How do you heal a relationship?

Pee

Just to say that if I wasn't sleeping properly, I would be extremely techy and bad tempered and horrid to live with, so don't blame yourselves too much for this.

VK-2008

okay i would say stick at it! you love each other enough to have 2 wonderful children.
things are bound to be hard
a new baby puts a strain on any relationship
have you spoke to your midwife about the baby blues, several of my friends have had it and found talking to there midwife great
like it was a relief
why not try get a babysitter, if even only for a few hours and just get a meal
dont try too hard to react first date but just take some time the two of you and chat.
you are both probably feeling the same way
but try and work it out
think about why you love each other, what it is you like about each other. then see what it is you both have changed to feel apart at the moment and work towards resolving that

BIG hugs to you both! but take it slowly what is the rush.

meritaten

oh dear - hear a similar story from DIL. I am hoping that the holiday they are now having will help matters.
I will say to you what I say to her. He is doing a job he hates, getting very little sleep and is probably suffering from depression.
first thing is to get sorted what is in your power to sort!
depression - one or both of you may have some form of it! not a big fan of anti-depressants but they are useful where there IS clinical depression.
the sleep situation - can you make sure that at LEAST ONE of you gets a nights sleep? that means taking turns with the kids. or maybe you can do weekdays and HE does weekends? whatever works for you.
the job he hates............why is he doing a job he hates?????????? of course he is going to take it out on you! who else? his manager? his colleagues? can he change jobs? retrain?

I know you are probably frazzled yourself when he comes home from work, but does he walk into chaos? do you take the time to ask how his day is? or make him a drink? I know these days it can be seen as a bit stepford wife, but just these little things can change a mans mood. and they may then return the compliment and take some pressure off you! your oh may well LIKE to bath the kids and put them to bed while you cook supper! just some suggestions hun, only you can decide which if any would work!