help me turn it all around

greenhill

0845 769 7555 (local rate)

AA.......24 hours a day, everyday.............the person answering the phone will be a recovering alcoholic (not saying that you're one), so they will know what it's like to really crave a drink. Ring them now. That's why they're there.

Tina x

kizzykizzywizzy

I find porridge is really good for making you feel full, with either skimmed milk or water of half & half. I sprinkle some raisins on it as obviously i don't put sugar on, but you can use apricots etc.
I have cut down on the booze too, not that I had loads, but it's the money & the calories, I haven't been too worried about it, to be honest, but I did find that cutting it out altogether is easier than just having one as you always want more & if I am drinking, I like to have a few nibbles with it.
Also I used to put my apple & blackcurrant squash in a wine glass lol, it seemed so much nicer.
Like others have said batch cook as well to save the money on the takeaways & when i'm tight for money I do a ready steady cook with what I have in the cupboards/freezer.
Try & walk as much as you can & leave the car at home.
Instead of treating yourself to a drink - paint your nails or put a face mask on, it's more difficult to eat/drink with wet nails or gunk all over your face.
I think it's a great idea involving the kids too;)
Also exercise is great for depression, it may not feel like it at 1st, but it will give you a buzz, which if you are like me I need, whether it be from shopping, drinking, eating etc
Best thing is, you've realised you need to do something & you are making a start - good luck to you x

thegoodlifewannabe

didnt have a drink last night wanted one but didnt drank alot of water and tea though and sat and watched policewomen of maricopa county they are so good could do with them on my road no messing about
had porridge for breakfast this morn its something i have in but dont usually have breakfast which i am trying to have now cause im always starving in the morning its like ive completely forgot how to sort myself out my youngest goes to nursery this sept and im going to be totally lost ive thrown myself into being a mum and forgot how to be me
am i just crazy lol

bestpud

You're not crazy - just stuck in a vicious cycle.

Well done for not drinking last night! :j

My thoughts are you are tackling an awful lot in one go.

Cutting out the alcohol and eating three sensible meals a day is enough to be going on with and if it seems overwhelming, I would concentrate on the alcohol first.

How do you access the take-aways at night? Do you have them delivered or does one of you go get them?

I wonder if you could put barriers in place for when you both feel your resolve slipping at the same time? Put the cards/car keys up high for example?

Even a note on the door/phone/laptop to remind you why you are doing this?

Also, could the two of you play a game or something, to occupy you? Maybe get some board games, or a pack of cards?

Or, if you get a film in, make an event of it with some diet coke/popcorn?

Lastly, could you get a babysitter on a regular basis and go out together? Not somewhere you will drink to excess though!

gratefulforhelp_2

Hi honey. You're not alone, and the weight-depression-alcohol are all linked together. Tackle one and the others will improve.

I'm a believer in the AA's theory about the first drink being the problem. If you don't have the first drink, your other problems will become more manageable.

Hugs, and come on over to flylady, we don't bite!

VK-2008

first of all in my opinion if you do everything at once you are not going to succeed, unless you are of course superwoman.

what you need to do is make a list of everything and prioritise.
take things one step at a time, as they say walk before you run. if you break things into manageable sections its easier to complete them, and you will see satisfaction on things being done bit by bit. it will take time but take it slowly

as for your weight and alcohol, speak to a doctor, family gp, you will be surprised at the help they can offer and they want to help. i told my doc i wanted to lose weight they gave me a 3 months free gym membership with local council, i am sure they can do similar offers if you ask

as for debt, speak to some of the MSE in here who can try and point you in the right direction

we are all here to support you

thegoodlifewannabe

thank you everyone
i have decided to put my health first priority after reading all the helpfull posts from everyone. yes we are in debt but we are slowly paying it of and if we cut out the alcohol and takeaways we will have quite a bit left over

we get takeaway delivered and order over internet i even went on the wbsite last night and then stopped myself :j

it was hard to resist though and i know the food is disgusting really but i think im addicted to that to

have been really good today and had

brek porridge
dinner tuna sandwich
tea beef stew

one of my other weak points is when my hubby is working late he sometimes gets in at two in the morning he has always worked shifts due to his jobs he has had but we were burgled in feb and i have been scared in the house since

and the other night the window alarms went off in the conservatory as i was going to turn them off they turned of and i thought oh god someone has got in and turned it off :eek: ive never been so scaredthen there were two other massive bangs on the glass and i rang the police who came had a look round and said there is no one there and looked at me like i was a nutter this was at 12 at night and when my husband works late i know this sounds awful but i kind of want to drink:(

bestpud

I hope you had another good night.

I'm sure the POs didn't think you were a nutter - better to be safe than sorry.

I do know what you mean about being frightened at nights but, you know, a lot of our fear is generated in our heads.

Sometimes we just have to force ourselves to step back and stop imagining the worst.

Did you get any emotional support after the burglary?

thegoodlifewannabe

no the policeman what was here after we were burgled was great but after he went there was it nothing other than the police occasioanally ringing with updates of what was happening

bestpud

I think you'd benefit from some counselling tbh.

You have a lot of unresolved issues going on and the alcohol etc is really a symptom of that imo.

Mind do affordable counselling (based on your ability to pay) - give them a call and see if you can set something up.