Accommodation woes!

bestpud

Your best bet is to stay with your parents until you have some money behind you for the deposit etc.

You've had a good four months away and in another few months you should have saved enough to live where you choose.

bestpud

dmg24 wrote: »

I am sure you can visit them. Real friends stay remain friends wherever they are.

Or communicate online.

I agree - if the friends are worth keeping then you will find a way. If you/they can't stick a few months in a different location then maybe they aren't the friends you thought they were?

prowler

AnxiousMum wrote: »

But now you are on here looking for assistance, and stating things such as single mum's opening their legs get everything for free whereas you don't........not that all single mum are that way inclined whatsoever (some men are just pure idiots and you don't realise till after a kid or two you know!) yet you are wanting exactly the same as them! Pot....Kettle....Black.....

No, I do appreciate that there are many women who genuinely need accommodation but I don't think it is unfair to say that there are many who take full advantage of the system (which is definetly balanced in their favour). I can think of a few families in my very village where there is a bit of this going on! In fact, there are whole families not just single mums who are on the take! Not all but some.

But because I am single I get no help, I don't want much - I work hard and have yet to go on Jobseekers, I could never do that, I need to be kept busy so I will work even if it is for very little rather than sit around. But it would be nice to think that after all the tax that I have paid versus some of these low-lifes, a bit of help is forth-coming.

AnxiousMum

In all honesty, the 'friends' issue I would expect from my 10 yr old........

prowler

bestpud wrote: »

Your best bet is to stay with your parents until you have some money behind you for the deposit etc.

You've had a good four months away and in another few months you should have saved enough to live where you choose.

That would be good and I am working towards that, but as mentioned above there is no social housing as this is given over to various people including the work shy. Renting privately looks prohibitive due to the lack of affordable housing or alternatively an understanding landlord!

prowler

AnxiousMum wrote: »

In all honesty, the 'friends' issue I would expect from my 10 yr old........

Well, my friends mean a lot to me. I have had a difficult time of things over the last 10 years with unwell close family members and various other things and so I find it quite hard when I am not able to see them. Traveling was different in a way as I was with a mate for some of it and stayed with friends and family for other bits.

AnxiousMum

prowler wrote: »

No, I do appreciate that there are many women who genuinely need accommodation but I don't think it is unfair to say that there are many who take full advantage of the system (which is definetly balanced in their favour). I can think of a few families in my very village where there is a bit of this going on! In fact, there are whole families not just single mums who are on the take! Not all but some.

But because I am single I get no help, I don't want much - I work hard and have yet to go on Jobseekers, I could never do that, I need to be kept busy so I will work even if it is for very little rather than sit around. But it would be nice to think that after all the tax that I have paid versus some of these low-lifes, a bit of help is forth-coming.

Prowler! Not all of those on benefits are 'low life' either! Many people have a disability that might not be obvious to you, but still can exist. If you know of a scrounger who is committing benefit fraud - report them! If you don't know if they are committing fraud or not, then there's probably a whole lot more you don't know about them. You seem to have a very narrow view on anybody in receipt of benefits, yet you are in the very position yourself of looking for them so that you can stay in the same area as your friends!

Sometimes a low opinion of others, and finding fault in others is often a sign of trying to cover your own faults. Instead of being negative and finding blame with everybody else that you can't get 'what you want' (ie not what you NEED as you have parents who will give you a home), try finding something positive. You'll feel so much better about yourself and your surroundings if you can look at things positively.

Duncombe

AnxiousMum wrote: »

In all honesty, the 'friends' issue I would expect from my 10 yr old........

I was going to say. Do your friends not work and have families of their own? Not uncommon if they are all a similar age to you..

Surely their life wouldn't and/or doesn't revolve around you as much as yours seems to around them?

prowler

Duncombe wrote: »

I was going to say. Do your friends not work and have families of their own? Not uncommon if they are all a similar age to you..

Surely their life wouldn't and/or doesn't revolve around you as much as yours seems to around them?

A real mixture of friends really, but we all manage to spend weekends doing great stuff together. But I won't be around to enjoy it that often anymore.

AnxiousMum

Well then, maybe one of your friends will rent a room to you?