stay away

niccy

i have been married 22 years and am away from home at the moment . My wife has just told me she does not want me back . The house is in her name .We have five children.I think the main reason is that i have stifled her and now she wants to go her own way. I have not been to a solicitor yet.Can she just throw me out like this. I feel very down at the moment.

tired_mum

Hi didnt want to read n run I dont have any personal advice to offer but just wanted to send you a hug

sueeve

Hasn something happened recently which might have contributed to this? Or has it been festering for a long time? When did you last see her or the children? Are you away for work or because there has been some falling out? She's not going to go far with 5 children in tow! I don't know anything abput legalities, someone else will have to comment on that, but I'm sure that you will have to explain more fully to get considered answers.

justjohn

See a solicitor odds are stacked in wifes favour. You will not walk away smelling of roses unless she lets you.

Ask her what she intends too do about the finance's.

RAS

Can I ask how it is that the house is in her name?

Pixiechic

Hi niccy,

Could you please elaborate on your reasoning as to why your wife has told you that she doesn't want you back?

What has your relationship been like recently? Why have you been away?

It is very difficult to understand the situation with so little information provided.

CapJ

Even though the house is in her name you have marital rights. Don't stay away. Tell her that you will live at the house until this is sorted. If it is going to divorce fine - but then you will each have time to arrange accomodation.

paddy's_mum

What does that seemingly mild word "stifle" involve?

Mrs_justjohn

As a woman I don't think what she is doing is 'right' unless there is more to this story that we are not getting to hear. It may not be 'right' but it doesn't mean that she can't pursue it or that it is in any way illegal.

I can only suggest getting legal advice - Many solicitors will give 30 mins free - try and find a reputable one - Do you have any male friends that have used a solicitor for similar problems - they may be able to recommend one?

Although I am not in anyway legally trained - common sense tells me that if you have contributed to the marital home then you have a 'stake' in it regardless of who's name is on the title, but I may be wrong. Are your 5 kids young? Would she be able to play the "I need to keep a roof over my kids head card"?

So many questions and really only a solicitor could give you definitive advice......Make sure you go armed with all the facts and financial detials...outstanding mortgage, endowments, savings, debts, pensions...etc.etc

flutterby_lil

Hi
Stifled her in what way?!?

lauren_1

Stifle to a man generally means controlling to a woman.