if this is how people treat others on this forum but thanks to others who have given me there time

Mark_the_owl

Fang wrote: »

Throw him out.

Well thought out and reasoned advice.

Well done.

LuceB84

Mupette wrote: »

1st post.

sniff sniff.....troll

So just because it's her first post, you automatically assume she's a troll? We were all newbies once.

OP- i'm sorry but it really sounds like he has no respect for you. I think that for him to say it when he was drunk, he must have had them thoughts already in his head? I don't believe that being drunk is an excuse for any kind of behaviour but especially not something as horrible as that x

January20

Mupette wrote: »

1st post.

sniff sniff.....troll

A lot of people "lurk" on these boards before either getting the courage to post or having a need to post. A first post doesn't necessarily mean a troll.

I actually prefer the people who post because they have something to say or ask to those who post all kind of rubbish just to pass the time - as happens far too often resulting in serious posters getting stupid and unhelpful replies