MSE Pregnancy Club 19

Gems81

Still pregnant this morning - twinges stopped about midnight last night. But after a really painful few days where it hurts to stand... i have woken up with no pelvis pain??? not sure what thats all about but going to try and do some walking and bouncing and see how it goes.

Sorry to hear you are having such a hard time Lauren ((((hugs))))

gratefulforhelp_2

Could it be baby's head engaged, gems?

ASHeta

Congrats to JMF.

Sympathies to all that need them.

Has anyone else's emotions gone the opposite way? I'm notorious in my family for bursting into tears at the drop of a hat, temper tantrums and panicking just for fun(!). Since I've been pregnant, I have yet to cry once at the television (okay, that's a lie- once, but it was the Buffy season 7 finale... So crying is mandatory), have become super efficient and practical and cool as a cucumber ("Calm? Are you sure it's still her?" Someone asked my mother the other day).

Last night (another crappy day story coming up) my dad phoned me while I was in Tesco's to let me know my grandfather's wife had died. I shed about three tears on the way home, then OH told me to get over it, she was old (insensitive, yes, but explanation in a minute), and I did. In fact the most disasterous part of the night was that the news made me forget to buy eggs and I decided to go ahead and try to make toad in the hole without them- which led to a kind of 'sausages in thick cakey batter'.

I am cut up, but I'm not upset, if that makes sense. In fact I feel guilty for not feeling more upset. I know that were I not pregnant I'd have been barely functioning last night and be a mess today- especially because all the people in the office around me are Geordie and the accent always touches me because it reminds me of my Dad's family.

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And I'm mad at OH for the insensitivity- not for me so much as for my sister (who is in a state and is normally the calm one) and my parents, who are visiting tonight to 'keep busy' for the weekend before they go Up North for funeral etc. OH is from a culture where stepfamilies don't exist and where people don't get remarried, and he can't understand how people can be so upset when she wasn't genetically my grandmother. His other point is that she'd been declining for a long time and they'd stopped actively treating her last week so we all knew it was imminent. I get why he feels the way he does- but my grandmother died when I was two, before my sister was born, and my grandfather remarried when I was about seven or eight- she not only saved my grandfather from himself (and whiskey), but has loved us and been a part of the family for nearly twenty years. And no matter how expected something is, there's no way to prepare yourself for when the news actually comes.
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twoflower169 wrote: »

I have neglected to find a new osteopath in Norfolk, mine is still in Kent.

Is Norwich any good for you? I can pass on the details of the one my family use there.

Ash

gratefulforhelp_2

lauren_1 wrote: »

He asked me if its over, i said give me a reason to stay, show me im worth it (here's me hoping for stones at the window at 2am, desperate declarations of love, spamming my facebook with nice things or failing that even a soppy letter, text or something! He just said ok....il get my stuff tomorrow when your out

I've been crying so much i have skin flaking off my eyelids and my ribs hurt from sobbing so much.

Hugs, honey. Have a rest, don't say anything, no rows no shouting. If its not really over, you'll regret saying nasty things, and if it is really over you can always say them later!!

On_The_Edge wrote: »

Unfortunatly not

Moan alert:
Had what my loving DH calls a hissy fit earlier. Uncontrolable sobbing/crying. Just had a moment where absolutly everything got on top of me and I couldn't handle it any more. Then mid cry I realised how completely rubbish I am at everything and how the hell am I going to be somones mother. Am totally annoyed at DH for being so incesitive and negative. All I need is a hug and he thinks Im being moody and uncontrolable and totaly in the wrong.
Think I might go eat that massive bar of chocolate now.
Thanks for listening, I feel a tiny bit better

He should try being pregnant.

Gems its not a hindwater break is it? Waters trickling from behind the baby? Sounds like babe is on the way?

Metranil_Vavin

Morning and sorry to hear that some of the menfolk are being less than supportive.

Lauren how long have you been with this guy? Has he always been a bit unromantic or has it only happened recently?

Honestly hon please try and look after yourself. It's not good for baby for mum to be in so much distress.

If he really is as cold and uncaring as he sounds, then maybe it's for the best you find out? Not a great time for a bust up though I know. Hugs hon.

I've got my 25 week MW check today, hoping to get the magic MAT B1 form so I can apply for my HIP grant and also I have my maternity 'meeting' booked with HR on Monday afternoon. Planning on the 10th December being my last day. I have 9 days of holiday left this year too, so I will take those initially before official Mat Leave begins, and the money starts to slide

dustystar02

Morning ladies. I'm currently sat in the docs waiting room waiting to go in about this stupid sting on my throat when I swallow. Think I've been left with an infection since the cold last week. Feels like an absess on my tonsils....eek. Got chronic ear ache too. Will ask him bout this sharp pain I keep getting across lower abdomen too. Is it the doc who gives you the form for free dental too? Will ask about that too. Shouldve written a list.

Hugs ash. Even if she wasn't blood she was a part of your life all these years so it's understandable your upset.


Exciting gems. Sounds like things are moving in the right direction.

Correct vibes being sent to all xx

tinkwings

Morning Lady Bumps

Lauren sorry to read about your man. I know what you are going through my ex left the day the tests got two pink lines. I went to hell & back but soon realised that the most important thing was me & my baby. I can recommend the hospital counsellors they were fantastic and helped me get to a place where I was ready to have my baby.

MV 25 weeks fab news :j

Congrats & welcome to all the new arrivals we are having a HUGE baby boom

Labour vibes & hugs to all in need.

I am off for more Physio today & then to see the MW 31w+1 can't quite believe it :eek:

xoxo

Gems81

gratefulforhelp wrote: »

Could it be baby's head engaged, gems?

Im hoping it could be:) but also dont want to get my hopes up as not having any twinges and bubs is very quiet this morning. Im pretty sure it wasnt waters or hind waters breaking and just watery discharge (sorry for TMI) as im just a bit damp- no gushes!! but will keep an eye on it today and phone the midwife if im still worried later.

Metranil_Vavin

Tinks I'm actually 25+4 today so nearly at 26 weeks!:D

I'm really excited about baby now. We are going to Mothercare tomorrow morning to order our Bugaboo, car seat, cot etc..I am SO excited!!:j

I could feel him kicking a bit this morning too, which is nice to be finally feeling!

Good luck with the physio..not too much longer for you..isn't it all so exciting!!!

tinkwings

Gems81 wrote: »

Im hoping it could be:) but also dont want to get my hopes up as not having any twinges and bubs is very quiet this morning. Im pretty sure it wasnt waters or hind waters breaking and just watery discharge (sorry for TMI) as im just a bit damp- no gushes!! but will keep an eye on it today and phone the midwife if im still worried later.

Fingers Crossed for you Gems. I have read that the pelvis for some does get easier once the head is engaged I am hoping that it will work out that way for me too